Synopses & Reviews
Review
"This book helps you ward off the corrosive effects of anger and eradicate roadblocks to true connection and intimacy, such as cold neglect and stonewalling. Dr. Nay drives his message home with exercises, specific suggestions, and handy reminders. In today's stressful daily life, Dr. Nay guides you to maintain your composure, communicate effectively, and improve your relationships."--Loriann Oberlin, MS, LCPC, coauthor of
Overcoming Passive-Aggression
Synopsis
Out-of-control anger can destroy relationships, reputations, careers/m-/even your health. But Dr. Robert Nay knows from extensive clinical experience that nearly anyone can learn to manage anger constructively--with enough practice. This systematic workbook builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises that readers can tailor to their own needs. Dr. Nay provides practical tools for identifying anger triggers, recognizing the different faces of anger, replacing aggression with appropriate assertiveness, and defusing conflicts. A wealth of realistic stories and examples invite the reader to "step in" and practice the skills discussed until old habits are replaced with more productive new ones. When anger gets in the way of personal goals, this book provides a blueprint for change. Readers can download and print additional copies of the worksheets and forms.
See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
About the Author
W. Robert Nay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in McLean, Virginia, and Annapolis, Maryland, and Clinical Associate Professor at Georgetown University School of Medicine. He has trained thousands of mental health professionals nationwide to work on anger management and relationship issues with their clients. The author of Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship, Dr. Nay lives in Annapolis with his wife. His website is www.wrobertnay.com.
Table of Contents
Introduction
I. Understanding Anger
1. The Biological and Physiological Roots of Anger
2. Cognition: The Role of Thoughts in Instigating and Sustaining Anger
3. Expressing Anger: The Face of Anger You See in the Mirror
4. How Is Anger a Problem for You?
5. Assessing Motivation and Sustaining Changes
II. Managing Your Anger and Resolving Conflict
6. What Triggers Your Anger?
7. Derailing Anger before It Derails You
8. Getting Control of Anger Arousal
9. Using CBT to Identify and Change the Beliefs That Inflame Your Anger
10. Using CBT to Identify Ongoing Anger Thinking
11. Challenging Cognitive Distortions with Objective Thinking and Planning
12. The Nuts and Bolts of Communicating: What You Think, How You Feel, and What You Want
13. Collaborative Problem Solving: A No-Fail Guide for Reaching Consensus without Conflict
14. Pulling It All Together: Becoming Aware of When and How to Use the STOP Method
III. Resolving Conflict While Staying Calm
15. When Someone Gets in Your Face: Setting Boundaries for Hostility and Aggression
16. Coping with Anger That Is Passive, Yet Toxic--Overcoming Passive Aggression and Cold Anger
17. Setbacks: Coping Successfully with the Inevitable
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