Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man

The catch-me-if-you-can lover...

Phil's romantic and passionate one minute, distant and cold the next.

The deviously manipulative coworker or boss...

Jack denies resenting Nora's rapid rise in the company, but when they're assigned to work together on a project, he undermines her.

The obstructionist, procrastinating husband...

Bob keeps telling his wife he'll finish the painting job he began years ago, but he never seems to get around to it.

These are all classic examples of the passive-aggressive man. This personality syndrome — in which hostility wears a mask of passivity — is currently the number one source of men's problems in relationships and on the job. In Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man, Scott Wetzler draws upon numerous case histories from his own practice to explain how and why the passive-aggressive man thinks, feels, and acts the way he does. Dr. Wetzler also offers advice on:

• How to avoid playing victim, manager, or rescuer to the "P-A"

• How to get his anger and fear into the open

• How to help the "P-A" become a better lover, husband, and father

• How to survive passive-aggressive game playing on the job

Living with a man's passive aggression can be an emotional seesaw ride. But armed with this book, you can avoid the bumpy landings.

Do you know one of these men?

The catch-me-if-you-can lover...Phil's romantic and passionate one minute, distant and retreating the next.
The deviously manipulative coworker or boss...Jack denies resenting Nora's rapid rise in the company, but when they're assigned to work together on a project, he undermines her.
The obstructionist, procrastinating husband...Bob keeps telling his wife he'll finish the painting job he began years ago, but he never seems to get around to it.

These are all classic examples of the passive-aggressive man. This personality syndrome — in which hostility wears a mask of passivity — is currently the number one source of men's problems in relationships and on the job. In Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man, Scott Wetzler draws upon numerous case histories from his own practice to explain how and why the passive-aggressive man thinks, feels, and acts the way he does. Dr. Wetzler also offers advice on:

How to avoid playing victim, manager, or rescuer to the "P-A"
How to get his anger and fear into the open
How to help the "P-A" become a better lover, husband, and father
How to survive passive-aggressive game playing on the job

Living with a man's passive aggression can be an emotional seesaw ride. But armed with this book, you can avoid the bumpy landings.

Introduction

1 Anatomy of Passive-Aggression

2 On an Emotional Seesaw with the Passive-Aggressive Man

3 Who Falls for the Passive-Aggressive Man?

4 The Passive-Aggressive Man: Growing Up and Getting That Way

5 Riding the Dependency Treadmill

6 Facing the Dragon: The Passive-Aggressive Man and Anger

7 Making Connections: Intimacy and Commitment

8 Sex and the Passive-Aggressive Man

9 Marriage and Parenthood

10 The Mine Field: The Passive-Aggressive Man at Work

Epilogue

Index