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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: A Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorderby Kate Kelly
Synopses & Reviews
Straightforward, practical advice for taking control of the symptoms, minimizing the disabilities, and maximizing the advantages of adult ADD.
There is a great deal of literature about children with attention deficit disorder, ADD. But what do you do if you have ADD and aren't a child anymore? You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! focuses on the experiences of adults, offering accurate information, practical how-tos and moral support to help readers deal with ADD. It explains the diagnostic process that distinguishes ADD symptoms from normal lapses in memory, lack of concentration or impulsive behavior, and it addresses:
* Achieving balance by analyzing one's strengths and weaknesses
* Getting along in groups, at work and in intimate and family relationships — including how to decrease discord and chaos
* Learning the mechanics and methods for getting organized and improving memory
* Seeking professional help, including therapy and medication
Widely used by support groups around the country, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! is the indispensable reference for anyone who faces the challenge of ADD on a daily basis.
Includes bibliographical references (p. 414-419) and index.
About the Author
Kate Kelly is a master's prepared clinical specialist in psychiatric nursing. Her professional background includes experience as as a therapist, assistant professor and clinical coordinator for psychobiological research. Her graduate education focused on chronic mental illness, and this orientation eventually led her to an interest in the mental health self-help movement. She became a champion for individuals with severe mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia, believing that even those with severe impairments could learn to manage their own illnesses.
Ms. Kelly's prior publishing credits include an article entitled Fostering Self-Help on an Inpatient Unit, published in the Archives of Psychiatric Nursing. This article chronicled the results of her work in developing a model for an inpatient group that helped chronically mentally ill patients learn and share effective coping strategies.
Following her diagnosis with ADHD in 1989, Ms. Kelly's work moved in a new direction. Combining herpersonal and professional interests in adult ADD, she began to focus on this emerging area of mental health. Responding to the need to provide services for ADD adults, she founded the adult support group of the Attention Deficit Disorder Council of Greater Cincinnati in February of 1990. Although she no longer facilitates this group, she continues to consult with the Council on adult ADD and support group issues.
The information Ms. Kelly gathered from available literature and the personal stories of ADD adults in Cincinnati and nationwide lead to her work in writing I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy!? Currently she is using her personal and professional experiences and knowledge to give presentations on adult ADD for lay and professional groups. She also works in private practice leading psychoeducational therapy groups for ADD adults.
Table of Contents
Table Of Contents
Foreword by Larry B. Silver, M.D.
Introduction: ADD Isn't Just For Kids Anymore!
From the Porch to the Printed Page: A Reader's Guide to Understanding This Book
How To Read This Book
Who Should Read This Book
Diagnosis Isn't a Do-It-Yourself Enterprise
Understanding the Disorder That Makes Us Feel Lazy, Stupid or Crazy
About Definitions and Descriptions
The Big Three: Inattention, Impulsivity, Hyperactivity
How Common Is It?
Not Just for Boys Anymore
The Impact of Growing Up with ADD
Ages and Stages
The Cycle of Disapproval
Abilities and Disabilities
How Are We Different?
One Channel Operation
Locking In/Blocking Out
I Hate Details
Emotional Roller Coasters
The IDP Dynamic
Bottomless Pit of Needs
Activity Levels in Flux
Intractable Time Tyrant
Reaction Time Irregularity
Miniscule Mental Fuel Tanks
Undependable Memory/Learning Systems
Impaired Social Skills' Control Centers
The Not So Fine Art of Coping
Bad is Better Than Stupid
Chip On the Shoulder
Take Me or Leave Me
It Ain't So
Peter Pan Syndrome
The Party Animal
I KNOW...I THINK...I HAVE ADD: WHAT DO I DO NOW?
The Savvy Mental Health Consumer
The Why and How of the Diagnostic Evaluation
After the Diagnosis — You Are Worth All the Work It Will Take to Recover
Self-Discovery and the Grief Process: Shock of Recognition; Anger — Why Me?; Denial — Not Me!; Bargaining — It Can All Be Fixed; Depression — Reality Sinks In; Acceptance — Out of the Depths!
About Balance, Toyotas,® Porsches,® Circus High Wires, and the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
Finely Tuned and In Need of Sensitive Handling
How-To's of Achieving Balance: The 12 Step Framework
A One Rat Study: Analyzing Strengths and Weaknesses
Constructing a Personalized Safety Net for Your High Wire Act
Interfacing In Action: Groups and Friendships
The Art and Science of Communication
Hazard: Social Slippery Spots
Act I, Group Interactions: Mental Gymnastics; Running Out of Gas; Cruise Controls Set on Mega-Speed
Survival Tips: Group Interactions
Act II, One to One Encounters: Working At Not Working So Hard, Negative Self-Talk
Survival Tips: Friendships
Interfacing in Action: Getting Along on the Job
A Variation on the Theme of Interfacing
Act III, Getting Along At Work: Complex Interrelationships, Office Politics, Written and Unwritten Rules
Survival Tips: On the Job
High Tech Communication, or Don't Fax Yourself Out of State!
Work Related Stress: Noise, Doors and Telephones
Foot in Mouth Disease
What Do You Want to Do When You Grow Up?
Are You Failing On the Job or Is Your Job Failing You?
Interfacing In Action: In The Dating Game and The Family
High Stake Relationships
Act IV, The Dating Game: Intensity; Insatiability; the Walking Wounded; The Prince Charming Trap
Survival Tips: Intimate Relationships
Act V, Scene I, Marriage and Child Rearing: Meet the Bakers, 1 Plus 1 Is More Than Two, Parenting and the ADD Dimension
Survival Tips: "Planned Parenting"
Act V, Scene II, Chaos on the Cul-de-Sac: Boundary Issues and Invisible Circles
Survival Tips: Emotional Living Space
From Mealtime Mania to Outing Ordeals: How-To's of Decreasing Discord
Scenes From the Kitchen Table and ADD Family Fun
Family Life Through the Eyes of Tom, Jan, Amy, Zachary and Jennifer
Combustible Mix of ADD Temperaments
SurvivalTips: Reducing the Chaos and Turning Down the Volume
Survival Tips: From Chaos to Peaceful Co-Existence
Principles of Government: Family Style
Poised for Defense or Attack
Establishing a Shared Government
Principles and Rules of Conduct for Family Meetings
Equal Opportunity Participation: Problem-Solving, Bargaining, Negotiation, Contracting
Guarding Against Expectations of Perfection
Dynamics of ADD in Organization: Mechanics and Methods
Life is Difficult for the Organizationally Impaired
Creating Order: Where Do You Start?
Designing a Clearing Out and Storing System
Home Office Management: the Peace of Mind Payoff
Practical Tools for Mess Management
Paper Pile Management and Its Cardinal Rules
To Do's and Paper Pile Mismanagement
Time Management: Taming the Time Monster
Dynamics of ADD in Memory: Mechanics and Methods
The Memory Chain
Memory and Learning: You Can't Have One Without the Other
How Are Your Memories?
How Do You Learn: What's Your Learning Style?
Memory Tune-Up Techniques
Learning Disabilities and ADD
Crutches, Ladders and the Decision to Seek Professional Help
About Crutches, Ladders and Assumptions
Are You Ready to Ask for Help?
Alternative and Mainstream Therapies: What's the Difference?
The Value and Limitations of Research
Becoming Your Own Case Manager
To Be...or Not To Be Medicated
The Issue of Substance Abuse
Medicine and Medicine Management
A Trial and Error Process
The How and Why of Medicine
Benefits, Action, Side Effects, Dose Levels: Stimulant Medications; Tricyclic Antidepressants; Miscellaneous and Newer Drugs
Medicine: A Starting Place, Not the Final Destination
Therapy and More Therapy
Cognitive and Behavioral Therapy
Speech and Language Therapy
Social Skills Training
Alternative Therapy: Yoga; Massage; Brain Massage and Virtual Reality (!); Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Natural Childbirth Techniques
From Obstacle to Opportunity
If You Could Push a Button and Not Have ADD Anymore, Would You Push It?
About Joy, Hope and Possibilities
ADD and the Specialized Brain
Abilities Within Disabilities: The ADD Advantage
What Is Success?
Finding Your Niche: Better Late Than Never
The Bright Outlook for Us
ADD is More Than a Disorder: It Is Also An ADDed Dimension!
Imagine a World Without ADD
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