Secret Lovers: Affairs Happen . . . How to Cope

A Myth Shattering Look At Long-Term Love Affairs

Affairs, because of their secret nature, go unspoken. This silence has forced those involved to cope with incredibly complex problems with no support or advice. Until now. Secret Lovers is an indispensable and nonjudgmental resource that takes an unflinching look at the dynamics of long-term affairs. Linquist delves deep into our most intimate and risky of behaviors and shows us why people risk their family and status for secret lovers.

"This fascinating book sheds light on a subject kept in the dark too long. Without judging, her research illuminates the patterns, the passions, and the pitfalls."—Bruce Hilton, bioethics columnist, San Francisco Examiner

"As one who has given professionals guidance in public affairs-and is well used to 'Inside the Beltway Political Scandal'-it's insightful to dip into Luann Linquist's fascinating work. Don't be misled by a provocative title. Her in-depth accounts should certainly be helpful to thousands. It's akin to overhearing restaurant conversations or, at times, being underneath the psychiatrist's couch. This is a serious work with important implications."—John Jay Daly, APR, Washington, D.C.

"Dr. Linquist uses a nonjudgmental approach to put secret love affairs in their proper place. This practical guide offers excellent advice to anyone who has had, is having, or wants to have and affair."—Rita Freedman, clinical psychologist and author of Beauty Bound and Bodylove

". . . Therapists will find this book of value in their professional practice."—Penelope Russianoff, clinical psychologist and author of When Am I Going to Be Happy

A Myth Shattering Look At Long-Term Love Affairs

"As one who has given professionals guidance in public affairs-and is well used to 'Inside the Beltway Political Scandal'-it's insightful to dip into Luann Linquist's fascinating work. Don't be misled by a provocative title. Her in-depth accounts should certainly be helpful to thousands. It's akin to overhearing restaurant conversations or, at times, being underneath the psychiatrist's couch. This is a serious work with important implications."--John Jay Daly, APR, Washington, D.C.

Affairs, because of their secret nature, go unspoken. This silence has forced those involved to cope with incredibly complex problems with no support or advice. Until now. Secret Lovers is an indispensable and nonjudgmental resource that takes an unflinching look at the dynamics of long-term affairs. Linquist delves deep into our most intimate and risky of behaviors and shows us why people risk their family and status for secret lovers.

"This fascinating book sheds light on a subject kept in the dark too long. Without judging, her research illuminates the patterns, the passions, and the pitfalls." (Bruce Hilton, bioethics columnist, San Francisco Examiner)

". . . Therapists will find this book of value in their professional practice." (Penelope Russianoff, clinical psychologist and author of When Am I Going to Be Happy)

"As one who has given professionals guidance in public affairs-and is well used to 'Inside the Beltway Political Scandal'-it's insightful to dip into Luann Linquist's fascinating work. Don't be misled by a provocative title. Her in-depth accounts should certainly be helpful to thousands. It's akin to overhearing restaurant conversations or, at times, being underneath the psychiatrist's couch. This is a serious work with important implications." (John Jay Daly, APR, Washington, D.C.)

"Dr. Linquist uses a nonjudgmental approach to put secret love affairs in their proper place. This practical guide offers excellent advice to anyone who has had, is having, or wants to have and affair." (Rita Freedman, clinical psychologist and author of Beauty Bound and Bodylove)

1. Why Affairs?--And Why the Disapproval?

2. Common Patterns and Common Dreams.

3. In the Beginning.

4. The First Six Months: The Honeymoon Phase.

5. Working on Issues: The Transitional Phase.

6. The Long-Term Affair: The Maintenence Phase.

7. The End of the Affair.

8. After It's Over--And Looking Back.

9. How to Have a Successful Affair.

10. Healing.