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You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married): Looking for Love in the Age of Divorce

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Fast approaching the age when bachelors go from seeming curious to seeming weird, Oscar-nominated documentarian Dana Adam Shapiro set out across the country with a tape recorder in search of modern answers to an age-old question:

Why does love die—and what can we do to prevent it from happening?

It all began as a self-help journey in the purest sense. A serial monogamist for more than two decades, Shapiro had just ended his fifth three-year relationship and wanted to know why the honeymoon phase never lasted until the actual honeymoon. Believing that you learn more from failure than from success, he spent the next four years interviewing hundreds of divorced people, living vicariously through the romantic tragedies of others, hoping to become so fluent in the errors of Eros that he would be able to avoid them in his own love life.

The result is a timely treasure trove of marital wisdom—a provocative look inside the hearts, minds, beds, and e-mails of regular people who’d thought they found “The One” and lived to tell the tales of what went wrong. Shockingly intimate, universally relevant, and profoundly personal, this is a page-turning, voyeuristic peek into the private lives of our friends and neighbors that is as racy as it is revelatory. But ultimately, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) is a hopeful investigation of modern love and a practical guide for any couple looking to beat the roulette-level odds of actually staying together forever.

Review:

"Journalist, novelist (The Every Boy), and filmmaker Shapiro admits he's neither a husband or a therapist. But he crisscrossed America interviewing (sometimes for 20 minutes, sometimes for several days) hundreds of divorced men and women about their war stories of romance, compatibility, and compromise, infidelity, and the intimate, explicit details of their sex lives. After finding a couple of pairs of lacy panties that weren't hers, 'Ann' snooped into her actor husband's computers, seeing his passionate e-mails to a younger woman and photos of them in bed, and when she confronted him, he eventually confessed to affairs with 40 women. 'Paul,' a psychologist who likes to dress as a woman and have sex with men, describes how he left his first wife so he could be free to be himself and told his current wife everything about his sexuality before getting married. While this book makes some perceptive points about relationships that will particularly resonate with readers going through the throes of a bad breakup, the interviews are often more confessional than insightful and veer from being frank and open to coarse and distasteful. Agent: Daniel Greenberg, Levine Greenberg Literary Agency. (Sept.)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Synopsis:

A timely collection of brutally candid break-up stories resulting from three years of interviews by an Oscar-nominated documentary filmmaker, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) began as an oral history about the failures of an age-old institution and evolved into a practical marriage guide as racy and romantic as it is revelatory.

Skeptical about traditional marriage and fed-up with preachy self-help books telling us how to be better husbands and wives, Shapiro, a thirty-eight-year-old bachelor, decided to crisscross the country with a tape recorder in an effort to better understand the roulette-level odds of maintaining a lifelong romantic union. Believing you learn more from failure than from success, he collected stories from hundreds of divorced people, hoping to uncover the myriad secrets about why love dies.

The result is an all access, wholly original treasure trove of marital wisdom from regular people who thought they’d found “the one” and lived to tell the tales of how it went wrong. No subject was too taboo, and these anonymous interviews reveal heartbreaking, heartwarming insights about sex, fighting, money, addiction, in-laws, and the Internet.

Profoundly personal yet universally relevant, this is a page-turning, voyeuristic peek into the lives of our friends and neighbors that is sure to spark heated debate and serious self-reflection. But ultimately, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) is a hopeful examination of modern love.

About the Author

Dana Adam Shapiro directed the Academy Award-nominated documentary Murderball and the Independent Spirit Award nominee Monogamy, starring Chris Messina and Rashida Jones. He is the author of The Every Boy, a former senior editor at Spin, and a contributor to The New York Times Magazine. He lives in Venice, California.

Product Details

ISBN:
9781451657777
Author:
Shapiro, Dana Adam
Publisher:
Scribner Book Company
Subject:
Divorce
Subject:
Self Help-Divorce and Separation
Subject:
Self-Help/Relationships
Edition Description:
Hardback
Publication Date:
20120931
Binding:
HARDCOVER
Language:
English
Pages:
256
Dimensions:
8.44 x 5.5 in

Related Subjects

Health and Self-Help » Self-Help » Divorce and Separation
Health and Self-Help » Self-Help » General
Health and Self-Help » Self-Help » Relationships

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"Publishers Weekly Review" by , "Journalist, novelist (The Every Boy), and filmmaker Shapiro admits he's neither a husband or a therapist. But he crisscrossed America interviewing (sometimes for 20 minutes, sometimes for several days) hundreds of divorced men and women about their war stories of romance, compatibility, and compromise, infidelity, and the intimate, explicit details of their sex lives. After finding a couple of pairs of lacy panties that weren't hers, 'Ann' snooped into her actor husband's computers, seeing his passionate e-mails to a younger woman and photos of them in bed, and when she confronted him, he eventually confessed to affairs with 40 women. 'Paul,' a psychologist who likes to dress as a woman and have sex with men, describes how he left his first wife so he could be free to be himself and told his current wife everything about his sexuality before getting married. While this book makes some perceptive points about relationships that will particularly resonate with readers going through the throes of a bad breakup, the interviews are often more confessional than insightful and veer from being frank and open to coarse and distasteful. Agent: Daniel Greenberg, Levine Greenberg Literary Agency. (Sept.)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
"Synopsis" by , A timely collection of brutally candid break-up stories resulting from three years of interviews by an Oscar-nominated documentary filmmaker, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) began as an oral history about the failures of an age-old institution and evolved into a practical marriage guide as racy and romantic as it is revelatory.

Skeptical about traditional marriage and fed-up with preachy self-help books telling us how to be better husbands and wives, Shapiro, a thirty-eight-year-old bachelor, decided to crisscross the country with a tape recorder in an effort to better understand the roulette-level odds of maintaining a lifelong romantic union. Believing you learn more from failure than from success, he collected stories from hundreds of divorced people, hoping to uncover the myriad secrets about why love dies.

The result is an all access, wholly original treasure trove of marital wisdom from regular people who thought they’d found “the one” and lived to tell the tales of how it went wrong. No subject was too taboo, and these anonymous interviews reveal heartbreaking, heartwarming insights about sex, fighting, money, addiction, in-laws, and the Internet.

Profoundly personal yet universally relevant, this is a page-turning, voyeuristic peek into the lives of our friends and neighbors that is sure to spark heated debate and serious self-reflection. But ultimately, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) is a hopeful examination of modern love.

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