True love doesn't just happen, notes professional matchmaker Patti Novak. You have to work for it-and want it. Forget eight-minute speed dates or online dating sites with twenty-page questionnaires that promise a scientifically calculated perfect match. The fact that you both like golf, stamp collecting, and pizza with anchovies is great, but it won't mean a thing if you don't feel that zing.

But before there can be sparks, there have to be dates. And before the first date, you need to get over yourself Taking a tough-love approach, and in her signature straight-shooting style, Patti will show you how to fix what needs to be fixed, reach your core, and identify who you are and what you want in a partner. She uses a three-part common-sense formula:

- Getting Over What? Assess your dating weaknesses, recognize what's not working, and adjust your expectations. Delve into your personal history and past relationships, and pinpoint the issues that have been holding you back.

- Almost Over It Fine-tune your attitude, your look, and your behavior to maximize your dating chances. Novak lays out strategies to help you deal with the brutal dating monsters you find along the way.

- Over It Learn the do's and don'ts of the first date, the second date, and beyond. Remember, it's not a job interview or therapy session. Pretend you're meeting a new friend, not a prospective husband or wife.

Finding your one and only isn't about having the right shoes or a flat stomach. It's about being true to yourself, being vulnerable, and being ready for love. Whether you're new to the dating scene, divorced and looking, or just trying to reach that second date, Get Over Yourself will help youget the love you've always wanted and deserve.

"In their first-rate book, Novak, star of TV's Confessions of a Matchmaker, and novelist Zigman (Animal Husbandry) prove to be a match made in heaven. Novak cuts the bull when it comes to dating advice: you have to know yourself before you can find love. The book exhorts the reader to 'Get Over It' when it comes to 'thinking all men are jerks' or being paralyzed by past relationship trauma. Like a dating GPS, the book identifies dating obstacles and puts readers on the right road to romantic fulfillment. No shrinking violet, Novak is part drill sergeant (especially when it comes to self-exploration worksheets), part 'love therapist' (though she refers on deep issues to the appropriate professionals). Writing in a frank — and funny — manner, Novak uses tough love in offering a compelling and rewarding read for the lovelorn." Publishers Weekly (Starred Review) (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)

The star of A&E's popular series "Confessions of a Matchmaker," Novak's signature tough-love approach combines honest, no-nonsense advice--as well as laugh-out-loud do's and don'ts--to help people figure out who they are so that they can get on with their love lives.