Synopses & Reviews
A new way to look at sibling rivalry that sees children's relationships with each other in the context of the family as a whole. This is the first book to incorporate the latest thinking regarding family relationships as important contexts in which sibling relationships develop. Unlike other books that insist that conflicts among siblings reflect jealousy and a longing for parents' undivided attention, Dr. Goldenthal asserts that all family relationships have a bearing on rivalry between brothers and sisters--not only their relationship with each other but their relationship with their parents, and even their parents' relationships with their parents. Through examples of many different types of problem family situations, he gives practical guidelines and tools for solving common and not-so-common sibling conflicts. He shows parents of young children how to institute child-rearing practices that will prevent or at least diminish future sibling conflicts, and he provides strategies for reducing friction and stress among children when they arise.
"A work of genius-hilarious." (Newsday)
"A must-read book for all parents who want to raise empathetic, compassionate, and successful human beings." (Myrna Shure, author of Raising a Thinking Child)
"A unique and valuable book." (William B. Carey, M.D., Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine)
"A must-read book for all parents who want to raise empathetic, compassionate, and successful human beings." --Myrna Shure, author of Raising a Thinking Child
"Dr. Goldenthal provides parents with the practical help they need." --Wendy Schuman, Executive Editor, Parents magazine
"A unique and valuable book." --William B. Carey, M.D., Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine
The seventies are over. All across America, the overgrown kids of the middle class are getting their acts together and getting older. The once-tight Chicano community of Chamisaville is long gone, and the Anglo powerbrokers control almost everything. Joe Minver-faithful husband, loving father, and all-around good guy-is about to sink roots. There's only one hitch: money. To buy the land he works, he embarks on a coke scam that will net him the necessary bread. Joe is also about to embark on a series of erotic adventures with three headstrong women, bringing him face-to-face with the terrors (and absurdity) of the modern man-woman scene. This final volume in the New Mexico trilogy is, like its predecessors, a lusty, visionary novel that blends comedy and tragedy, reality and fantasy, tenderness and bite to illuminate some very troubling truths about America-truths no less pointed and accurate today than they were twenty years ago.
BEYOND SIBLING RIVALRY PRESENTS A NEW WAY TO HELP BROTHERS AND SISTERS BECOME FRIENDS INSTEAD OF RIVALS.
In this groundbreaking look at sibling rivalry, Dr. Peter Goldenthal offers a whole new view into children's relationships with one another: in the context of the family as a whole. Beyond Sibling Rivalry illustrates that how your children get along is actually influenced by many factors: how you related to your parents and siblings; how you treat each of your children; how you communicate with your partner; and how you differentiate between your own psychological issues and those of your children.
Using many different types of family problems as examples, Dr. Goldenthal provides practical guidelines and tools for reducing friction among children and resolving sibling conflicts. He also shows how to
-- recognize and highlight each child's unique abilities and interests
-- acknowledge your children's imperfect efforts to be helpful to one another
-- deflect the terrible bind that children's loyalties may cause
-- help children learn to be assertive so they will not need to be aggressive
-- use rewards and praise to encourage your children to be more cooperative
About the Author
Peter Goldenthal, Ph.D.
, a practicing psychologist and expert in sibling rivalry, has worked with hundreds of families and children for many years. He lives in Devon, Pennsylvania.