Don't get even — get mad, and get over it!

When your love life is boring, maybe you don't fight enough? When sex leaves a person cold, is frozen anger the problem? If you work too much, eat too much, drink too much, is it because you are afraid to get mad? Did you ever think of your anger as something constructive?

When you lose your temper honestly, it can be good for you. In this perennially bestselling book, eminent psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Theodore Isaac Rubin shows how one of the most powerful human emotions can change your life. Suppressed or twisted anger can lead to anxiety, depression, insomnia, psychosomatic illness, alcoholism, frigidity, impotence, and downright misery. But understanding and releasing anger can lead to greater health, happiness, and emotional wholeness.

Let Dr. Rubin show you how to be what you are: a human being.

San Francisco ExaminerAn illuminating, revelatory document.

S. Dave Babbitt

Speaking of Books

If his observations are correct, the screamers among us are doing all

right. But watch out for those cold and quiet cats.

Theodore Isaac Rubin, M.D., has served as president of the American Institute of Psychoanalysis and is the author of thirty books, including Compassion and Self-Hate, Lisa and David, Jordi, The Winner's Notebook, and Lisa and David Today. His books have been translated all over the world. He lives and practices psychiatry in New York City.

Introduction

1 BEGINNINGS

Even the Saints

Learning

Let Freedom Ring

Victims of Victims

Two Big Blocks

One Smaller Block

2 PERVERSIONS

Putting It Down

Putting It Off

Putting It On

Diluting It

Freezing It

3 TWISTING IT: THE ASSORTED POISONS

Anxiety

Depression

Guilt, Overeating, Self-Imposed Starvation

No Sleep and Sleep Sleep

Tomorrow and Tomorrow: Chronic Anticipation, Obsessive Ruminating, Peculiar Thoughts

Traps: Obsessions, Compulsions, Phobias

"No, No, No! A Thousand Times No!" — Denial

Self-Sabotage

Sweet, Sweet, Sweet, and the Blood Pressure Goes Up, Up, Up

Talk, Talk, Talk, and No Talk

Let's Pretend: Imitations of Anger

Bullying

Supersweet Talk

Blatant Blasting

Overworking, Oversexing, Overexercising

Savers

Subtle Sabotage

"I'm with You"

Half-Poisons

"Don't Worry About Me"

Easy Talk

Auto Poison

Telling the Truth

Spread It Around

"Someone Dies"

Always Tired

Joking and Boring

Phony Peace

"I'm So Sick"

Forevermore

Poison Poisons: Drugs

Juice-Stewing

Slush-Fund Explosions

Short Circuits

4 UNTWISTING: PROPHYLAXIS AND ANTIDOTES

What Is It?

Black and White

Feel and Tell

Timing

Who

Anger Doesn't Kill

Drop Dead!

Forgive and Forget

With or Without Justice

Appropriate and Inappropriate

By the Sex

By Age

Warm, Cold, and In-Between

All or Nothing

The Big Blow-Up

To Be Angry and to Be Mad While the Storm Blows Angry Psychiatrists

5 TAKING A CHANCE ON ANGER

Questions