Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence

PARENTS CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN GIRL WORLD

Do you feel as though your adolescent daughter exists in a different world, speaking a different language and living by different laws? She does.

This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret world of girls friendships, translating and decoding them, so parents can better understand and help their daughters navigate through these crucial years. Rosalind Wiseman has spent more than a decade listening to thousands of girls talk about the powerful role cliques play in shaping what they wear and say, how they feel about school, how they respond to boys, and how they feel about themselves. In this candid and insightful book, Wiseman discusses:

• Queen Bees, Wannabes, Targets, Torn Bystanders, and others: how to tell what role your daughter plays and help her be herself

• Girls power plays, from birthday invitations to cafeteria seating arrangements and illicit parties, and how to handle them

• Good popularity and bad popularity: how cliques bear on every situation

• Hip Parents, Best-Friend Parents, Pushover Parents, and others: examine your own parenting style, “Check Your Baggage,” and identify how your own background and biases affect how you relate to your daughter

• Related movies, books, websites, and organizations: a carefully annotated resources section provides opportunities to follow up on your own and with your daughter

Enlivened with the voices of dozens of girls and parents and a welcome sense of humor, Queen Bees and Wannabes is compelling reading for parents and daughters alike. A conversation piece and a reference guide, it offers the tools you need to help your daughter feel empowered and make smarter choices.

Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores:

•How girls experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success

•The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated

•Girls power plays–from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages

•Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex

•Checking your baggage–recognizing how your experiences impact the way you parent, and how to be sanely involved in your daughters difficult, yet common social conflicts

Packed with insights about technologys impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book that inspired the hit movie Mean Girls offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity.

From the Hardcover edition.

1. 1.Cliques and popularity
2. 2.Passport from planet parent to girl world : communication and reconnaissance
3. 3. Thebeauty pageant : who wants to be Miss Congeniality
4. 4.Nasty girls : teasing, gossip, and reputations
5. 5.Power plays : group dynamics and rites of passage
6. 6.Boy world : the judges and the judged
7. 7.Girls meets boy : crushes, matchmaking, and the birth of fruit cup girl
8. 8.Pleasing boys, betraying girls : when relationships get more serious
9. 9.Parties : sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll
10. 10.Getting help.