Tim Cook, February 26, 2009 (view all comments by Tim Cook)
As a father of an 11 year old daughter I found this book to be a cautionary tale. Also having two younger boys it reminded me of the importance of not only raising a daughter with a strong sense of self but the need to raise caring young men. I thought this was an excellent book.
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BrittleeB303, December 8, 2008 (view all comments by BrittleeB303)
Kerry Cohen is only 11 years old when she realizes the power of a womans body. She goes off to bars, and parties in search of new boys, using each as a rebound to get over the last. She wants to be loved more than anything in the world, but once she gets it from these guys, she grows bored with them. What is wrong with me? She thinks to herself? She does drugs, and pretends to act like another person to get these men to like her. It is not until she finally thinks that she has no feeling left in her, and that she doesn't care anymore that she falls in love with someone, but she herself is scared of what is to come.
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"Publishers Weekly Review"
by Publishers Weekly,
"Despite the rather prurient title, Cohen's memoir is a deeply poignant, desperately sad account of a confused, directionless adolescent girl's free fall into self-abnegation. Growing up affluent in New Jersey in the 1980s and smarting from the recent breakup of her parents, 11-year-old Cohen begins to recognize the power her nubile body has over men. Being wanted becomes her greatest hope; once she and her older sister, Tyler, begin living with her father when her mother decides to attend med school in the Philippines, she latches onto other girls with whom she treks into New York City to bar hop at places like Dorian's Red Hand and pick up older, eager boys. Stunningly, the father is not alarmed by her early-morning absences, but seems to encourage her popularity, buying her clothes and treating her as a grownup. Gradually, hooking up with boys becomes a need, a way to bolster her faltering sense of self-worth. A litany of dreary sex acts follows with young men she doesn't particularly like and who don't like her, regardless of STD scares and a college rape. The painter mother of one of her boyfriends does initiate her into more intellectual pursuits, awakening a redemptive desire to become a writer. Cohen's memoir of a lost childhood is commendably honest and frequently excruciating to read." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
by Kirkus Reviews,
"Cohen's ultimate ownership of her issues leaves as much of an impression as her openness in putting them out there. An important look at the dynamics of female sexual power and promiscuity in general."
by Library Journal,
"[B]rutally honest....Cohen is not proud of her past — she says she is disgusted — but this memoir gives readers a forthright look at the addiction of promiscuity. Highly recommended."
by Alison Smith, author of Name All the Animals,
"Cohen's clear-eyed, evocative, and engaging voice draws you into this harrowing story, into the heart of her addiction. Her honesty is brave, her clarity is remarkable, her candor is disarming. No matter who you are, you will find yourself, at key moments, identifying with Cohen. And in the end, you will cheer for her hard-won happiness."
by Janice Erlbaum, author of Girlbomb: A Halfway Homeless Memoir,
"Kerry Cohen's powerful, transfixing story will be familiar to many women, most of whom won't want to admit it. In this heartfelt and authentic memoir, Cohen transcends the pain and shame of a promiscuous past, and leaves readers with a sense of hope and triumph."
Cohen's captivating memoir about her descent into promiscuity, and how she gradually found her way toward real intimacy, is a story of addiction — and not just to sex.
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