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You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse--An 8- Step Program

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You can’t say that to me! "Can’t you do anything right?" "I can’t believe you would feed that junk to your child!" "What is this? And don’t tell me it’s a casserole, I already know that." "If you really cared about me, you wouldn’t behave this way." Sound familiar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of very unpleasant language from those who are closest to us—spouses, employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant; it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalating arguments and physical violence. Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your life—without ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved ones. Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abuse with:
  • An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbal abuse
  • Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess
  • Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusive situations, evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress
In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for yourself, quickly and forever.

Synopsis:

You can't say that to me! "Can't you do anything right?" "I can't believe you would feed that junk to your child!" "What is this? And don't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that." "If you really cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way." Sound familiar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of very unpleasant language from those who are closest to us--spouses, employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant; it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalating arguments and physical violence. Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your life--without ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved ones. Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abuse with:

* An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbal abuse

* Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess

* Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusive situations, evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress

In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for yourself, quickly and forever.

Description:

Includes bibliographical references (p. 193-202) and index.

About the Author

SUZETTE HADEN ELGIN, Ph.D., is an expert in applied psycholinguistics and the founder of the Ozark Center for Language Studies. She is the author of eight "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" titles, including Genderspeak: Men, Women, and the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, also published by Wiley. She lives with her family near Huntsville, Arkansas.

Table of Contents

Step 1: Recognizing the Source of the Problem.

Step 2: Recognizing the Source of the Solution.

Step 3: Recognizing that You Already Have Everything You Need to Put an End to Verbal Violence in Your Life.

Step 4: Recognizing that You Are an Expert in Your Language.

Step 5: Understanding the Two Goals of Verbal Self-Defense.

Step 6: Deciding Never to Participate in Verbal Violence--And Following Through.

Step 7: Maintaining Your Own Healthy Language Environment.

Step 8: Taking Responsibility for Your Own Language--And Its Consequences.

Conclusion.

Bibliography.

Indexes.

Product Details

ISBN:
9780471003991
Author:
Elgin, Suzette Haden
Publisher:
Wiley
Location:
New York :
Subject:
General
Subject:
Psychology
Subject:
Rhetoric
Subject:
Cognitive Psychology
Subject:
Invective
Subject:
Threat (psychology)
Subject:
Verbal self-defense
Subject:
Threat
Subject:
Conflict Resolution
Subject:
Self-Help : General
Subject:
General Self-Help
Copyright:
Series Volume:
186026
Publication Date:
January 1995
Binding:
TRADE PAPER
Grade Level:
General/trade
Language:
English
Illustrations:
Yes
Pages:
224
Dimensions:
9.02x6.02x.60 in. .68 lbs.

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"Synopsis" by , You can't say that to me! "Can't you do anything right?" "I can't believe you would feed that junk to your child!" "What is this? And don't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that." "If you really cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way." Sound familiar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of very unpleasant language from those who are closest to us--spouses, employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant; it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalating arguments and physical violence. Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your life--without ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved ones. Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abuse with:

* An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbal abuse

* Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess

* Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusive situations, evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress

In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for yourself, quickly and forever.

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