An all-American love story about a former punk-rock stripper and her unlikely marriage to an officer in the U.S. Army.

In this brave, eloquent, and often funny memoir, critically acclaimed author Lily Burana writes about love, war, and the realities of military marriage with an honesty few writers would dare.

A former exotic dancer who once had a penchant for anarchist politics and purple hair dye, Lily's rebellious past never would have suggested a marriage into the military. But then she met Mike, a Military Intelligence officer, and fell hopelessly in love, resulting in a most unorthodox romance-poignant, passionate, and utterly unpredictable.

After Lily and Mike said I do in a brief, pre-deployment City Hall ceremony, Mike left for Operation Iraqi Freedom, and Lily was left in a strange town to endure his absence alone, with no support system and little knowledge of the vast and confusing military world into which she had married.

Upon Mike's return from the war, the couple moved to historic West Point, where Lily found that life on base had its own challenges. As the war continued and the past intruded unexpectedly into the present, Lily and Mike found themselves plunged into the nightmare of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Struggling to cope in a community where admitting weakness is the ultimate tabooand suck it up is the suggested response to emotional pain, Lily suffered from depression so severe, it almost ended their marriage. With the help of a revolutionary therapeutic technique, the couple made their way out of the darkness and back to each other. Through it all, Lily wrangled with her preconceptions about the military and found her place within the uniquely supportive sisterhood of military wives.

From harrowing emotion to the dishy details of life on base, Lily Burana bares her heart and soul as a modern military spouse. I Love a Man in Uniform is a profoundly moving story of how a woman can locate, and heal, her true self as a dedicated Army wife, free spirit, and freedom-loving American.

"A former stripper, Burana (Strip City) married a major in the U.S. Army and records, in this heartfelt though long-winded confessional, her attempts to render their two very different worlds compatible. Burana enjoyed a decidedly checkered past, from 'accidental teenage communist' to peep-show girl and stripper in New York and San Francisco (she fondly recalls her Playboy shoot), before meeting 'Major Mike' at a ceremony in a Brooklyn cemetery in 2000. She was attracted by his sense of order and honor, even charmed by his military jargon, while he admired her rebelliousness, though these same qualities would challenge their relationship over time. Living together in a condo near Fort Meade, Fla., where Mike was stationed, segued into a quick marriage (she called herself a 'War on Terror' bride), before he was deployed to Iraq for six months in 2003, creating for her a painful personal trial of waiting and self-discipline. Their move to West Point underscored her new role as military wife, and she embarked on a gloomy, unstable period of psychological turmoil requiring therapy and medication for her own brand of post-traumatic stress disorder. Marriage counseling worked for them, bucking the high divorce rate within the armed forces, and Burana concludes her memoir on a positive note, having made peace with the army's fallibility and found her own place in it." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)

Although it may sound like a case of opposites attracting — punky anarchist marries career soldier — Lily Burana makes clear that she and her husband are really birds of a feather, even if they come from different flocks. When Burana, who made her name with an earlier memoir about working as a stripper, met Mike, an Army officer, she couldn't imagine what they could share, beyond "mutual curiosity."... Washington Post Book Review (read the entire Washington Post review) Yet both were smart, funny, driven and idealistic, and, as they grew closer, they found even more in common, including lingering wounds from traumas both military (his) and domestic (hers).

Burana can be hilarious, especially when she skewers the Stepford-style advice once given to Army wives. Upon reading a 1940s book declaring that "Army men like feminine frippery ... furs, snow-white gloves, and high-heeled slippers," Burana retorts, "But what should I wear?" Still, the book shifts easily into more emotional territory as she navigates loneliness and worry when her husband is deployed to the Middle East. "War is hell and waiting is hell and war is waiting," she writes. Even worse can be the marital aftershocks when soldiers return home. As both these spouses battle their demons, it becomes clear that this Army wife matches her husband in grit and persistence, even if she expresses it with more sass than brass.

Reviewed by Kate Tuttle, Washington Post Book World (Copyright 2006 Washington Post Book World Service/Washington Post Writers Group)
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From the author of the acclaimed memoir "Strip City" comes an eloquent and funny account of this former punk-rock stripper's unlikely marriage to an officer in the U.S. Army. From harrowing emotion to the dishy details of being an Army wife, Burana bares her heart and soul as a modern military spouse.