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Get over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Loveby Patti Novak
Synopses & Reviews
True love doesn’t just happen, notes professional matchmaker Patti Novak. You have to work for it–and want it. Forget eight-minute speed dates or online dating sites with twenty-page questionnaires that promise a scientifically calculated perfect match. The fact that you both like golf, stamp collecting, and pizza with anchovies is great, but it won’t mean a thing if you don’t feel that zing.
But before there can be sparks, there have to be dates. And before the first date, you need to get over yourself! Taking a tough-love approach, and in her signature straight-shooting style, Patti will show you how to fix what needs to be fixed, reach your core, and identify who you are and what you want in a partner. She uses a three-part common-sense formula:
• Getting Over What? Assess your dating weaknesses, recognize what’s not working, and adjust your expectations. Delve into your personal history and past relationships, and pinpoint the issues that have been holding you back.
• Almost Over It Fine-tune your attitude, your look, and your behavior to maximize your dating chances. Novak lays out strategies to help you deal with the brutal dating monsters you find along the way.
• Over It Learn the do’s and don’ts of the first date, the second date, and beyond. Remember, it’s not a job interview or therapy session. Pretend you’re meeting a new friend, not a prospective husband or wife.
Finding your one and only isn’t about having the right shoes or a flat stomach. It’s about being true to yourself, being vulnerable, and being ready for love. Whether you’re new to the dating scene, divorced and looking, or just trying to reach that second date, Get Over Yourself! will help you get the love you’ve always wanted and deserve.
The star of the A&E series Confessions of a Matchmaker presents her no-nonsense, tough-love approach to help readers get to their emotional core, understand who they are and why, and make key changes to get on with their love lives, with advice on how to assess dating weaknesses, pinpoint past problems, find simple solutions, and more. 100,000 first printing.
Patti Novak was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series Confessions of a Matchmaker. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Rachael Ray Show, and The Early Show, and has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and The New York Observer, among other publications. She lives in Buffalo, New York, where she was born and raised, and where her matchmaking business, Buffalo Niagara Introductions, is based.
Laura Zigman is the author of four novels, the New York Times bestselling Animal Husbandry, which was made into the movie Someone Like You, Dating Big Bird, Her, and Piece of Work. A longtime chronicler of the dating world, she lives outside Boston with her husband and young son.
Table of Contents
It takes tough love to find true love : because anything worth having requires straight talk and hard work — Knowing who you are : so you can eventually get over yourself and out of your own way — Understanding your relationship history : how to get it down, make sense of it, and get over it — Self diagnosis : identifying the true problem behind your "garage door" so you can stop it, fix — It, and get over it — Facing your demons : going back to where you don't want to go so you can finally move on — The mind/body/soul connection : how to cleanse, heal, and improve your three layers of being — The keys to successful relationships that most people have lost, misplaced, or never had to begin with — Tangibles and intangibles : changing what you can, toning down what you can't, and watching — Everything else fall into place — Attitude adjustment : a crash course in getting over yourself — Internet dating : why on-line dating should be a means to an end instead of the end itself and how it can help you practice your dating skills — First date 101 : it is what it is, but it isn't rocket science — Getting past the first date : let's talk about what you're not going to talk about.
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