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Disease To Please Curing the People Plea

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What's wrong with being a "people pleaser?" Plenty!

"A fascinating book... If you struggle with where, when, and how to draw the line between your own desires and the demands of others, buy this book!"­­Kay Redfield Jamison, bestselling author of An Unquiet Mind and Night Falls Fast

People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No." For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage.

Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery.

Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle - involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - will cause a dramatic, positive and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome.

As a recovered peoplepleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.

Synopsis:

A New York Times bestseller

NOW IN PAPERBACK

Bestselling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers help for anyone who has ever felt the resentment of giving 100 percent to others and getting nothing in return.

Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. It is the first book to treat people pleasing as a serious psychological syndrome, and it breaks new ground in its approach to offer a cure. Dr. Braiker offers a 21-Day Action Plan for curing the Disease to Please. A daily psychological workout and skills-training program, it will help readers replace the compulsion to comply with a more conscious and reasoned choice to care. The Disease to Please includes:

  • Extensive case studies
  • Diary and journal formats to help recovery
  • An effective three-stage short-term therapy approach

About the Author

Best-selling author Dr. Harriet Braiker has been a practicing clinical psychologist and management consultant in Los Angeles for more than 25 years. The author of several highly successful popular psychology books, she has also authored numerous scholarly award-winning research textbooks and other publications. She has been a contributing editor and columnist for Working Woman and Lear's, and has also written for many other national women's magazines. Dr. Braiker has appeared many times on such national talk shows as "Oprah", "The Today Show", "Larry King", "Live with Regis and Kathy Lee", "Hour Magazine", "Sonya Live", the "NBC Nightly News" with Tom Brokaw, and CNN. Visit Dr. Braiker at www.diseasetoplease.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: The Disease to Please Triangle: The Price of Nice

Part One: People-Pleasing Mindsets

Chapter 2: Toxic Thoughts

Chapter 3: Its Okay Not to Be Nice

Chapter 4: Putting Others First

Chapter 5: Theres More to You Than How Much You Do

Chapter 6: Nice People Can Say “No”

Part Two: People-Pleasing Habits

Chapter 7: Learning to Please: Approval Addiction

Chapter 8:Why Cant You Get Your Parents Approval?

Chapter 9: Love at All Costs

Chapter 10: Romantic Addiction

Part Three: People-Pleasing Feelings

Chapter 11: Once More,Without Feelings

Chapter 12: The Fear of Anger

Chapter 13:Words Can Really Hurt You

Chapter 14: How Far Would You Go to Avoid a Confrontation?

Chapter 15: Small Steps, Big Changes

The 21-Day Action Plan for Curing the Disease to Please

A Users Guide to the 21-Day Action Plan

Day 1: Dont Say “Yes”When You Want to Say “No”

Day 2: The Broken Record Technique

Day 3: The Counteroffer

Day 4:What to Say If You Want to Say “No”: The Sandwich Technique

Day 5: The Reverse Sandwich Technique

Day 6: Rewriting the Ten Commandments of People-Pleasing

Day 7: Rewriting the Seven Deadly Shoulds

Day 8: Taking Care of You

Day 9: Talking Yourself Out of Approval Addiction

Day 10: To Do or Not to Do, That Is the Question

Day 11: Tag, Youre It

Day 12: Its Okay Not to Be Nice

Day 13: The Anger Scale

Day 14: The Relaxation Breath

Day 15: Anger-Up

Day 16: Anger-Down

Day 17: TIME OUT

Day 18: Stress Inoculation

Day 19: Solve a Problem with a Friend, Not for a Friend

Day 20: Correcting Faulty Assumptions

Day 21: Celebrate Your Cure

Epilogue: Some Final Thoughts

Product Details

ISBN:
9780071364102
Subtitle:
Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome
Author:
Braiker, Harriet B.
Author:
Braiker, Harriet
Publisher:
McGraw-Hill
Location:
New York
Subject:
Self-Esteem
Subject:
Interpersonal Relations
Subject:
Interpersonal communication
Subject:
Behavior therapy
Subject:
Assertiveness (psychology)
Subject:
Assertiveness
Subject:
Careers - General
Subject:
General Self-Help
Copyright:
Edition Number:
1
Series Volume:
106-409
Publication Date:
20020213
Binding:
Paperback
Grade Level:
General/trade
Language:
English
Pages:
288
Dimensions:
9.27x6.29x1.07 in. 1.80 lbs.

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NOW IN PAPERBACK

Bestselling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers help for anyone who has ever felt the resentment of giving 100 percent to others and getting nothing in return.

Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. It is the first book to treat people pleasing as a serious psychological syndrome, and it breaks new ground in its approach to offer a cure. Dr. Braiker offers a 21-Day Action Plan for curing the Disease to Please. A daily psychological workout and skills-training program, it will help readers replace the compulsion to comply with a more conscious and reasoned choice to care. The Disease to Please includes:

  • Extensive case studies
  • Diary and journal formats to help recovery
  • An effective three-stage short-term therapy approach

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