Synopses & Reviews
Based on more than 1,000 interviews with men, this book reveals the true, surprising causes of "jerky" behavior among good guys-and how women can avoid it.
Single women of America, brace yourselves! When it comes to dating, it turns out that single guys are just as lost and confused as you are. That's the good news. The bad news: many good guys try to mask their normal and healthy feelings of romantic confusion with some, well, seriously asshole-ish behavior.
Sex and dating expert Amber Madison surveyed more than one thousand guys in ten American cities, and she came to the heartening conclusion that all guys are not assholes-not by a long shot. They want love, commitment, serious relationships, and marriage in numbers equal to women. But because of cultural messages dictating that real men never feel vulnerable, they can have a hard time embracing those impulses-and this is where disrespectful dating behavior can come in.
Are All Guys Assholes? gives women the whole truth about why nice guys sometimes act like complete jerks, and teaches them what they can do-both to protect the relationship and protect themselves. Madison zeroes in on the specific jerky behaviors that can arise in romantic commitment, and then counsels women through each danger zone, showing how insecurity and fear can create asshole-ish behavior. She then provides women with concrete steps to defuse situations-without acting like a doormat-or cut a genuine asshole loose.
"Ideal for young women navigating the dating scene.
"She shows real compassion for both men and women here, and her voice is welcome in fighting the stereotypes about males weve come to accept unquestioningly. I wholeheartedly endorse her strategic advice for women. If youre single and female you need to read this book."
--Susan Walsh, Hooking Up Smart
"Are All Guys Assholes? reads more like a conversation with that one friend whos not afraid to ‘go there than a typical relationship advice book, leaving readers with a sense of hope, and a better understanding of what makes men tick."
--Quality of Life magazine
What if everything you've been told about guys your entire life has been a lie? And what if your approach to sex, dating, and relationships is completely wrong, because it's based on false assumptions about how men think and feel?
The idea that guys are "only interested in one thing," may help comedians, TV executives, and "dating gurus" make money, but it's not the truth. That's right-guys care about more than just sex, they don't have to be coaxed into relationships, and they deeply value emotional connections with women. How do we know? Because sex and dating expert Amber Madison asked them. She grilled more than a thousand guys in ten cities through interviews and surveys. She examined every stage of romantic relationships-from meeting a guy to getting serious with him-in order to find out what men really think, and why they do the things they do.
Why do guys stop calling after a few dates? How can you tell if a guy actually likes you? How soon is too soon to have sex? Based on actual research, Are All Guys Assholes teaches you how to decipher and navigate any dating, hookup, or relationship situation. It explains the roots of some seemingly asshole-ish behaviors, and teaches you how to tell the good ones from the assholes once and for all. By the end, you'll never look at guys the same way again.
About the Author
Amber Madison parlayed a popular Tufts campus newspaper advice column into a career as a nationally noted sex and dating expert. The author of Hooking Up and Talking Sex with Your Kids, she has appeared on Today and NPR, and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Newsweek, and USA Today. She is currently the sex and dating correspondent on MTV's The Seven. She has an upcoming advice column in Seventeen. Madison lives in New York City.