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We all want to lead a life of our own making. But in today's accelerated world, with its competing priorities, information overload, and confounding options, we can easily find ourselves steered by impulse, stress, or expedience. Are our decisions the right ones? Or are we being governed, time and time again, and against our best intentions, by the demands of the moment?
A transformative new approach to decision making, 10-10-10 is a tool for reclaiming your life at home, in love, and at work. The process is clear, straightforward, and transparent. In fact, when you're facing a dilemma, all it takes to begin are three questions: What are the consequences of my decision in 10 minutes?
In 10 months? And in 10 years?
Sound simple? Not quite. Recounting poignant stories from her own life and the lives of many other dedicated 10-10-10 users, Suzy Welch reveals how exploring the impact of our decisions in multiple time frames invariably surfaces our unconscious agendas, fears, needs, and desires -- and ultimately helps us identify and live according to our deepest goals and values.
10-10-10's applicability is uniquely broad. Whether it is used by college students or busy mothers or senior business executives, artists, government administrators, or entrepreneurs, 10-10-10 has shown its effectiveness in decisions large and small, routine and radical, consistently changing lives for the better.
Readers of O magazine discovered this pragmatic and innovative idea when Suzy Welch first introduced it in her column. Now, in this immensely useful and revelatory book, she fully explains the power of 10-10-10, a transformative idea that can replace chaos with consistency, guilt with joy, and confusion with clarity.
"Journalist Welch, coauthor of Winning (with her husband, former GE CEO Jack), offers an in-depth look at the decision making process that has brought her success and formed the basis of her work-life advice column in O, The Oprah Magazine. By imagining a decision's impact in the short and long term-in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years-readers will discover not just their innermost values, but the wisdom to pursue them with confident and empowering choices. While easy to follow and simple in theory, the process can raise painful and challenging issues, illustrated in numerous case studies, Welch's personal story and the science behind 10-10-10. Welch also demonstrates how poor decisions are often the result of stress and guilt, rather than a lack of understanding or knowledge; the practical upshot of her approach is the ability to break through the often paralyzing ambivalence that keeps people in dead end jobs and relationships. Anyone who feels stuck, rushed or simply too emotional to make important life decisions should find Welch's technique surprisingly useful, and her guide to it both rallying and rational." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
"This eloquent, witty, intelligent book is a triumph on several levels. Not only does it provide insightful and instructive lessons for making personal decisions but the intimate life stories illustrating Suzy Welch's decision-making process are endlessly absorbing, captivating the reader's interest from start to finish."-- Doris Kearns Goodwin, author of Team of Rivals
"Suzy Welch sparkles with brilliant ideas. In 10-10-10 she offers a profound, easy-to-apply tool for making tough decisions simple, finding clarity amid life's confusions. If you're wondering what to do, which path to follow at the fork, whether to stay or leave -- no matter what it may be -- 10-10-10 will help you find your way."-- Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
About the Author
Suzy Welch, former editor-in-chief of the Harvard Business Review, is a work-life columnist for O The Oprah Magazine. She is the coauthor, with her husband Jack Welch, of the New York Times bestseller Winning and of ?The Welch Way,? published in BusinessWeek magazine and internationally by the New York Times Syndicate. She lives in Boston.
Reading Group Guide
Journalist, author, and speaker Suzy Welch explains 10-10-10: an innovative approach to thinking about -- and resolving -- any problem in your life. By considering all your options and projecting the outcome in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years, you can make informed choices and create the future you want. Perfect for men and women alike, this revolutionary idea can be applied to decisions at work, in relationships, as a parent, a child, a friend -- 10-10-10 can help you resolve virtually every major life decision so you can finally take control and change your life for the better.
Questions and Topics for Discussion
1. Suzy describes the story about how 10-10-10 came to be, when she decided to bring two of her children on a business trip to Hawaii. She says "With one clever plan, I had finally cracked the work-life balance code, all while putting money in the bank! Or so I had 'decided.' Hooray for me." Have you ever tried to "do it all?" or balance several major aspects of your life at once? How did that experience turn out?
2. In her explanation of the human mind, Suzy discusses hyperbolic discounting, or the idea that "people tend to act as if the future doesn't exist or will be ideal." Do you agree with this idea? Can you cite instances where you exhibited this behavior?
3. Suzy talks about the "wisdom" of gut instinct as an imperfect science at best. In what instances did your gut instinct turn out to be correct? Incorrect? Which happened most often? Did your decisions leave you feeling in control of your life?
4. A key element in 10-10-10 is identifying values. After reading this book, can you identify yours? Were you aware of all of them before? Take out a pen and paper and list your values in one area of life: love, friendship, work, parenting, etc. Have your values shifted or changed over time? If so, how?
5. On the topic of work, Suzy explains that "no job or profession will ever be right for you if it requires you to work with people who don't share your values or appreciate you as you are. You spend most of your life at work -- a point well worth factoring into any 10-10-10 career dilemma. You have to like your colleagues -- and feel authentic around them -- if you are ever going to have a career you like." Identify examples of jobs where the values of your co-workers were both in line and not in line with yours. How did the overall job experiences differ?
6. Have you ever experienced a career stall? How did you solve the problem? If you had used 10-10-10, would the outcome have been different? How so?
7. Did any of the personal stories particularly relate to you? Explain why.
8. Have you ever stopped a friendship or had a friend stop one with you? Discuss ways 10-10-10 might help you reconnect with that person (or decide that you don't want to after all).
9. Try to create your own "Happiness List" of people or couples you know who are really happy.
10. Identify a parental dilemma experienced by you or someone you know. Did guilt play a major role in hindering the decision process? How was the problem finally resolved? Were the children allowed to participate in the process? In what ways could 10-10-10 have been used to affect the outcome?
11. Do you have to balance work-life issues? How can you use 10-10-10 to create better communication with everyone involved?
12. Before you knew about 10-10-10, how did you typically approach difficult decisions? How would those outcomes have changed had you used 10-10-10?
Tips to Enhance Your Bookclub
Check out Suzy's website: www.SuzyWelch101010.com and post a 10-10-10 story of your own.
Suzy is a regular contributor to O: The Oprah Magazine - in fact, she first wrote about 10-10-10 in an O article. Go to www.oprah.com to read this or one of Suzy's many other articles.
Together, Jack and Suzy Welch have written several books, including the bestselling Winning. Find out more on www.WelchWay.com and select one to read.