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The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating (Sexuality, Identity, and Society)


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Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. Yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to.

Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology, Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally-detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon.

Anderson suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfil a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation.

The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of concepts, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urges, the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightening, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.

About the Author

Professor Eric Anderson is an American sociologist at the University of Winchester. He is known for his research on sex, gender, and sport. Anderson is also the author of eight books, many of which document the development of pro-gay attitudes in young, heterosexual men. His work examines how this changing culture enables heterosexual men to show love and affection more openly toward their male peers, and how openly gay male athletes are thriving in sport.

Table of Contents

Part 1: Introduction

Chapter 1: Overview of the Research

Chapter 2: Developing a Critique of Monogamy

Chapter 3: About the Study

Part 2: Men, Attraction, and Love

Chapter 4: The Hardening and Softening of Men

Chapter 5: The Science of Sexual Attraction

Chapter 6: The Development of Romantic Relationships

Part 3: Monogamy and its Discontents

Chapter 7: Categorizing Monogamy Types

Chapter 8: Monogamism

Chapter 9: The Monogamy Gap

Chapter 10: Costs of Monogamism

Chapter 11: Jealousy

Chapter 12: Liberation from Monogamous Missionary Sex

Part 4: The Reality of Cheating

Chapter 13: Prevalence of Cheating

Chapter 14: Spontaneous Cheating

Chapter 15: Cheating Out of Love

Chapter 16: Counter Currents

Chapter 17: Conclusions

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Anderson, Eric
Oxford University Press, USA
Psychology, Social.
Psychology : General
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6.1 x 9.2 x 0.7 in 0.8 lb

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