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This title in other formats:Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reasonby Alfie Kohn
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A must read! Parenting has come around to attachment again, and moved far, far away from the punitive cruelties of Victorian caregivers. Alfie Kohn has applied, in academic terms, the reasons to parent unconditionally. We have evolved! Synopses & ReviewsPublisher Comments:Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need — and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting — including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents. Review:"Powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves." -- Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen . . . Synopsis:From a nationally respected educator, the author of "Punished by Rewards" and "The Schools Our Children Deserve," comes a provocative challenge to the conventional wisdom about raising children. Table of ContentsContents Introduction 1: Conditional Parenting 2: Giving and Withholding Love 3: Too Much Control 4: Punitive Damages 5: Pushed To Succeed 6: What Holds Us Back? 7: Principles of Unconditional Parenting 8: Love Without Strings Attached 9: Choices for Children 10: The Childs Perspective Appendix • Parenting Styles: The Relevance of Culture, Class, and Race Notes References Acknowledgments Index
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