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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: A Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder


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Straightforward, practical advice for taking control of the symptoms, minimizing the disabilities, and maximizing the advantages of adult ADD.

There is a great deal of literature about children with attention deficit disorder, ADD. But what do you do if you have ADD and aren't a child anymore? You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! focuses on the experiences of adults, offering accurate information, practical how-tos and moral support to help readers deal with ADD. It explains the diagnostic process that distinguishes ADD symptoms from normal lapses in memory, lack of concentration or impulsive behavior, and it addresses:

* Achieving balance by analyzing one's strengths and weaknesses

* Getting along in groups, at work and in intimate and family relationships — including how to decrease discord and chaos

* Learning the mechanics and methods for getting organized and improving memory

* Seeking professional help, including therapy and medication

Widely used by support groups around the country, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! is the indispensable reference for anyone who faces the challenge of ADD on a daily basis.


Includes bibliographical references (p. 414-419) and index.

About the Author

Kate Kelly is a master's prepared clinical specialist in psychiatric nursing. Her professional background includes experience as as a therapist, assistant professor and clinical coordinator for psychobiological research. Her graduate education focused on chronic mental illness, and this orientation eventually led her to an interest in the mental health self-help movement. She became a champion for individuals with severe mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia, believing that even those with severe impairments could learn to manage their own illnesses.

Ms. Kelly's prior publishing credits include an article entitled Fostering Self-Help on an Inpatient Unit, published in the Archives of Psychiatric Nursing. This article chronicled the results of her work in developing a model for an inpatient group that helped chronically mentally ill patients learn and share effective coping strategies.

Following her diagnosis with ADHD in 1989, Ms. Kelly's work moved in a new direction. Combining herpersonal and professional interests in adult ADD, she began to focus on this emerging area of mental health. Responding to the need to provide services for ADD adults, she founded the adult support group of the Attention Deficit Disorder Council of Greater Cincinnati in February of 1990. Although she no longer facilitates this group, she continues to consult with the Council on adult ADD and support group issues.

The information Ms. Kelly gathered from available literature and the personal stories of ADD adults in Cincinnati and nationwide lead to her work in writing I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy!? Currently she is using her personal and professional experiences and knowledge to give presentations on adult ADD for lay and professional groups. She also works in private practice leading psychoeducational therapy groups for ADD adults.

Table of Contents

Table Of Contents


Foreword by Larry B. Silver, M.D.

Introduction: ADD Isn't Just For Kids Anymore!

Chapter 1

From the Porch to the Printed Page: A Reader's Guide to Understanding This Book

How To Read This Book

Who Should Read This Book

Diagnosis Isn't a Do-It-Yourself Enterprise

Chapter 2

Understanding the Disorder That Makes Us Feel Lazy, Stupid or Crazy

About Definitions and Descriptions

The Big Three: Inattention, Impulsivity, Hyperactivity

But Why?

How Common Is It?

Not Just for Boys Anymore

Chapter 3

The Impact of Growing Up with ADD

Ages and Stages

The Cycle of Disapproval

Abilities and Disabilities

Chapter 4

How Are We Different?

One Channel Operation

Locking In/Blocking Out

I Hate Details

Defective Filter

Touchy Touchability

Emotional Roller Coasters


The IDP Dynamic

Bottomless Pit of Needs

Supersonic Brains

Activity Levels in Flux

Thrill Seekers

Intractable Time Tyrant

Space Struggles

Action/Inaction Imbalance

Reaction Time Irregularity

Miniscule Mental Fuel Tanks

Undependable Memory/Learning Systems

Impaired Social Skills' Control Centers

Chapter 5

The Not So Fine Art of Coping

Bad is Better Than Stupid

The Perfectionist

The Blamer

Who Cares?



Chip On the Shoulder

Take Me or Leave Me

It Ain't So



Peter Pan Syndrome

Space Cadet

The Party Animal

Emotional Incontinence

The Blabber

The Bulldozer

Chapter 6


The Savvy Mental Health Consumer

The Why and How of the Diagnostic Evaluation

After the Diagnosis — You Are Worth All the Work It Will Take to Recover

Self-Discovery and the Grief Process: Shock of Recognition; Anger — Why Me?; Denial — Not Me!; Bargaining — It Can All Be Fixed; Depression — Reality Sinks In; Acceptance — Out of the Depths!

Chapter 7

About Balance, Toyotas,® Porsches,® Circus High Wires, and the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

Finely Tuned and In Need of Sensitive Handling

How-To's of Achieving Balance: The 12 Step Framework

A One Rat Study: Analyzing Strengths and Weaknesses

Constructing a Personalized Safety Net for Your High Wire Act

Chapter 8

Interfacing In Action: Groups and Friendships

The Art and Science of Communication

Hazard: Social Slippery Spots

Act I, Group Interactions: Mental Gymnastics; Running Out of Gas; Cruise Controls Set on Mega-Speed

Survival Tips: Group Interactions

Act II, One to One Encounters: Working At Not Working So Hard, Negative Self-Talk

Survival Tips: Friendships

Effective Communication

Chapter 9

Interfacing in Action: Getting Along on the Job

A Variation on the Theme of Interfacing

Act III, Getting Along At Work: Complex Interrelationships, Office Politics, Written and Unwritten Rules

Survival Tips: On the Job

High Tech Communication, or Don't Fax Yourself Out of State!

Work Related Stress: Noise, Doors and Telephones

Foot in Mouth Disease

What Do You Want to Do When You Grow Up?

Are You Failing On the Job or Is Your Job Failing You?

Chapter 10

Interfacing In Action: In The Dating Game and The Family

High Stake Relationships

Act IV, The Dating Game: Intensity; Insatiability; the Walking Wounded; The Prince Charming Trap

Survival Tips: Intimate Relationships

Act V, Scene I, Marriage and Child Rearing: Meet the Bakers, 1 Plus 1 Is More Than Two, Parenting and the ADD Dimension

Survival Tips: "Planned Parenting"

Act V, Scene II, Chaos on the Cul-de-Sac: Boundary Issues and Invisible Circles

Family Therapy

Survival Tips: Emotional Living Space

Chapter 11

From Mealtime Mania to Outing Ordeals: How-To's of Decreasing Discord

Scenes From the Kitchen Table and ADD Family Fun

Family Life Through the Eyes of Tom, Jan, Amy, Zachary and Jennifer

Combustible Mix of ADD Temperaments

SurvivalTips: Reducing the Chaos and Turning Down the Volume

Survival Tips: From Chaos to Peaceful Co-Existence

Chapter 12

Principles of Government: Family Style

Poised for Defense or Attack

Establishing a Shared Government

Principles and Rules of Conduct for Family Meetings

Equal Opportunity Participation: Problem-Solving, Bargaining, Negotiation, Contracting

Guarding Against Expectations of Perfection

Chapter 13

Dynamics of ADD in Organization: Mechanics and Methods

Life is Difficult for the Organizationally Impaired

Creating Order: Where Do You Start?

Designing a Clearing Out and Storing System

Home Office Management: the Peace of Mind Payoff

Practical Tools for Mess Management

Paper Pile Management and Its Cardinal Rules

To Do's and Paper Pile Mismanagement

Time Management: Taming the Time Monster

Chapter 14

Dynamics of ADD in Memory: Mechanics and Methods

The Memory Chain

Memory and Learning: You Can't Have One Without the Other

How Are Your Memories?

How Do You Learn: What's Your Learning Style?

Memory Tune-Up Techniques

Learning Tips

Learning Disabilities and ADD

Chapter 15

Crutches, Ladders and the Decision to Seek Professional Help

About Crutches, Ladders and Assumptions

Are You Ready to Ask for Help?

Alternative and Mainstream Therapies: What's the Difference?

The Value and Limitations of Research

Becoming Your Own Case Manager

To Be...or Not To Be Medicated

The Issue of Substance Abuse

Chapter 16

Medicine and Medicine Management

A Trial and Error Process

The How and Why of Medicine

Benefits, Action, Side Effects, Dose Levels: Stimulant Medications; Tricyclic Antidepressants; Miscellaneous and Newer Drugs


Medicine: A Starting Place, Not the Final Destination

Chapter 17

Therapy and More Therapy

Therapy Dilemma

Cognitive and Behavioral Therapy

Speech and Language Therapy

Educational Remediation

Psychodynamic Psychotherapies

Miscellaneous Therapies

Family Therapy

Social Skills Training

Sensory Integration


Support Groups

Assertiveness Training

Alternative Therapy: Yoga; Massage; Brain Massage and Virtual Reality (!); Progressive Muscle Relaxation


Transcendental Meditation

Natural Childbirth Techniques

Diet Therapy

EEG Biofeedback

Chapter 18

From Obstacle to Opportunity

If You Could Push a Button and Not Have ADD Anymore, Would You Push It?

About Joy, Hope and Possibilities

ADD and the Specialized Brain

Abilities Within Disabilities: The ADD Advantage

Success Stories

What Is Success?

Finding Your Niche: Better Late Than Never

The Bright Outlook for Us

ADD is More Than a Disorder: It Is Also An ADDed Dimension!


Imagine a World Without ADD


Appendix A

Suggested Reading List

Appendix B

Resource List


Product Details

A Self-help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder
Silver, Larry B., M.D. M. D. M.D.
Silver, Larry B.
Kelly, Kate
Ramundo, Peggy:
Silver, Larry B.
Ramundo, Peggy
New York :
Personal and practical guides
Learning disabilities
Attention-deficit disorder in adults
Attention Deficit Disorder with Hyperactivity
Attention-deficit disorder in adults -- Popular works.
General Psychology & Psychiatry
Edition Number:
1st Fireside ed.
Edition Description:
A Fireside book
Series Volume:
no. 3
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9.25 x 6.125 in 18.240 oz

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