JWallis, May 19, 2013
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My husband and I were recommended this book by our adoption agency (while in the process of getting our foster license). After reading this I am so glad they did, I found this to be a terrific resource - it speaks plainly, honestly and at times bluntly (but still positively) about the different types of attachment issues children from the foster system may experience/exhibit and various techniques adults can use to help children with these issues.
It gives great information but isn't overwhelming, overly informative or overly technical. Deborah Gray sites many examples from her years of therapeutic work with foster and adoptive families, which helped make abstract issues relate-able and easy to understand. She is also realistic, making it clear that seeking professional help is often the best option, that parents need to have realistic expectations, that kids will make progress but also backslide, etc.
I feel much more prepared to identify and address future issues with my children after reading this book, highly recommended.