The Undervalued Self: Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth

"Psychotherapist and 'social psychologist' Aron (The Highly Sensitive Person) presents a 'rich, complex and deeply layered' approach to building self-esteem, suitable for studious readers ready to work for understanding and change. Introducing lots of psychology terms and ideas, Aron's guide requires attention and concentration; regarding quick fixes like self-affirmations, Aron contends that research shows 'they can make those with low self-esteem feel even worse about themselves.' Instead, Aron investigates the basic concepts of ranking and linking, which play a role in all of our relationships and contribute to the ways we undervalue ourselves. Using a series of true/false questionnaires, case studies and analytical observation, Aron identifies the masks and self-defense strategies we use unconsciously to deal with traumatic events, and how those strategies affect self-worth. Topics under consideration include dreams, the specter of the Inner Critic, and self-sabotaging behavior like the Protector-Persecutor paradigm. Though the material can be hard to grasp, dedicated rereading will give readers a sophisticated understanding of low self-esteem, and concrete steps to improve it." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)

The bestselling author of The Highly Sensitive Person shows how we can understand and master the interplay of love and power to bring success to every relationship.

Elaine Aron follows up her bestsellers on the highly sensitive person with a groundbreaking new book on the undervalued self. She explains that self-esteem results from having a healthy balance of love and power in our lives. Readers will learn to incorporate love into situations that seem to require power and deal with power struggles that mask themselves as issues of love. From the bedroom to the boardroom, her strategies will enable us to escape feelings of shame, defeat, and depression; dissolve relationship hostility; and become our best selves. With Aron's clear, empathetic writing and extraordinary scientific and human insight, THE UNDERVALUED SELF is a simple and effective guide to developing healthy, fulfilling relationships, and finding true self-worth.

This simple and effective guide presents the best ways for readers to have healthy, fulfilling relationships, and find true self-worth. Readers will learn to incorporate love into situations that seem to require power and deal with power struggles that mask themselves as issues of love.