You're Perfect and Other Lies Parents Tell: The Ugly Truth about Spoiling Your Kids

Think youre doing your kids a favor telling them what perfect angels they are?  Think again.

Former Criminal Prosecutor, mother and stepmother Loni Coombs has witnessed too many times the shockingly negative effects of what most parents feel to be the very best parenting techniques. They think, “Ill give my children what I never had, Ill pave their way to success, Ill take care of their problems,” and then theyre blindsided by their childrens utter helplessness when it comes to thriving in the real world, their inability to get and keep a job, even their unexpected run-ins with the law. What went wrong? This book solves the mystery. 

"The ugly truth parents need to face is that telling your children that they are perfect and shielding them from the consequences of their actions while insisting that every child gets a first-place trophy is not good parenting," says Coombs. Youre Perfect… is the urgent wake-up call that the parents of the “Me Generation” so desperately need, and the easy-to-implement information within its pages could change the course of millions of young lives for the better. 

Youre Perfect… is your crash course in real-world parenting and will teach you:

•  The dangers you may be exposing your child to

•  How to transform your child's self-entitlement into self-control

•  How to get your children to treat you with respect

•  The warning signs indicating your child is at risk for delinquency

•  How to tackle drug and alcohol problems

•  When to invade your child's privacy

Whether youre holding a newborn in your arms or youve got an 18-year-old spiraling out of control, this is the guide every parent should have to be prepared for the unexpected and to protect their children from societys dangerous pitfalls.

Youre Perfect and Other Lies Parents Tell  is the urgent wake-up call that the parents of the “Me Generation” so desperately need, and the easy-to-implement information within its pages could change the course of millions of young lives for the better.

Loni Coombs has a unique and valuable perspective on parenting in todays world. As a former prosecutor for the Los Angeles District Attorneys Office, she saw family after family face the brutal reality that their child wasnt as “perfect” as they so wanted to believe. She worked with parents of young people put into prison for everything from drug possession and theft to murder, and in so doing, developed a sincere passion for helping families avoid these tragic times. But what truly makes her message powerful is her ability, as a mother and stepmother herself, to convey heartfelt support and empathy for all parents.

Los Angeles, California

Part I: What is Happening to My Kid?

Chapter 1 - Your Child is at Risk and you Dont Even Know It

Chapter 2 - Youre At Risk Too

 

Part II: The Principles - Building a New Life From the Inside

Chapter 3  - Starting at the Core

Chapter 4 - From Self-entitlement to Self-control

Chapter 5 - the Golden Rule of Respect

Chapter 6 - Listening to Your Children

Chapter 7 - Talking to Your Children

Chapter 8 - Better Kids Through Better Families

 

Part III: The Danger Zones - How to Protect Your Child from the Outside

Chapter 9 - Dealing with Drugs and Alcohol

Chapter 10 - The Perils of Technology

Chapter 11 - What to Do About Sex

Chapter 12 - When to Invade Your Childs Privacy

Chapter 13 - If Your Child Gets Arrested…

Chapter 14 - Getting Expert Help

Chapter 15 - Could Your Child Be a Psychopath?

 

Part IV: What Do I Do When…?

Chapter 16 - Common Questions Parents Ask

 

Part V: Letting Go

Chapter 17 - The Launching Phase

Epilogue