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Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorderby Bill Eddy
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Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. Dealing with this inherently adversarial process can be highly emotional on both sides. But when a divorcing individual is a "persuasive blamer" someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or simply has a high-conflict, manipulative personality - their behavior can have devastating ramifications for their former spouses. Splitting is a legal and psychological guidebook that everyone seeking a divorce from a persuasive blamer should own. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, divorce mediator, and experienced social worker, and Randi Kreger, BPD expert and author of the bestselling Stop Walking on Eggshells, it offers readers help for navigating the entire process of divorce: hiring and managing a divorce lawyer, reaching a reasonable settlement, protecting oneself and one's children from emotional and/or physical abuse from the former spouse, resisting false accusations, and getting enforceable court orders. The book also delves into the difficult-to-understand, aggressive behavior of persuasive blamers, offering readers psychological explanations for their former spouse's actions and help for coping emotionally with the spouse's extreme mood swings and impulsivity.* Nearly half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce and approximately 6 million American adults have borderline personality disorder or BPD
Book News Annotation:
People with borderline or narcissistic personality disorders often make false allegations of abuse or domestic violence during the divorce process and are prone to verbal and physical attacks, kidnapping the children, and refusal to follow court orders. In this book for general readers, Eddy, a lawyer and therapist affiliated with the National Conflict Resolution Center, and Kreger, author of several books on living with a partner or family member with borderline personality disorder (Walking on Eggshells), offer guidelines on dealing with these manipulative behaviors, finding a lawyer, and preparing for the worst, illustrated with real-life examples from Eddy's legal practice. Early chapters review the features of borderline and narcissistic personality disorder and describe the emotional reactions and counter-tactics these soon-to-be ex-spouses will likely display. Later chapters explain today's divorce court culture and give advice on working with experts such as court and private counselors, psychologists, appraisers, and accountants. An appendix offers sample letters to professionals from the authors of the book. The book will be useful to those in married or unmarried relationships and to attorneys and others involved in divorce cases. Annotation ©2011 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a ìpersuasive blamerî: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This book is written by Bill Eddy, a family court attorney and therapist, and Randi Kreger, author of the bestselling Stop Walking on Eggshells and founder of the popular website www.bpdcentral.com.
Divorce often leads to unresolved feelings of anger, betrayal, and sadness. The Divorce Recovery Workbook offers a unique approach using mindfulness and positive psychology to help readers cope with these negative emotions so that they can rebuild their lives. With exercises and tips for managing a difficult co-parenting relationship and powerful practices based in self-compassion and forgiveness, readers will learn to heal, forgive, and form new, loving relationships.
If you have recently gone through a divorce, you might have unresolved feelings of anger toward your ex spouse; find yourself reeling from past betrayals both big and small; become stressed when you think about the legal and emotional ramifications of the divorce; or you may even experience symptoms of depression. You are not alone, and there are ways you can start to heal.
The Divorce Recovery Workbook offers a unique approach using mindfulness and positive psychology to help you cope with these negative emotions so that you can start to rebuild your life. Youll learn powerful practices based in self-compassion to help you heal, forgive, and form new, loving relationships. The book also includes helpful exercises and tips for managing a difficult co-parenting relationship.
If youve gone through divorce and are struggling to move on, there comes a moment when you must make a choice. You can let the difficult situation define who you are, or you can use it as a jumping off point for making radical changes in your life—positive changes that will leave you stronger and happier than ever before! This workbook will help you start.
Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse
Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way.
Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.
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About the Author
Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, has been a family lawyer for over eighteen years and a therapist for over twelve years. He is senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, CA, and president of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, AZ. He is a faculty member at Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College and has provided seminars to judges, lawyers, counselors, and others on the subject of managing high-conflict personalities in legal disputes.
Table of Contents
Preparing yourself — Understanding borderline and narcissistic personalities — Blamers and targets : it's all your fault! — Managing a blamer with an assertive approach — Preparing for a court battle with a blamer — Today's divorce court culture — Hiring a lawyer who understands — Working with your lawyer to handle predictable crises — Gathering evidence about your blamer's private persona — Working with experts and evaluators — What to expect from the blamer's attorney — What to expect at a hearing or trial with a blamer — Considering alternatives to litigation with a blamer — Managing the rocky postdivorce relationship.
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