Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today's Blended Family

Love may be sweeter the second time around, but once the bliss of a newfound relationship wears off a little, the reality of being part of a stepfamily sets in. If you are one of the millions of remarried Americans facing the challenge of blending two existing families into one cohesive whole, you are part of a stepcouple—and you know all too well how hard it can be to make your marriage work in sometimes tough terrain.

Different parenting styles, finances, relationships with ex-spouses, legal matters, and even seemingly simple issues such as the kinds of chores assigned to children can chisel away at your union if you dont always make your marriage a priority.

Stepcoupling offers advice for stepcouples on how to do just that—all the while strengthening their blended family with a healthy marriage. Susan Wisdom and Jennifer Green provide tips and strategies on dealing with the issues remarried couples face, with a wealth of advice from real-life stepcouples, such as:

* Learning to tailor your expectations of your spouse or children and remembering that no family is perfect

* Knowing where your boundaries are, whether involving a hostile ex-spouse or a stepchild who demands too much attention

* Realizing that traits like flexibility, tolerance, forgiveness, and openness are especially essential in a stepfamily situation

* Making “us” time for talking, problem-solving, weekends away, and enjoying your marriage to constantly renew and strengthen your bond as a couple

Let this invaluable remarriage manual help you make your stepcouple the foundation of a strong, happy, and successful stepfamily.

SUSAN WISDOM, LPC, is a therapist who specializes in counseling divorcing adults and stepfamilies. She lives in Portland, Oregon.

JENNIFER GREEN is a freelance writer who lives in Salem, Oregon.

Both authors have been part of successful stepcouples for the past twenty-five years.

One. Congratulations! You're Part of a Stepcouple

Two. Tailoring Your Expectations of your Spouse and Family

Three. Shaping and Knowing Your Own Boundaries

Four. Rewriting Roles: A Feat of Family Acrobatics

Five. Blending Your Sometimes Opposing Styles

Six. Embracing Values: Your Own and Your Partner's

Seven. Empowering Everyone: The Key to Stepcoupling Success

Eight. Looking Back: One Stepcouple's Story

Resources for Stepcouples

Organizations

Websites

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Index