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The Intermarriage Handbook: A Guide for Jews & Christians

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Publisher Comments:

"Chapter One

"Jewish-Christian History:

"A Legacy of Pain

History forms an invisible backdrop to every life decision discussed in the pages of this book. You need to understand this history — a history of virulent Christian persecution of Jews — because it is bound to affect you in some way.

Jews see themselves through the lens of history as a people who have existed for nearly five thousand years. Most Jews are keenly aware, and most Christians are not, that for the last two thousand years Jews have suffered horribly and repeatedly at the hands of Christians. For many Jews, this history plays like a tape in the mind — a tape that is triggered by symbols such as a crucifix or a Christmas tree, and that repeats: "Crusades, Inquisition, pogroms, Holocaust."

Although young Jews today may never have experienced anti-Semitism, they are the first generation in two thousand years to have escaped it. In the 1930s, American Nazis were able to muster large anti-Jewish marches in the streets of New York City. In the 1950s and 1960s, some residential neighborhoods, private schools, hotels, and resort communities still excluded Jews. Even today we have talked with children who have heard the accusation "Christ-killer" from their Christian playmates.

We often talked to Christian partners (and even some assimilated Jews) who thought Jews were vastly oversensitive or paranoid about this history. Until you understand the viciousness and persistence of the persecution — its reappearance time after time after periods of apparent peace and amity — you cannot understand the reactions of Jewish relatives or the Jewish community to your intermarriage. Therefore we must begin on thisgloomy but central topic. Seeing the accumulation of horrors, we hope, will help you to understand the "paranoia." Later we will be presenting many examples of couples who have overcome the barriers created by history. But in later chapters, when we allude to Jewish sensitivities, try to hear the tape playing that says, "Crusades, Inquisition, pogroms, Holocaust." Realize that your parents or in-laws are probably hearing it, too. This will set the psychological context for you.

Christianity began as a sect of Judaism. The first Christians were the apostles; they were all Jews who belonged to Jewish synagogues and abided by Jewish law. But when they began to proselytize among gentiles, they reached a momentous decision: Pagan converts would not be required to observe Jewish law. The early Christians believed that they were the logical evolution of Judaism, and that all Jews should and would join them. When that didn't happen, a reaction set in that some historians have compared to the reaction of a child slamming the door on the parent's home. Christianity began to contrast itself to Judaism and to declare that God's favor had passed from the "old" religion to the new.1

Jews, for their part, saw the Christians as having betrayed and deserted the Jewish people — particularly after the Christians fled Jerusalem, refusing to join in an uprising against Roman rule. Some of the apostles were persecuted or killed. The style of the time was inflated rhetoric, and bitter words were exchanged. Unfortunately, this bitter rhetoric became part of the founding theology of Christianity and laid the groundwork for centuries of wholesale persecution of Jews by Christians. Some passages in theNew Testament (particularly in the Gospel of John) were used by Church authorities to justify anti-Semitism, whether or not that was the Gospel writers' intent. The story of Jesus and the Pharisees, reiterated annually in the Easter liturgy, was used to inflame hatred of Jews.

In part, there was a political problem: In the early centuries of the Christian or Common Era, both Christianity and, to a lesser extent, Judaism were missionary religions competing for the same pagan population. But there was also a theological problem. The early Christians had expected the imminent return of Jesus and the ushering in of the last days. When that didn't occur, they developed a new view: Jesus would return when all the world had come to believe in Him. According to Christian theology, the Jewish faith was destined to wither away and be replaced by Christianity.

But the Jews persisted as a separate people. They did not all flock to embrace Christianity. They were an embarrassment. And they came to be seen as an impediment to the uniting of the world under Christianity. Instead of being regarded as people who remained loyal, often against great odds, to their own precepts and way of life, they were seen by the Christian leadership as people who had defiantly rejected the Truth of Christianity.

Two ideas provided the theological justification for later Christian persecution of the Jews: The first, originated by Saint Justin (who lived from the year 100 to 165), said that Jews were ejected from Jerusalem and their land ravaged as divine punishment for the death of Jesus. Although crucifixion was a Roman punishment, abhorred by Jews, and Jesus it; fact was executed by the Romans, the idea thatJews were Christ-killers and were collectively responsible for the death of Jesus became rooted in the Christian Church. While never an official part of church doctrine, neither was it officially repudiated until the Second Vatican Council (Vatican 11) in the mid-1960s.2 The second doctrine, developed by Saint Augustine (354-430), said the Jews were kept alive by God much as Cain was kept alive after he murdered Abel — with a brand on his forehead. God had decreed that the Jews would be perpetual wanderers, serving as living proof of what happened to people who reject Christ. This doctrine was later used to justify forced conversions and mass expulsions of Jews from many countries.

Synopsis:

When a Jew marries a Christian, sometimes families, rabbis, ministers, and holidays present turmoil and confusion. This comprehensive, immensely practical self-help book for the country's 500,000 inter-faith households offers suggestions for a relationship at any stage. "Intermarried couples will benefit from the wisdom of this book".--Psychology Today.

Synopsis:

The Intermarriage Handbook is a comprehensive, immensely practical self-help book for interfaith couples. Judy Petsonk and Jim Remsen interviewed hundreds of experts: psychologists, family therapist, sociologists, religious leaders--and especially the couples themselves. They discovered that the cultural differences between Christians and Jews are as significiant as their religious upbringings. Even if husband and wife are not practicing a faith, they may be feeling the strain of being in an interfaith relationship.

Filled with true-life anecdotes and useful step-by-step suggestions for a relationship at any stage, The Intermarriage Handbook is a book that couples can turn to again and again--for help with the questions that matter most.

Product Details

ISBN:
9780688103798
Subtitle:
Christians
With:
Remsen, Jim
Author:
Petsonk, Judy
Author:
Remsen, Jim
Publisher:
Harper Paperbacks
Location:
New York :
Subject:
Marriage
Subject:
Family Relationships
Subject:
Religion
Subject:
Sociology
Subject:
Sociology, anthropology and archaeology
Subject:
Jews
Subject:
Marriage and family
Subject:
Christians
Subject:
Christian Life - Marriage
Subject:
Interfaith marriage
Subject:
Christians -- United States -- Attitudes.
Subject:
Christianity - Christian Life - Marriage
Subject:
Christian Life - Love & Marriage
Subject:
General Family & Relationships
Subject:
Self-Help/Relationships
Copyright:
Edition Number:
1st Quill ed.
Edition Description:
Trade PB
Series Volume:
101-811
Publication Date:
19910130
Binding:
Paperback
Grade Level:
General/trade
Language:
English
Illustrations:
Yes
Pages:
416
Dimensions:
9.40x6.18x1.10 in. 1.02 lbs.

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"Synopsis" by , When a Jew marries a Christian, sometimes families, rabbis, ministers, and holidays present turmoil and confusion. This comprehensive, immensely practical self-help book for the country's 500,000 inter-faith households offers suggestions for a relationship at any stage. "Intermarried couples will benefit from the wisdom of this book".--Psychology Today.
"Synopsis" by , The Intermarriage Handbook is a comprehensive, immensely practical self-help book for interfaith couples. Judy Petsonk and Jim Remsen interviewed hundreds of experts: psychologists, family therapist, sociologists, religious leaders--and especially the couples themselves. They discovered that the cultural differences between Christians and Jews are as significiant as their religious upbringings. Even if husband and wife are not practicing a faith, they may be feeling the strain of being in an interfaith relationship.

Filled with true-life anecdotes and useful step-by-step suggestions for a relationship at any stage, The Intermarriage Handbook is a book that couples can turn to again and again--for help with the questions that matter most.

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