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Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

by Lundy Bancroft

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ISBN13: 9780425191651
ISBN10: 0425191656
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"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control." "He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children — he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..."

Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:

  • The early warning signs
  • Nine abusive personality types
  • How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will
  • The role of drugs and alcohol
  • What can be fixed, and what can't
  • How to leave a relationship safely
Includes bibliographical references (p. 391-400) and index.

Review:

"Promises to be a beacon of calm and sanity for many storm-tossed families." Publishers Weekly
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About the Author

Lundy Bancroft has spent the last 15 years specializing in abusive men. The author of articles in medical journals and professional books, he is the former co-director of Emerge, the nation's first program for abusive men. Now he trains various state and judicial agencies in working with domestic abuse.
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Table of Contents

Note on terminology — Introduction — pt. I : The nature of abusive thinking — The mystery ; The mythology ; The abusive mentality ; The types of abusive men — pt. II : The abusive man in relationships — How abuse begins ; The abusive man in everyday life ; Abusive men and sex ; Abusive men and addiction ; The abusive man and breaking up — pt. III : The abusive man in the world — Abusive men as parents ; Abusive men and their allies ; The abusive man and the legal system — pt. IV : Changing the abusive man — The making of an abusive man ; The process of change ; Creating an abuse-free world.

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capricorn, November 7, 2007 (view all comments by capricorn)
This book is an excellent read. I was amazed at how some of the quotes in the book are almost word for word things that I have said, thought or heard in my past relationship. Even if you are not in an emotionally abusive relationship I recommend this book just so that women can recogize the early warning signs. This book is so well organized and such an easy read that you can't help but pick up the information Lundy is giving out. She uses plain English for the every day gal so you don't have to have a Psychology degree yourself to understand it. This book was written for the emotionally and mentally abused woman. Ever since I read this book I have been telling all my friends and family about it. If you even suspect that someone might be in an emotionally abusive relationship I suggest you get this book for them. It is so hard to show your "emotional" bruises that you just feel like maybe you're losing your mind. This book helped to give me that final validation that I needed to get healthy again. The most profound statement that I found is early on in the book. "Half or more of physically abused women report that the emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm."
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Product Details

ISBN:
9780425191651
Subtitle:
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Author:
Bancroft, Lundy
Publisher:
Berkley
Location:
New York
Subject:
General
Subject:
Abuse
Subject:
Dysfunctional Families
Subject:
Wife abuse
Subject:
Family violence
Subject:
Victims of family violence
Subject:
Abusive men
Subject:
Abuse - General
Subject:
General Self-Help
Edition Description:
2003. Corr. 4th
Series Volume:
2002-5
Publication Date:
January 2002
Binding:
Hardcover
Grade Level:
General/trade
Language:
English
Illustrations:
Yes
Pages:
408
Dimensions:
900x600
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