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The Secret Language of Influence: Master the One Skill Every Sales Pro Needs

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CHAPTER 1

Breaking Buyers’ Patterns

THE “MOST ELUSIVE PROSPECT” . . . I’m selling for a company in

Chicago. When I’m not on the road, I’m pounding the phones at my desk,

generating leads. Today, in fact, I’m breezing through my contact manager

when I stop and stare at the notes section of one record.

There’s the date and time of the last call, and next to these notes are the

letters “lvm,” short for “left voice mail.” Below this note is a string of identical

calls going back three years. We have “left voice mail” messages for this

woman forty-six times!

Now, what would you do with a prospect like that?

“What is there to lose?” I think, so I dial and—surprise—get her voice

mail. I wait for the beep and leave a message.

“Congratulations! This is Dan Seidman of corporate recruiting. You

have earned our company’s prestigious Most Elusive Prospect Award. We

have called you forty-six times—today makes forty-seven—and you have

never returned a single call. I just wanted you to know that nobody in our

entire database, with thousands of companies, has ever ignored us as frequently

as you. Thanks for not calling. And congratulations on your award.”

I hang up.

And what do you think happens? Ninety minutes later the woman calls

me! And I get an earful. “You stupid jerk! I don’t have to return anybody’s

calls, ever. How rude to leave me that message. Don’t ever call our company

again. You’re a jerk.”

I manage to get a word in—“Wow, I had no idea you’d be upset. I’m so

sorry”—and bang! She hangs up the phone.

Oh, man, what did I do? Well, at least she called me and not my VP of

sales.

Moments later, the phone rings again. It’s her! She proceeds to tell me

how awful she feels popping off at me like that. And, actually, my message

was pretty funny. And, yes, she does use services like ours. Then she asks if

I would please come in to see her next week, to talk about our offerings.

Yes, she became a client and no, my VP never did hear about my coldcalling

strategy.

You’re wondering, What happened here? The story I just told illustrates

what’s called, in psychology, a pattern interrupt. Its roots are fascinating,

and the strategy is useful as you learn to better influence others.

The late Dr. Milton Erickson is considered one of the world’s great psychologists.

He perfected pattern interruption and other creative influence

techniques to help patients work through problems that result from being

stuck in a pattern of thinking or behavior. His ability to help patients

change behavior—and to stop doing those things that are damaging to

themselves and others and instead do things that are useful—is legendary.

And isn’t influencing your buyers to change really the ultimate goal of

selling?

As I mentioned in the book’s preface, as sales professionals, we need to

help prospects to change products and services—to change their minds.

And as you probably know from experience, people often follow a wellworn

path when encountering situations where discomfort occurs (a sales

rep calling, for example). Dr. Erickson revealed how we can move them off

this path and, by doing so, open up the possibility of different outcomes. In

other words, we’re going to break their tried-and-true patterns.

Learning to Respond in an Unexpected Way

So let’s return to the example of selling: Sales pros encounter similar problems

every day when prospects throw the same old objections at them: “We

don’t have money for this. . . . Let me think about it. . . . Call me in six

months.” But what if salespeople can learn to respond in an unexpected

manner? They can break that bad dialogue and create a useful conversation

that is more likely to end in a decision. But first, how did that jump from

the world of psychology to the world of business occur?

The bridge between pure psychological counseling and related business

applications was built by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, creators of

neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), a technique used in psychotherapy

and in organizational change management. Bandler and Grinder studied

and then modeled Erickson’s techniques. Bandler had some fantastic success

experimenting with and testing the pattern interrupt technique on

patients in mental hospitals. He decided to find extreme cases of antisocial

behavior—people who had spent years institutionalized—and treat these

individuals differently than traditionally trained doctors were taught. His

results proved both astounding and at times humorous.

In one case, Bandler was called in to help treat a man who thought he

was Jesus Christ. Here’s a fellow who insisted he was someone he was not,

in spite of counselors saying, “C’mon, man, you are not Jesus. What makes

you think that?”

Bandler approached the man and asked him if he was Jesus Christ. The

patient eyed him suspiciously but eventually replied that he was. Bandler

left the room and returned some time later, again asking the man if he

really was Jesus Christ.

“Yes, my son, what can I do for you?” was the man’s reply. The psychologist

left the room again. Soon he returned with two huge beams of wood,

twelve-inch nails, and a big hammer.

The man asked, “What is this about?”

Bandler replied, “If you’re Jesus Christ, you know what we’re here for;

we have come to crucify you.”

The man looked at the size of the nails and quickly said, “You don’t

understand. I’m not really the Christ. I’m crazy. I just imagine I’m the

Christ.”

Pattern interrupt had penetrated a solid wall of defense. In that moment

the man with the muddled mind was about to take the first important step

in his healing process.

In another case, a patient had been in a catatonic trance for more than

six years. Catatonia is a state where the person completely withdraws from

the world. This individual had not spoken in six years. He’d wake up each

day, dress, eat, and walk into the common area of the clinic where other

patients played cards and table tennis, read books, and watched TV. But he

would just stand against a wall and stare. All day, every day, the man had no

connection with anyone or anything except his food. The man’s family

would visit and say, “Honey, please, we love you, come back to us.” No

response. Drugs did not work, nor did electric shock therapy (which, by the

way, is still used today).

Then Bandler went to work: He brought in a red gas can filled with

water and some nail polish remover (to add a distinct smell). He walked up

to the catatonic patient and splashed this “gasoline” all over him.

No response.

Bandler stepped back, removed a small cardboard box from his pocket,

and began to throw lighted matches at the man. Within moments, the

patient exploded into a rage, screaming foul language at this man who was

intending to set him on fire!

Wouldn’t you do the same?

Again, pattern interrupt had broken down bad behavior and started the

individual off on a path of new possibilities.

Applying Psychology in the Sales Environment

Okay, you’re thinking, “This is interesting. But how can I use this strategy

in my business life?” There are outstanding ways to apply this technique

and other new influence strategies, described throughout this book, in

every facet of your world—when leading, managing, or even having customer

service conversations. For now, let’s continue to focus on how to use

pattern interrupt in a sales environment.

One of the biggest problems we face as sales professionals is that today’s

buyers are savvy and they know how to put us off, to get rid of us, by hauling

out some standard responses that they’ve learned work. You know what

they are: We’re happy with what we have now, or There’s no money in the

budget; call back in six months—the kind of responses that get the acid sizzling

in your stomach and the blood boiling in your brain.

We’re done with that, as of right now, today. Let’s get started.

Take your six most common objections. Every business has six objections

that do the most damage to the salesperson’s ability to close. (By the

way, you’ll get even more powerful and unique objection-handling techniques

in Chapter 12.) For each objection, create an unexpected response.

In essence, you are saying to the prospect, “I’m not going to play this game

with you. It’s not fun, and it’s costing me income.”

Here’s an example I used with a money objection when I ran a search

firm with a team of fifteen sales professionals:

Prospect: This is a tough time. We don’t have money for this right

now.

Dan: What floor are you on? (pattern interrupt)

Prospect: Huh? What floor? What do you mean?

Dan: Things are bad, that’s rough. I just want to know what floor

because when you throw yourself out the window, I’m wondering

whether you’ll die or just break some bones.

Prospect: Okay, okay. It’s not that bad.

Dan: So you are spending money when you feel it’s worth the

investment?

You see, we’re back in selling mode, having broken the pattern that this

prospect has used to dump countless salespeople back onto the street.

A few years ago I even built pattern interrupt responses into a sales

training program that I designed (actually redesigned to include the latest

influence strategies) for a major financial services company. We logged over

three dozen objections and I crafted one response that I call “my favorite

response to any objection, ever!” The buyers in this case were senior citizens

who sometimes said, “I’m too old to buy an annuity.” The response:

“We have sea turtles older than you as clients.”

Say that with a big smile and the message to the prospect is clear: Please

stop playing games, let’s move on.

Now, you might be thinking, “I can’t say something like that!” Well, the

fact is, great sales professionals will say and do things that mediocre reps

won’t. And typical salespeople won’t for several reasons:

Product Details

ISBN:
9780814417263
Author:
Seidman, Dan
Publisher:
AMACOM/American Management Association
Subject:
Business Communication
Subject:
General
Publication Date:
20120431
Binding:
TRADE PAPER
Language:
English
Pages:
208
Dimensions:
9 x 6 in
Age Level:
18

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Great selling is invisible. Influence occurs at a level just below the buyer’s awareness. That’s important because today’s buyer is savvy and all too familiar with traditional selling techniques. However, a few simple words—the right words—can transform an awkward sales call into a comfortable conversation and a resistant prospect into a happy customer.

Some people, for example, want to hear about the money they’ll save, while others respond to the pain they’ll avoid. By identifying different ways buyers are motivated, salespeople can quickly customize their conversations and lead prospects to “yes.” The Secret Language of Influence reveals the best ways to approach buyers who are:

Motivated by benefits vs. problems • Proactive vs. reactive • Big-picture vs. detailoriented • Systems thinkers vs. creative minds • Influenced by external feedback (testimonials, evidence) vs. internal factors (feelings, personal experiences, beliefs)

From the use of storytelling, humor, and emotion-evoking language to words to avoid and questions that advance the sale, this entertaining and practical book demonstrates the power of words to break down resistance and change buyers’ minds.

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