Am I Blue?: Coming Out from the Silence

A heartfelt memoir by the father of a gay teen, and an eye-opening guide for families who hope to bring up well-adjusted gay adults.

Three years ago, John Schwartz, a national correspondent at The New York Times, got the call that every parent hopes never to receive: his thirteen-year-old son, Joe, was in the hospital following a failed suicide attempt. After finally mustering the courage to come out to his classmates, Joeandrsquo;s disclosure andmdash; delivered in a tirade about homophobic attitudesandmdash;was greeted with dismay and confusion by his fellow students. Hours later, he took an overdose of pills.

In the aftermath, John and his wife, Jeanne, found that their sonandrsquo;s school was unable to address Joeandrsquo;s special needs. Angry and frustrated, they initiated their own search for services and groups that could help Joe understand that he wasnandrsquo;t alone. Oddly Normal is Schwartzandrsquo;s very personal attempt to address his familyandrsquo;s own struggles within a culture that is changing fast, but not fast enough to help gay kids like Joe.

Schwartz follows Joseph through childhood to the present day, interweaving his narrative with common questions, including: Are effeminate boys and tomboy girls necessarily gay? Is there a relationship between being gay and suicide or mental illness? Should a child be pushed into coming out? Parents, teachers, and counselors alike will welcome Oddly Normal and its crucial lessons about helping gay kids andndash;and any kid who is different — learn how to cope in a potentially hostile world.

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A heartfelt memoir by the father of a gay teen, and an eye-opening story for families who hope to bring up well-adjusted gay adults.

Three years ago, John Schwartz, a national correspondent at The New York Times, got the call that every parent hopes never to receive: his thirteen-year-old son, Joe, was in the hospital following a failed suicide attempt. After mustering the courage to come out to his classmates, Joeandrsquo;s disclosure andmdash; delivered in a tirade about homophobic attitudesandmdash;was greeted with dismay and confusion by his fellow students. Hours later, he took an overdose of pills.

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Additionally, John and his wife, Jeanne, found that their sonandrsquo;s school was unable to address Joeandrsquo;s special needs. Angry and frustrated, they initiated their own search for services and groups that could help Joe understand that he wasnandrsquo;t alone. Oddly Normal is Schwartzandrsquo;s very personal attempt to address his familyandrsquo;s own struggles within a culture that is changing fast, but not fast enough to help gay kids like Joe.

Schwartz follows Joseph through childhood to the present day, interweaving his narrative with common questions, including: Are effeminate boys and tomboy girls necessarily gay? Is there a relationship between being gay and suicide or mental illness? Should a child be pushed into coming out? Parents, teachers, and counselors alike will welcome Oddly Normal and its crucial lessons about helping gay kids andndash;and any kid who is different — learn how to cope in a potentially hostile world.

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