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Born to Win: Transactional Analysis with Gestalt Experiments


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Publisher Comments:

"The clearest and easily the best popular book of them all."

Psychology Today.

In this enriching volume, Dr. Muriel James, co-author of Passion for Life: Psychology and the Human Spirit, and Dr. Dorothy Jongeward, show that every person has the potential to be a winner: to be an authentic, alive, repsonsive, fulfilled human being. An imaginative guide for self-analysis, discovery and growth—complete with experiments and exercises you can do by yourself—Born to Win uses psychlogical insights to increase your awareness of the real power you have to direct your own life, to make decisions, to develop your own ethical system, to enhance the lives of others—and to understand that you were "Born To Win."

About the Author

Dr. Muriel James is a licensed marriage and family counselor, an international consultant in human relations to corporations, non-profit organizations and government agencies, and was an advisor to the California Commission on the Status of Women. Dr. James received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkely. She is past president of the International Transactional Analysis Association, and was a colleague of Dr. Eric Berne. Dr. James is author and co-author of seventeen books, including Breaking Free, Hearts on Fire, The Better Boss in Multicultural Organizations and Passion for Life: Psychology and the Human Spirit.

Dr. Dorothy Jongeward is an internationally prominent management consultant who has pioneered the field of productivity through "people skills." She served on the faculty of the University of California Extension for many years and has made a lasting contribution to understanding the psychology of women. She is a Teaching Member of the International Transactional Analysis Association and a Life Member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Counselors. She has authored or co-authored seven other succesful books including Women as Winners and Winning with People. Her creative career is cited in many references, including The World's Who's Who of Women. In 1990, Dr. Jongeward was selected as one of six alumni of Washington State University "who have made significant contributions to history and culture in this century."

Table of Contents

Born To Win 1. Winners And Losers



Tools for Change

Frederick Perls and Gestalt Therapy

Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis


Experiments and Exercises

Trait Checklist

Winner/Loser Continuum

Role-Playing an Inner Dialogue

2. An Overview Of Transactional Analysis

Introduction to Structural Analysis

Development of Ego States

Introduction to Analyzing Transactions

The Games People Play

Days of Decision

Psychological Positions

Sexuality and Psychological Positions

Introduction to Script Analysis


Experiments and Exercises

Beginning to Know Your Ego States

Your Ego States and Feelings

Analyzing a Transaction

Your O Kness (fantasy)

Your Sexual O Kness (fantasy)

3. The Human Hunger For Strokes And Time Structuring

Stroking Hunger

Positive Stroking

Discounting and Negative Stroking

The Hunger for Structured Time


Experiments and Exercises

You and Touch

You and Recognition

You and Time Structuring

Your Capacity for Intimacy

4. The Drama Of Life Scripts


Cultural Scripts

Subcultural Scripts

Family Scripts

Psychological Scripts of an Individual

How Scripting Occurs

Scripts with a Curse


Roles and Themes in Life Dramas

Script Themes

Script Roles and Themes in Greek Mythology

Script Themes in Children's Stories


Experiments and Exercises

Cultural and Family Scripting

Individual Script

Nonverbal Messages In Your Script · Verbal Messages In Your Script · Role Identification · On Stage · Life Stages · Cast Of Characters

5. Parenting And The Parent Ego State

The Parent Ego State

Outward Expression of the Parent Ego State

Inner influence of the Parent Ego State

Nurturing Parent

Prejudicial Parent

The Incomplete Parent Ego State



Experiments and Exercises

Your Parents as People

Money · Possessions · Crisis · Fun · Sex Roles · Family Meals · Appearance · Education · Work · Values · Speech Patterns · Listening Patterns · Script Themes And Roles · Parenting Practices

Your Parent's Attitudes

How Are You Like Your Parents?

Your Inner Dialogue

Your Parent Ego States

Naikan Therapy (Japanese self-observation method)

6. Childhood And The Child Ego State

The Child Ego State

The Natural Child

The Little Professor

The Adapted Child

Shifts between the Natural and Adapted Child

Activating the Child Ego State


Experiments and Exercises

Your Childhood Home

Getting in Touch with Your Childhood

The Child in You Now

Fantasy Awareness

Your Childhood Adaptations

Loss of a Parent

Your Little Professor

You as a Natural Child

7. Personal And Sexual Identity

Names and Identity

Identity through Play

Childhood Psychological Games and Role Identity

Sexual Identity

Sexual Expression


Experiments and Exercises

Identity and Your Name

Your Childhood Play

Your Current Play

Your Psychological Games

Your Sexual Identity and Expression

Your Sexual Feelings and Behavior Now

8. Stamp Collecting And Game Playing

Psychological Trading Stamps

The Time of Redemption

The Sweatshirt Message

Games Played from the Child Ego State

The "Yes, But" Game

The "Let's You and Him Fight" Game

The "See What You Made Me Do" Game

The "Uproar" Game

The "Courtroom" Game

The "Cops and Robbers" Game

Giving Up Games


Experiments and Exercises

Your Stamp Collection

Integrating Old Feelings

Inadequacy · Helplessness · Perfection · Depression · Fear · Guilt · Anxiety · Anger · Resentment · Other Feelings

Tracing Old Feelings

Your Sweatshirt Messages

Script Check List

9. The Adult Ego State

The Bash Trap Phenomenon

The Adult Ego State

Ego State Boundaries

Lax Ego Boundaries

Rigid Ego Boundaries

Contamination of the Adult

Boundary Lesions

The Adult as Executive of the Personality

Placating Your Parent

Pleasing the Child

Activating and Strengthening the Adult Ego State

Days of Despair


Experiments and Exercises

Deathbed Scene (fantasy)

Your Last Hour (fantasy)

Breaking Out of Your Bash Trap

Examining Constant Parent, Constant Adult, and Constant Child

Your Ego State Portrait

Decontaminating Your Adult

Learning from your Projections

Learning from your Dreams

Problem-Solving Technique

10. Autonomy And Adult Ethics




The Integrated Adult

Adult Feelings

Adult Ethics


Experiments and Exercises

Your Adult Ethics

Adult Questions on Your Life

Footnotes And References


Product Details

James, Muriel
Jongeward, Dorothy
Signet Book
New York
Gestalt therapy
Transactional analysis
General Psychology & Psychiatry
Psychology : General
Edition Description:
B-Mass Market
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Grade Level:
from 12
6.90x4.21x.79 in. .36 lbs.
Age Level:
from 18

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