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Abide With Me
Reading Group Guide
The Invisible Life Trilogy
In three linked novels—Invisible Life, Just As I Am, and Abide
With Me—E. Lynn Harris opens the door to a world rarely depicted in popular
literature, the gay and bisexual black community. Written with sensitivity and
sass, the novels have all appeared on the Blackboard bestseller list and
have won enthusiastic acclaim from critics and a broad range of readers. The
questions, discussion topics, and suggested reading list that follow are designed
to enhance your reading group's discussion of the books and the insights they
offer into the lives of men and women, gay and straight, as they face such
universal problems as finding and keeping love, making the right career choices,
and dealing with sometimes difficult parents, co-workers, and friends.
At the center of the Invisible Life trilogy is Raymond Tyler, a man
struggling to do the right thing without betraying his past or sacrificing his
dreams. The son of a successful lawyer in Birmingham, Alabama, Raymond always
assumed he would follow in his father's footsteps. His life takes an unexpected
turn, however, when he finds himself attracted to a handsome fraternity brother
at college. Their carefully cloaked relationship—at once confusing,
exhilarating, and frightening—marks the first step in Raymond's journey toward
self-discovery and self-acceptance. It is a journey that takes him from the
tradition-bound South to the uninhibited world of gay Manhattan, to a thriving
Seattle, where his legal career and his love-life seem destined for lasting
success. Along the way, Raymond encounters a rich and diverse array of people,
including the flamboyant, openly gay Kyle; the beautiful, loving Nicole, an
aspiring actress; and Basil, a dashing and dangerous football player. Their
stories join with Raymond's in a fast-paced chronicle that proves that love,
friendship, and sexual desire frequently defy conventional expectations and
Harris's novels not only recount the changes and choices the individual
characters confront, they evoke in telling detail the society in which those
choices are made. From the importance of church and family to the consequences of
biases based on skin color, sexual orientation, and gender, Harris uncovers the
ties that bind and the issues that divide the African American community today.
1. For discussion: Abide with Me
2. What techniques does Yancey use to ingratiate herself with Nicole? Is Nicole na?ve in accepting Yancey's
3. Trent is concerned that he won't get an assignment he wants because the project leader is a black woman. Are his fears understandable? Why does he say "you know how we can sometimes be our worst critics" [p. 63]? Are there examples of this tendency in the book? Have you encountered situations in which blacks are overly critical of
4. Raymond and Trent briefly discuss getting married. Do you think that gay marriages should be legal? Why or why not?
5. After they meet an old friend of Nicole's at a restaurant, Nicole and Yancey talk about the way women compete with one another [p. 84]. How do their reactions to the "bad seeds" they've encountered differ? Is Nicole too forgiving of the actress the rest of the cast called "Evilene"? Was Yancey's "trick" for defeating her rival
6. The NAACP withdraws its support of Raymond's nomination to back a candidate who "understands the needs of our community, especially on issues regarding the survival of the African-American family" [p. 95]. Is a gay candidate like Raymond incapable of understanding and supporting the basic values of the community? Can his partnership with Trent be defined as a "family"?
7. In what ways does Raymond Sr.'s objection to Kirby's involvement with an Asian woman parallel his discomfort with Raymond and Trent's relationship? Do members of minority groups have a moral obligation to date and/or marry within the group? Do interracial or interreligious marriages necessarily undermine individual cultures?
8. Why is Raymond so reluctant to confront Trent when he learns of his arrest? By betraying his promise to Trent to be open and honest, is Raymond betraying himself as well? What is the significance of the fight he has with his father about the situation? Is his father only concerned with Raymond's political future? Why does Raymond Sr. say "Stop letting people fuck you over, especially black folks"[p. 161]? What does this indicate about his own biases and beliefs?
9. When Raymond and Trent finally discuss Trent's infidelities, whose side are you on? Does Trent take their relationship too casually or is Raymond demanding a level of perfection that is impossible to achieve? Are the conflicts between Nicole and Jared more clear cut [pp. 284-285]? Do they handle them better than Raymond and Trent? Why is Nicole so ambivalent about starting a family? In addition to her reluctance to give up her career, what other factors contribute to her hesitations?
10. When she tells Raymond about his father's affair early in their marriage, Raymond's mother says "People sometimes do hurtful things just to get the other person's attention" [p. 291]. How does this relate to the events in the book? Are Basil's and Yancey's schemes, for example, mean-spirited and evil? Or are they desperate attempts to generate the attention and love that is missing from their lives?
11. For discussion of the Invisible Life Trilogy:
12. Discuss the views of homosexuality you have encountered in your own life. Are most people more willing to accept racial and religious differences than sexual differences? Do gay black men and women suffer greater doubts and more guilt than gay whites? Why or why not? What cultural factors influence the way people feel and talk about sexuality? Did the novels change your own feelings about the gay community?
13. The characters' relationships with their parents is an important theme in the trilogy. What impact does her mother's criticism have on the choices Nicole makes and her image of herself? Is Basil's hostility toward women a result of being raised by his father? Do you think his father genuinely loved him? Why didn't his father succeed in teaching Basil "to be a man and to try and do what's right"? Is Peaches a believable character or is Harris's portrait of her too idealistic? Are you more sympathetic to Yancey when you find out how her mother treated her as a child?
14. Discuss the differences between the views on race, religion, and gender expressed by the two generations. How do they reflect the society in which each generation grew up? Do you think Americans are becoming more tolerant or that age-old prejudices still thrive?
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