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Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth about Parenting and Happiness

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If parenting is making Americans unhappy, if its impossible to “have it all,” if people dont have the economic, social, or political structures needed to support child rearing, then why do it? And why are anxious new parents flocking to every Tiger Mother and Bébé-raiser for advice on how to raise kids?

 

In Why Have Kids?, Valenti explores these controversial questions through on-the-ground reporting, startling new research, and her own unique experiences as a mom. She moves beyond the black and white “mommy wars” over natural parenting, discipline, and work-life balance to explore a more nuanced reality: one filled with ambivalence, joy, guilt, and exhaustion. 

 

Would-be parents must navigate the decision to have children amidst a daunting combination of cultural expectations and hard facts. And new parents find themselves struggling to reconcile their elation with the often exhausting, confusing, and expensive business of child care. When researchers for a 2010 Pew study asked parents why they decided to have their first child, nearly 90 percent answered, for “the joy of having children.” Yet nearly every study in the last ten years shows a marked decline in the life satisfaction of those with kids.  Valenti explores this disconnect between parents hopes and the day-to-day reality of raising children—revealing all the ways mothers and fathers are quietly struggling. A must-read for parents as well as those considering starting a family, Why Have Kids? is an explosive addition to the conversation about modern parenthood.

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"When her daughter was born at 28 weeks, leaving mother and child dangerously ill, Valenti felt enormous disappointment and a sense of failure. Not only had she missed a 'good birth' resulting in a full-term healthy baby and happy family, her expectations surrounding the experience, the elation and bonding she had been societally conditioned to encounter, were unfulfilled. In this, her fourth book — a politicized, anti-What to Expect When You're Expecting — the high-profile, third-wave feminist takes an intense and scathing look at charged contemporary parenting issues, moving beyond 'mommy wars' and breast-is-best militants to show just how much the current American ideal of parenting fails to match reality. With post-partum panic past, and her child thriving, Valenti probes accepted practices and questions the pervasive philosophy of modern mothering, with its many fallacies and assumptions including: alarming pre-conception and pregnancy advisories; whether women are naturally better parents; and if mothering is the hardest job in the world. Valenti pointedly reveals how trading a career for staying at home with the kids, the myth of the 'perfect mother,' and the death of the nuclear family damaged more women than society will acknowledge. Occasionally, a reader may be unsure whether Valenti is airing her own grievances or those of mommy-bloggers and the media; but that aside, this timely volume, which should generate much controversy, is a call for much-needed change and may unite a new generation of moms. (Sept.)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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From the most high-profile young feminist in America, a provocative and brutally honest exploration of modern parenthood.

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A provocative and intimate exploration of modern parenthood by “a gutsy young third wave feminist”—The New York Times

If parenting is making Americans unhappy, if its impossible to “have it all,” if people dont have the economic, social, or political structures needed to support parenting (fewer than 5% of American families employ a nanny), then why do it? And why are anxious new parents flocking to every Tiger Mother and Bébé-raiser for advice on how to raise kids?

In Why Have Kids?, Valenti explores these controversial questions through on-the-ground reporting, startling new research, and her own unique experiences as a mom. She moves beyond the black and white “mommy wars” over natural parenting, discipline, and work-life balance to explore a more nuanced reality: one filled with ambivalence, joy, guilt, and exhaustion. A must-read for parents as well as those considering starting a family, Why Have Kids? is an explosive addition to the conversation about modern parenthood.

Synopsis:

If parenting is making Americans unhappy, if it's impossible to "have it all," if people don't have the economic, social, or political structures needed to support parenting, then why do it? In Why Have Kids?, Jessica Valenti asks this the controversial—but necessary—question. Through on-the-ground reporting, new scientific studies, and her own burgeoning motherhood, Valenti offers an in-depth exposé into the world of having (and not having) children. She cites shocking statistics about parental happiness and child care, new science that's shaking up the parent-advice industry, and stories from a generation of parents who are finding out that having kids isn't all they thought it would be.

Why Have Kids? presents startling, new material that will change the way you think about the age-old questions of children, parenting, and happiness.

About the Author

Jessica Valenti is widely recognized as the most prominent young feminist in America. Valenti has written three books: Full Frontal Feminism, Hes a Stud, Shes a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know, and The Purity Myth. She is the founder of Feministing.com, the most read feminist publication online and off. Valentis writing has appeared in publications including The Washington Post, The Nation, The Daily, The Guardian, The American Prospect, Ms. magazine, and Salon.com.

Product Details

ISBN:
9780547892610
Author:
Valenti, Jessica
Publisher:
New Harvest
Subject:
Child Care
Subject:
Child Care and Parenting-General
Subject:
Child Care and Parenting-Mothering
Subject:
Parenting
Edition Description:
Trade Cloth
Publication Date:
20120931
Binding:
HARDCOVER
Language:
English
Pages:
208
Dimensions:
8.25 x 5.5 in 1 lb

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"Publishers Weekly Review" by , "When her daughter was born at 28 weeks, leaving mother and child dangerously ill, Valenti felt enormous disappointment and a sense of failure. Not only had she missed a 'good birth' resulting in a full-term healthy baby and happy family, her expectations surrounding the experience, the elation and bonding she had been societally conditioned to encounter, were unfulfilled. In this, her fourth book — a politicized, anti-What to Expect When You're Expecting — the high-profile, third-wave feminist takes an intense and scathing look at charged contemporary parenting issues, moving beyond 'mommy wars' and breast-is-best militants to show just how much the current American ideal of parenting fails to match reality. With post-partum panic past, and her child thriving, Valenti probes accepted practices and questions the pervasive philosophy of modern mothering, with its many fallacies and assumptions including: alarming pre-conception and pregnancy advisories; whether women are naturally better parents; and if mothering is the hardest job in the world. Valenti pointedly reveals how trading a career for staying at home with the kids, the myth of the 'perfect mother,' and the death of the nuclear family damaged more women than society will acknowledge. Occasionally, a reader may be unsure whether Valenti is airing her own grievances or those of mommy-bloggers and the media; but that aside, this timely volume, which should generate much controversy, is a call for much-needed change and may unite a new generation of moms. (Sept.)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
"Synopsis" by , From the most high-profile young feminist in America, a provocative and brutally honest exploration of modern parenthood.
"Synopsis" by ,
A provocative and intimate exploration of modern parenthood by “a gutsy young third wave feminist”—The New York Times

If parenting is making Americans unhappy, if its impossible to “have it all,” if people dont have the economic, social, or political structures needed to support parenting (fewer than 5% of American families employ a nanny), then why do it? And why are anxious new parents flocking to every Tiger Mother and Bébé-raiser for advice on how to raise kids?

In Why Have Kids?, Valenti explores these controversial questions through on-the-ground reporting, startling new research, and her own unique experiences as a mom. She moves beyond the black and white “mommy wars” over natural parenting, discipline, and work-life balance to explore a more nuanced reality: one filled with ambivalence, joy, guilt, and exhaustion. A must-read for parents as well as those considering starting a family, Why Have Kids? is an explosive addition to the conversation about modern parenthood.

"Synopsis" by , If parenting is making Americans unhappy, if it's impossible to "have it all," if people don't have the economic, social, or political structures needed to support parenting, then why do it? In Why Have Kids?, Jessica Valenti asks this the controversial—but necessary—question. Through on-the-ground reporting, new scientific studies, and her own burgeoning motherhood, Valenti offers an in-depth exposé into the world of having (and not having) children. She cites shocking statistics about parental happiness and child care, new science that's shaking up the parent-advice industry, and stories from a generation of parents who are finding out that having kids isn't all they thought it would be.

Why Have Kids? presents startling, new material that will change the way you think about the age-old questions of children, parenting, and happiness.

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