Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle: Honest Conversations about Sexual Integrity (Every Man)

It’s never been easy for a father or mother to talk to a son about sex. For Christian parents, it’s always been a challenge to know exactly how to teach God’s standards of purity and integrity.

But today, the stakes are higher than they’ve ever been. So it’s vital that fathers and mothers prepare their sons to withstand the sexual onslaught of their culture through movies, television, music, and the Internet.

But what should you say? And how should you say it?

The authors behind the best-selling Every Man series have put together all the resources and guidance you need to experience frank, thorough, and natural conversations with your son about sexual integrity. They offer an effective new communication process that ensures a deep, abiding relationship as your son moves into his teen years and beyond.

Equip him with the biblical information and spiritual insights he needs to stand strong, overcome temptation, and experience the blessings of godly obedience…for the rest of his life.

Ideal for all parents of boys, including single moms.

He is founder and chairman of New Life Clinics, host of the daily New Life Live! national radio program, creator of the Women of Faith Conferences, a nationally known speaker and licensed minister, and the author of more than forty books. He lives in Laguna Beach, California.

Fred Stoeker is coauthor of the best-selling Every Man series. He is founder and chairman of Living True Ministries and a conference speaker who has counseled hundreds of men and married couples. Fred and his wife, Brenda, live near Des Moines, Iowa.

Acknowledgments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xiii

book I: for dad (or single mom)

Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3

1 Stepping Through the Crack in the Door . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

2 The First Half Is Still the First Half . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

3 Diving Deep . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27

4 The Swapping Place . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34

5 “You Go First, Dad” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43

6 Doing Book . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49

7 Rules of the Game . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59

8 Outside the Swapping Place . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75

9 Running All the Way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 80

book II: for son and dad

Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99

Part 1: Changes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107

1 The Planet “Pupiter” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109

2 What Does Making Love Mean? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 116

3 When Girls Enter the Picture . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 120

4 Whats Happening . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 126

5 Does Everyone Else Know More Than I Do? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131

6 The Ps in the Pod . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 137

7 Flip Sides . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 142

8 My Story . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 151

9 The Eyes Have It . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 160

10 Manly Eyes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 168

11 Self-Control . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 175

Part 2: The Birth of a Man . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 183

12 My Story: The Sequel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 185

13 Sloppy Promises . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 193

14 Whats Independence? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 198

15 We Arent Perfect . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 205

16 Normal or Warped? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 211

17 Who Loves Ya? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 221

18 The Trap . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 228

19 Treat Her Like a Sister . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 234

20 Date Away . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 244

21 Are You Ready for Your Number to Be Called? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 252