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Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girlsby Rachel Simmons
Synopses & Reviews
Women's reliance on intimate bonds with their female friends is legendary, propelling some of most popular contemporary books and television series from Bridget Jones's Diary to Sex and the City. Alas, as many women learn the hard way, the process of growing up is riddled with social landmines — far too many of which are maliciously planted by our own girlfriends. With a nod to Mary Pipher's groundbreaking work in Reviving Ophelia (which examined depression, anorexia, and other painful and harmful sideeffects of that girls experience at puberty), Odd Girl Out looks at the little discussed problem of aggression by girls toward girls. Unlike the more overt and physical bullying that boys can suffer, many adolescent girls are victim to a different kind of bullying that can be far more insidious, covert, and psychologically brutal. Rachel Simmons offers understanding and advice to mothers, teachers, and girls themselves. This is a wonderful and much needed book. Georgie, Powells.com
When boys act out, get into fights, or become physically aggressive, we can't avoid noticing their bad behavior. But it is easy to miss the subtle signs of aggression in girls--the dirty looks, the taunting notes, or the exclusion from the group-that send girls home crying.
In Odd Girl Out, Rachel Simmons focuses on these interactions and provides language for the indirect aggression that runs through the lives and friendships of girls. These exchanges take place within intimate circles--the importance of friends and the fear of losing them is key. Without the cultural consent to express their anger or to resolve their conflicts, girls express their aggression in covert but damaging ways. Every generation of women can tell stories of being bullied, but Odd Girl Out explores and explains these experiences for the first time.
Journalist Rachel Simmons sheds light on destructive patterns that need our attention. With advice for girls, parents, teachers, and even school administrators, Odd Girl Out is a groundbreaking work that every woman will agree is long overdue.
"Bolstered with numerous revealing anecdotes and quotes, Odd Girl Out does an excellent job of articulating to adults exactly the pain and subtle warfare that many teen girls experience, and Simmons offers thoughtful motivations for both bullies and the parents who are reluctant to rein them in. She also offers admirable, groundbreaking insight into an all-too-common issue and will be invaluable to any adult struggling to help a girl get through her teens." Gillian Engberg, Booklist
"This is the book we have been waiting for. It's a wakeup call to all of us who care deeply about girls' development. Simmons has given voice to the girls who struggle every day with friendships. She has uncovered a hidden world of aggression that unfolds behind adults' backs." Susan Wellman, president of the Ophelia Project
"There has not been so much interest in young females since psychologist Mary Pipher chronicled anorexics and suicide victims in her 1994 bestseller, Reviving Ophelia."The Washington Post
"Provocative...Cathartic to any teen or parent trying to find company...it will sound depressingly familiar to any girl with a pulse."Detroit Free Press
Book News Annotation:
Boys use direct physical and verbal behavior to bully others, says Simmons, but society denies those weapons to girls, so they deploy backbiting, exclusion, rumors, name-calling, and manipulate psychological pain on target victims. Drawing on her training in political science and women's studies, she explores epidemic, distinctive, and destructive aggression of girls.
Annotation c. Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
Dirty looks and taunting notes are just a few examples of girl bullying that girls and women have long suffered through silently and painfully. With this book Rachel Simmons elevated the nation's consciousness and has shown millions of girls, parents, counselors, and teachers how to deal with this devastating problem. Poised to reach a wider audience in paperback, including the teenagers who are its subject, Odd Girl Out puts the spotlight on this issue, using real-life examples from both the perspective of the victim and of the bully.
REVISED AND UPDATED
WITH NEW MATERIAL ON CYBERBULLYING AND
HELPING GIRLS HANDLE THE DANGERS OF LIFE ONLINE
When Odd Girl Out was first published, it became an instant bestseller and ignited a long-overdue conversation about the hidden culture of female bullying. Today the dirty looks, taunting notes, and social exclusion that plague girls friendships have gained new momentum in cyberspace.
In this updated edition, educator and bullying expert Rachel Simmons gives girls, parents, and educators proven and innovative strategies for navigating social dynamics in person and online, as well as brand new classroom initiatives and step-by-step parental suggestions for dealing with conventional bullying. With up-to-the-minute research and real-life stories, Odd Girl Out continues to be the definitive resource on the most pressing social issues facing girls today.
READING GROUP GUIDE AND TEACHERS GUIDE available at www.marinnerreadersguides.com
About the Author
Rachel Simmons graduated from Vassar College, where she studied political science and women's studies. A Rhodes Scholar, she began her research for this book while at Oxford. She has worked in politics in Washington, D.C., and New York City and lives in Brooklyn.
Table of Contents
CHAPTER One The Hidden Culture Of Aggression In Girls 15
CHAPTER Two Intimate Enemies 39
CHAPTER Three The Truth Hurts 67
CHAPTER Four She's All That 103
CHAPTER Five The Bully In The Mirror 129
CHAPTER Six Popular 155
CHAPTER Seven Resistance 177
CHAPTER Eight Parents And Teachers 203
CHAPTER Nine The Road Ahead 231
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