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Big Big Love, Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (And Those Who Love Them)


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Love, Romance, and Great Big Sexuality for Everyone

Big Big Love is the only one-stop-shopping handbook on relationships, sexuality, and big sexy confidence for people of all genders, sizes, and sexual orientations who know that a fantastic love life doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the number on the bathroom scale. Covering everything from dating to sex toys to getting on top, this guide also features tips on navigating tricky topics like making peace with your belly, coping with weight-related prejudice, and creating a happy, satisfying sex life in a culture where no body is ever perfect enough.

This freshly illustrated update of the 2000 cult classic features new interviews with body-acceptance activists, health coaches, psychologists, and more, plus hundreds of quotes from fat folks and those who love them selected from a survey conducted exclusively for the book. From taking your clothes off to BDSM to fat admiration to tips for successful long-term relationships, Big Big Love’s savvy, sane advice can help you tackle every hot-button issue you may confront in the bedroom and in love.

About the Author

Hanne Blankis the writer or editor of six books about sex, bodies, and culture. Her work has been featured inPenthouse,Lilith,Bitch, and more. She has been interviewed on National Public Radio and BBC 4, spoken at numerous campuses and conferences, and taught at Brandeis and Tufts universities. She lives with her partner of fifteen years in Baltimore, Maryland.

Table of Contents

Preface xi

A Brief Introduction, with a Side of Debunking 1

Chapter One BODY AND SOUL 19

What You Can Expect 20

Things Would Be So Different If They Were Not as They Are 25

Physical “Fit-ness” 29

The Shape of Things 32

Dressing the Part 36

Interview: Playing Dress-Up with Lesley Kinzel 38

Cleanliness Is Next to Sexiness 40

When Your Body Changes 44

Weight-Loss Dieting and Your Sex Life 47

Move It 49

Chapter Two WHO’S WHO 53

Straight but Not Narrow 54

Fat Admirers 56

Fat Asexuals: Probably Not What You’re Thinking 58

Chubbies and Chasers and Bears, Oh My! 61

Glorious Dykes 62

Bi and Large 64

Trans Fats 65

Fat and Kinky 67

Chapter Three GETTING A GRIP 69

Changing What You See 70

Fake It ’Til You Make It 73

Interview: Seeing Your Attractiveness More Clearly with Golda Poretsky 74

Tell Me What You Want 80

On Being a Sex Object 83

The Naked Truth 91

Interview: Taking It Off for the Camera with Substantia Jones 94

The Belly Dance 98

Friendly Fire 101

Strategies and Comebacks 103

Interview: Sheila Addison, Psychologist 104


Dear Fat Admirer 112

Coming Out 115

Interview: Coming Out with Yohannon 118

How Not to Be an Asshole 122

Axis of Allies 127

Chapter Five TO YOUR HEALTH! 133

Your Rights as a Fat Sexual/Reproductive Health Care Consumer 134

Fertility, Contraception, and Pregnancy 136

Sexually Transmitted Infections and Safer Sex 138

OW! Preventing Sex Injuries 141

Dysfunction Junction 144

Keeping Your Head When Your Feet Are in the Stirrups 148

PCOS 153

Lipedema and Lymphedema 155

Gynecomastia 157


Yes! Yes! Yes! 160

Assume the Position 163

Masturbation 166

Penetrative Sex 169

Oral Sex 174

Getting on Top 175

Fat Porn and Erotica 177

Sex Toys and Accessories 180

Beyond Vanilla 183

BDSM 185

Fat as Fetish 189

Feederism 192

Fat Sex Questions Greatest Hits 195

Resource Guide 203

General Sex Education and Information 204

Special Issue Sex Education and Information 205

Fat Acceptance and Size Acceptance 206

Health and Wellness 208

Hygiene Aids 209

Movement and Injury Prevention 209

Social and Dating Resources 210

Size-Positive Imagery, Erotica, and Pornography 212

Sex Toys and Accessories 214

Fat-Friendly Sex Toy and Accessories Vendors 215

Lingerie and Clothing 216

About the Author 217

Index 218

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A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (And Those Who Love Them)
Ten Speed Press
Blank, Hanne
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