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You're Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation

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Publisher Comments:

Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship.

It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own.

Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves?

Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.

With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives.

“Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn't just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle 

From the Hardcover edition.

Synopsis:

An incisive study of the mother-daughter relationship by the author of You Just Don't Understand examines every aspect of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of the other's point of view. 100,000 first printing.

Synopsis:

Mothers and daughters do not speak different languages--but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Tannen explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.--From publisher description.

About the Author

Deborah Tannen is the acclaimed author of You Just Don’t Understand, which was on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly four years; I Only Say This Because I Love You, which won the Books for a Better Life Award; Talking from 9 to 5, a New York Times bestseller; That’s Not What I Meant!; and many other books. A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she appears frequently on such shows as The Oprah Winfrey Show, Today, Good Morning America, Nightline, 20/20, and NPR’s All Things Considered. She lives with her husband in the Washington, D.C., area. Her website is www.deborahtannen.com.

Table of Contents

Can we talk?: Mothers and daughters in conversation — My mother, my hair: caring and criticizing — Don't shut me out: the importance of being female — She's just like me, she's nothing like me: where do you end and I begin? — Stop this conversation, I want to get off — Wanted: Mother-a job description — Best friends, worst enemies: a walk on the dark side — "Oh mom...BRB": how E-mail and instant messaging are changing relationships — Blending intimacy and independence: new ways of talking.

Product Details

ISBN:
9781588365217
Subtitle:
Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation
Publisher:
Random House
Author:
Tannen, Deborah
Subject:
Family & Relationships-General
Subject:
Family & Relationships : General
Subject:
Social Science : General
Subject:
Motherhood
Subject:
Family Relationships
Subject:
Communication
Subject:
Interpersonal communication
Subject:
Mothers and daughters
Subject:
Child Care and Parenting-Parenting Teens
Subject:
Self Help-Communication
Subject:
Self-Help : General
Subject:
main_subject
Subject:
all_subjects
Publication Date:
2006
Binding:
ELECTRONIC
Language:
English
Pages:
272

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"Synopsis" by , An incisive study of the mother-daughter relationship by the author of You Just Don't Understand examines every aspect of this complex bond and shows how to improve communication within a family by developing an understanding of the other's point of view. 100,000 first printing.
"Synopsis" by , Mothers and daughters do not speak different languages--but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Tannen explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.--From publisher description.
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