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Prude: Lessons I Learned When My Fiance Filmed Porn

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ISBN13: 9781580054980
ISBN10: 1580054986
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"When her fiancé Robbie landed a job filming a reality TV show about porn, Southwood, who had just moved to Los Angeles to live with Robbie, unsurprisingly, had conflicted feelings. Southwood skillfully and calmly shares this time of her life, examining how porn both threatened and strengthened their relationship, and how it brought other issues — insecurity, lack of communication — to light. Southwood also explores her own relationship to porn, placing it in the greater context of today's society, citing what she's learned about different types of porn, porn usage, and exposure. The writing is straightforward, comfortable, and just a bit quirky; the memoir reads like a conversation over cocktails with a close girlfriend — possibly because such scenes often recur as Southwood struggles between her desire to be open-minded, and her ingrained moral stance on porn. For those who, like Southwood, are uncomfortable, intimidated, or simply unfamiliar with porn, this book is a fun way to start pushing your own comfort zones. For everyone else, it's a sweet and original examination of the complications of romantic relationships." Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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In a culture obsessed with sex, the era of Dads Playboy is long gone. Today, endless free porn is a click away and full-frontal photos appear on sites as accessible as Twitter, yet many couples struggle with the underlying issues of pornography.

Emily Southwood considered herself to be sexually liberal—until her fiancé landed a job filming porn for a network reality TV show and her whole world changed overnight. Once confident in her relationship, she suddenly felt jealous, insecure, and obsessively comparative to the porn stars her fiancé was around everyday. She was forced to confront feelings she didnt even know she had: about the treatment of women in the porn industry, the hush-hush attitude toward women watching pornography, and the unrealistic expectations about sex that are often propagated by porn.

Prude is a humorous memoir that explores why there is so little communication about porn in relationships. Southwood tells the story of her transformation from feeling sexually liberal-minded to realizing she had issues with porn and the industry her fiancé was a part of. She reveals her bizarre journey to conquer her discomfort around porn—and how she ends up finding herself (and ultimately fixing her relationship for good) along the way.

About the Author

Emily Southwood writes for websites such as Betty Confidential and Huffington Post, and she can be found blogging at imarriedapornographer.com. She has been featured in Canadian newspapers and magazines, including the Montreal Mirror, The Globe and Mail, and Elle Canada.

Emily received a bachelors degree in Creative Writing and English Literature from Concordia University in Montreal and later completed an MFA in creative non-fiction from the University of British Columbia. In 2008, Emily moved to Los Angeles to be with her fiancé, who was there filming porn stars in action for the reality TV show Webdreams. The experience of planning a wedding while her betrothed witnessed crude encounters inspired this book.

Emily currently divides her time between Montreal and Los Angeles. Without a fixed address, her mainstays are her station wagon, her husband, her son, and a small, white dog.

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mjrynott, November 24, 2014 (view all comments by mjrynott)
As a woman, I feel pretty confident saying that most women have issues with porn--note that I said most not all--especially those of us who fancy ourselves even the teensiest bit feminist. But have any of us really sat and thought long and hard (no pun intended) about it? What exactly makes us uncomfortable? What is or isn’t feminist about porn? There are many arguments on this topic, any Google search will throw hundreds of books, articles, journals, and studies about the various facets of porn and its effects.

Emily Southwood was confronted with all of this and more when her then fiance (now husband) took a job as cinematographer for a reality show about porn. Her memoir, Prude: Lessons I Learned When My Fiance Filmed Porn, is not only a personal tale of coming face to face (sometimes face to other body parts) with the porn industry but also a backward glancing cultural critique of porn itself. Through her fresh and vivacious point of view, Emily gives readers a blow-by-blow (ok, now I’m being gratuitous with the puns. I’ll stop) of every aspect of her experience, from stories of actual events to all of her thoughts and feelings during the nearly year-long ordeal.

I love this book for many reasons, but the first and foremost of those reasons is it made me feel a little less crazy myself. I know that if I had been in Emily’s situation, I would have reacted the exact same way. I may not have a fiance filming extreme sexual acts on the daily, but I certainly have my issues that I obsess about. My thought patterns match hers to a tee, and it was lovely to know that I’m not alone in my neurotic thought patterns. Second, this book made me start to think about porn and my thoughts and feelings on the matter. Who knows, I might even have go at opening up a dialogue with my guy about it. And third, I love this book because it accomplished what I think is the most important task of a memoir--making me feel like I really got to know, and could even be friends with, the author.

Through her unflinchingly honest retelling of this unique time in her life, Emily Southwood made me think about and often laugh at a topic that too often gets filed under “Too Awkward to Talk About.” Prude is a bold step toward starting a dialogue with women about porn, as well as a hilarious and touching memoir of that oh so special time in a girl’s life. You know, when the man of her dreams finally pops the question and then sweeps her away to Hollywood to film gang bangs. *Sigh* It’s magical!
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Product Details

ISBN:
9781580054980
Author:
Southwood, Emily
Publisher:
Seal Press (CA)
Subject:
Biography - General
Edition Description:
Trade Paper
Publication Date:
20130931
Binding:
TRADE PAPER
Language:
English
Pages:
264
Dimensions:
8.25 x 5.5 in

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"Publishers Weekly Review" by , "When her fiancé Robbie landed a job filming a reality TV show about porn, Southwood, who had just moved to Los Angeles to live with Robbie, unsurprisingly, had conflicted feelings. Southwood skillfully and calmly shares this time of her life, examining how porn both threatened and strengthened their relationship, and how it brought other issues — insecurity, lack of communication — to light. Southwood also explores her own relationship to porn, placing it in the greater context of today's society, citing what she's learned about different types of porn, porn usage, and exposure. The writing is straightforward, comfortable, and just a bit quirky; the memoir reads like a conversation over cocktails with a close girlfriend — possibly because such scenes often recur as Southwood struggles between her desire to be open-minded, and her ingrained moral stance on porn. For those who, like Southwood, are uncomfortable, intimidated, or simply unfamiliar with porn, this book is a fun way to start pushing your own comfort zones. For everyone else, it's a sweet and original examination of the complications of romantic relationships." Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
"Synopsis" by ,
In a culture obsessed with sex, the era of Dads Playboy is long gone. Today, endless free porn is a click away and full-frontal photos appear on sites as accessible as Twitter, yet many couples struggle with the underlying issues of pornography.

Emily Southwood considered herself to be sexually liberal—until her fiancé landed a job filming porn for a network reality TV show and her whole world changed overnight. Once confident in her relationship, she suddenly felt jealous, insecure, and obsessively comparative to the porn stars her fiancé was around everyday. She was forced to confront feelings she didnt even know she had: about the treatment of women in the porn industry, the hush-hush attitude toward women watching pornography, and the unrealistic expectations about sex that are often propagated by porn.

Prude is a humorous memoir that explores why there is so little communication about porn in relationships. Southwood tells the story of her transformation from feeling sexually liberal-minded to realizing she had issues with porn and the industry her fiancé was a part of. She reveals her bizarre journey to conquer her discomfort around porn—and how she ends up finding herself (and ultimately fixing her relationship for good) along the way.

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