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My War at Home


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My War at Home


Masuda Sultan


A profound memoir of self-discovery, family tradition, and feminist ideals, My War at Home follows the journey of Masuda Sultan as she transforms from a traditional Afghani-American woman who at seventeen enters an arranged marriage, to her emergence as a committed feminist political activist and Muslim woman.

In August 2001, Sultan visited Afghanistan to meet her extended family and explore how she could reconcile her Afghani Muslim upbringing with her own feminist ideals. One month later, after her return to New York, September 11th devastated the world and the United States invaded Afghanistan. Resolved to find out what had happened to her family, Sultan traveled back to the devastated and war-torn Kandahar, taking a small film crew with her, determined to bring the reality of the war and what it has done to women and children to light.

Discussion Guide

1. My War at Home begins with the Islamic saying, "The pleasure of God is the pleasure of the parents." What does this mean? How does it relate to the author's feelings about her arranged marriage?

2. What are some of the positive aspects of arranged marriages, according to the author? What traits would the couples need to have to make an arranged marriage a success? What was missing from the author's marriage — why did she eventually get a divorce? Are successful arranged marriages possible in the United States? Why or why not?

3. While in Karachi, Pakistan, for the consummation of her marriage with her new husband, the author receives a white cloth from her mother, so that her mother "could prove my purity to my in-laws, despite the fact that I had grown up in America." What does this indicate that other countries think about Americans, particularly American women? What do you think that first night with her husband was like for the author? What if she couldn't have "proven her purity" — what do you think would have happened?

4. "When a woman has marital problems, friends and family tried to ease her pain by minimizing its importance or seeking solutions that cause minimal disruption to the husband, even if the husband's words or actions cause immense pain for the woman." How is this different from American women's responses to their female friends' problems? How is it similar?

5. The author felt a tremendous mix of feelings about her new husband: "I wanted to scream, kick, and hurl things at him. But I also felt deeply sorry for him. I cared for him and did not want him to be sad and lonely. Maybe I just needed to try harder." What do the variety of feelings she felt reveal about the author? How do you think the author's American childhood affected her ability to adjust to her arranged marriage?

6. As chronicled by the author, Muslim culture ranges from very conservative, where women and men are kept completely separate from each other, to more liberal, where women and men have equal access to education and political voice. How do conservative Muslim customs compare to conservative Christian, Jewish, and Hindu customs? How are the roles of women similar in each religion? How are they different?

7. The author has fair skin and brown hair, which is different from the majority of Afghanis. How do her looks help her throughout the story? When do they hinder her? In addition to her appearance, in what other ways does the author feel like an outsider — in both Afghan and American culture? What does she discover about herself when she goes to Kandahar the first time?

8. "Although the burqa sometimes symbolizes restrictions on women, I wanted to see it the way [my mother] would have seen it — as a protective garment, as one that creates comfort for the woman because she doesn't have to worry about men looking at her body. Putting on the burqa also meant leaving behind the New York woman...." How is the burqa viewed in Western culture? Can wearing a burqa create more freedom for women? If so, how?

9. After September 11th, the author is elected to the Electoral College of Afghanistan-USA, the group that represented the Afghan-American community in Afghanistan's transition to democracy. "Men who didn't let their wives work and arranged marriages for their daughters would let a young woman speak for their interests." What does this reveal about Afghanis living in the United States?

10. After September 11th, many people wanted to "do something" in response. The author chose to return to Afghanistan and film what she found there. Why did she do this? What do her reactions reveal about the author? Do you think she was courageous, foolhardy, or both? Do you think she was successful in her efforts?

11. Sultan indicates how the American war in Afghanistan, with the death of civilians, especially of women and children, will increase the likelihood of terrorism against Americans. Do you agree with her? Why or why not?

12. What does the author say Americans could have done differently to avoid fomenting anger and vengefulness in Afghanis toward Americans? What do you think could have been done differently?

13. Why do you think there is no word in Pashto for "vagina" or "sex?"

Enhance Your Book Club

1. Screen the documentary From Ground Zero to Ground Zero as part of your meeting.

2. Go to an Afghani restaurant or serve Afghani foods to bring more "flavor" to your meeting.

3. Masuda Sultan mentions the Afghani pop singer, Farhad Darya. Download Farhad Darya's music or find other Afghani musicians and listen to their music.

4. Use sheets and quilts as burqa facsimiles to get a sense of what it is like to wear one — and gain, on a small scale, new understanding of what life for women in Afghanistan is like.

5. Compile a list of customs from the major religions in the world — Christian, Jewish, Hindu, or others — and compare the roles of women and men in each of them.

Product Details

Sultan, Masuda
Washington Square Press
Masuda Sultan
United states
Personal Memoirs
General Biography
Muslims -- United States.
Afghan Americans
Biography & Autobiography : Personal Memoirs
Biography - General
Edition Description:
Publication Date:
February 2006
Grade Level:
8.25 x 5.31 in 12.635 oz

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"Publishers Weekly Review" by , "An arranged marriage at 16 to a man she has never spoken to ignites Afghan American Sultan's search for her place in the two cultures she considers her own. The 27-year-old who made the documentary >From Ground Zero to Ground Zero with Jon Alpert describes in this accessible memoir how she became an advocate for women's rights in Afghanistan: after divorcing her husband and witnessing 9/11, Sultan's 'soul-searching' becomes a mission to promote understanding between Afghans and Americans. While the book begins with the rich details of her traditional wedding, Sultan is not in her element here, tending to give her characters little depth. The author, who supported action against the Taliban, hits her stride when she moves from the personal to the political, describing, for example, organizing a conference on women and the Afghan constitution, or meeting an Afghan farmer whose wife and all but one of his children were killed in a U.S. attack. 'Would this boy grow up to be America's enemy?' Sultan wonders; if al Qaeda members were hiding in Texas, would 'AC-130 gunships, spewing bullets from a rotating cannon' be used? Though this politically driven book may age quickly, it is a time capsule that will appeal to a wide audience." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
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