We choose the person we want to live with, but living together as a couple is not a guaranteenor a walk in the park for that matter. In truth, it is embarking on an adventure that leads to many different possibilities; that invites us to grow as respectful and loving individuals. Juntos pero no atados encourages us to build a relationship where each person can be an individual while working to achieve a shared space. In order to do this, the authors review the concept of love and set forth the importance of privacy, territory, its limits and boundaries, fidelity, and the process that leads to crisis when building an emotionally healthy relationshipone that is built on love and not co-dependency.