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No More Letting Go: The Spirituality of Taking Action against Alcoholism and Drug Addictionby Debra Jay
Synopses & Reviews
“Detachment” has been the standard message of most addiction literature for the last twenty years. The conventional wisdom offered to an addict’s loved ones has been to let the addict “hit bottom” before intervening. Now intervention specialist Debra Jay challenges this belief and offers a bold new approach to treating addiction that provides a practical and spiritual lifeline to families struggling with alcohol or drug abuse.
In No More Letting Go, Jay argues that the traditional advice of “letting go” too often destroys both the addict and the family physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Jay contends that addiction is everybody’s business–not just the addict’s–and addiction doesn’t have the right to trump the welfare of a family.
In short, highly accessible chapters written with warmth, understanding, and compassion, Jay weaves together philosophical and religious thought; new science on the brain function of an addict; the physical and psychological impact of addiction on family members; and poignant, real-life family stories.
No More Letting Go is a powerful, informative guide that provides comfort, hope, and practical advice to anyone affected by a family member’s addiction.
An intervention specialist and co-author of Love First offers families and friends of drug addicts and alcohol abusers compassionate, loving, and practical ways to help them take action, bringing together spiritual wisdom, scientific research into the effects of addiction on the brain and body, and real-life anecdotes to emphasize the need for intervention. Original. 20,000 first printing.
About the Author
DEBRA JAY is the co-author of the Hazelden Guidebooks, Love First: A New Approach to Intervention, and Aging and Addiction. A graduate of the Hazelden Addiction Professional Training Program, she currently provides private intervention consultation to families throughout the United States and Canada. Debra appears regularly on Oprah, has been featured in Prevention Magazine and More Magazine, and is a national speaker and workshop leader. She resides in Grosse Pointe, Michigan, with her husband, Jeff Jay, where she writes a regular advice column for The Grosse Pointe News.
Table of Contents
pt. 1: Questioning our assumptions. Hitting bottom: a family affair — Fooling the mind — Addiction isn't a lifestyle choice — Detachment and inaction: Are they synonymous? — Detachment and the brain — When do we let go and let God? — It is everyone's business — Seeming to do is not doing — Create a spacious place — pt. 2: The collapsed spirit: Inaction and old action. Old actions perpetuate the past — The art of contortion — Fear — Anger — Perfectionism — Caretaking — Procrastination — Blame — Two sides of the same coin — Breathing new life into the spirit — pt. 3: What we know now. The withered brain — Disrupted decision making — The genetic factor — Predictable, progressive, and chronic — Choice and responsibility — How the brain makes sense of the senseless — The mantras of the addicted brain — Spiritual awakening changes the brain — pt. 4: Spiritual negotiation. Getting ready requires an act of faith — Intervention: the road to integrity — Spiritual negotiation — Coming together: family intervention — A checklist: preparing for family intervention — Intervention: a dramatization — Intervention in the workplace — Medical intervention — Legal intervention — Soft intervention — Informal intervention — Behavioral intervention — Impaired professional intervention — Crisis as intervention — Success in treatment is time in treatment — Formulating a relapse agreement — pt. 5: Creating a space for grace. Spiritual action — In the beginning: action — Justice: love and trust in action.
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