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What Was I Thinking?: 58 Bad Boyfriend Stories

by Barbara Davilman and Liz Dubelman

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What Was I Thinking? is a collection of first-person essays describing the moment in a relationship when, no matter how much you think it should work, or want it to work, or need it to work, you get that its not going to work.  Maybe you overheard the wrong thing due to the physics-defying acoustics in the ladies room you ducked into during a dinner date (as in Amy Wrubles “Junk in the Trunk”).  Maybe you realized that its just impossible to be with a guy who orders a “creche” of wine instead of a carafe of wine, because “Hey, Baby. I'm a writer. I play with words.” (as in Lynn Snowden Pickets “Norm Crosby Syndrome”). Or maybe it was as obvious as having your boyfriend say that he thinks of other women during sex with you (as in Rhonda Talbots “Revenge Baby”). 

Whatever the details of that head-slapping moment, these epiphanies make great storieswhether frantically texted, recounted over lattes, or savored in What Was I Thinking?  Included in this collection are more than fifty classic bad boyfriend stories, from writers including:

Carrie Fisher

Claudia Handler

Bonnie Bruckheimer

Maira Kalman

Cindy Chupack

Rachel Resnick

Mimi Pond

Francesca Lia Block

Nicole Hollander

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About the Author

BARBARA DAVILMAN began her career in NY in advertising and then went on to create a greeting card company, Bittersweet, that dealt exclusively with relationships gone bad.  After that, she moved to Los Angeles to become a TV writer/producer.  Along with her husband, Ellis Weiner, she co-authored YIDDISH WITH DICK & JANE, YIDDISH WITH GEORGE & LAURA, and HOW TO RAISE A JEWISH DOG. In her ‘spare time she writes and produces reality television and is the Los Angeles Co-Coordinator for Ridgeback Rescue. 

LIZ DUBELMAN is the founder of VidLit.  Her pre-digital career included ten years in film production. Her television work won her two Emmys — one as a producer and one as a director. She has consulted to all of the major studios in the area of digital rights and Internet content.  Ms. Dubelman  is a graduate of Hampshire College. 

 

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youknowwho, February 15, 2009 (view all comments by youknowwho)
I wish I'd known about this anthology when she was looking for stories...I have one of the ultimate "bad boyfriend" stories that should most definitely have been included. Oh, well...maybe she'll do a sequel!

My own story is the following...I'll call my "bad boyfriend" Nash, a British-Canadian citizen living in Vancouver, B.C., who ironically had and still has a coaching practice that helps others learn how to create loving relationships. We had been together for some time when I became pregnant very unexpectedly. Up until that moment he had repeatedly talked about how he just loved children and wanted one of his own. But when he was actually confronted with the prospect of being a father for real, his attitude was "Choose...it's me or the child". He would not budge on this point for love or money--he said that he wouldn't support me in any way if I chose to have the child. What was his excuse, you ask? He claimed that "we weren't in a committed relationship", and that if I wanted to "work towards one" I needed to do as he wished and have an abortion, because "why would he want a woman who didn't do as he wished"...! Yes, those were his exact words. Needless to say, we had been involved intensely and deeply for some time--it was news to me that "we weren't in a committed relationship"--and regardless what happens, if a man truly loves you, he will flow with life and welcome whatever comes.

Well, women, when a man says that to you there is only one choice you can make...to do what is right for YOU and you alone, because obviously the man in your life doesn't love you enough to be worth trying to accommodate in any way. Nevertheless, since I loved him deeply, this experience was both incredibly sad and incredibly painful for me, and caused me a considerable amount of stress during my pregnancy. To this day--more than four years later--he has not had the guts to contact me and see his child. I cannot say that I am surprised; only that I am glad that my child does not have such a poor male role model in its life.

I have since discovered that he took up with a yoga teacher not long afterwards that has two daughters from a previous marriage. Yes, that's right, the man who wouldn't be a father to his own child now has two "stepdaughters". Unbelievable.

Be warned, my fellow women out there...if a man could do this to any woman in his life, it's only a matter of time until he does it to you. S.D., you poor creature, this means you. If I were you I'd pack up my daughters and move on!

If this book helps other women tell their stories and move on from their horrible experiences, I'm all for it!
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Jean Feingold, February 12, 2009 (view all comments by Jean Feingold)
I wish I had known about this book project in time to contribute. I have a bad boyfriend "aha! I knew it was over" moment that would fit right in. Looking forward to reading "58 Bad Boyfriend Stories."
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Product Details

ISBN:
9780312384722
Subtitle:
58 Bad Boyfriend Stories
Author:
Barbara Davilman and Liz Dubelman
Editor:
Davilman, Barbara
Editor:
Dubelman, Liz
Author:
Dubelman, Liz
Author:
Davilman, Barbara
Publisher:
St. Martin's Press
Subject:
Love & Romance
Subject:
Women
Subject:
Man-woman relationships
Subject:
Human Sexuality
Subject:
Interpersonal Relations
Subject:
Women -- Psychology.
Edition Description:
Trade Cloth
Publication Date:
February 2009
Binding:
Hardcover
Grade Level:
General/trade
Language:
English
Illustrations:
Y
Pages:
200
Dimensions:
8.31x5.85x.81 in. .80 lbs.

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