Synopses & Reviews
Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."--Andrew Solomon, author of "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."-- "Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."--Judith Shulevitz, Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com
"By mixing the case study method, so common in self-help books, with scholarly insight, Mitchell creates a work on romance that is rich and multilayered, giving the individual stories more weight and the intellectual commentary more humanity." Publishers Weekly
"[T]houghtful, compassionate and profoundly optimistic....Drawing on case histories...Mitchell builds a quirky, original and ultimately convincing case. His is emphatically not a glib, accessible self-help book, which makes summarizing his argument hard; everything is connected to everything else. Still, the overall freshness of the thought is unmistakable." JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com
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"With this book...[Mitchell] has left us his brilliant insight and gentle guidance on matters of love and romance. Using both case studies and intelligent analyses, he shows us that love can endure. A perfect Valentine gift." Shelley Wu, Ph.D., About.com
"Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it." Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon
"It will hold you, as it held me, in its thrall." Mark Epstein, M.D., author of Thoughts without a Thinker
Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous. Mitchell shows that love can endure, only if couples become aware of their self-destructive efforts to protect themselves from its risks.
"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."--Barbara Fisher,
About the Author
Stephen A. Mitchell died in 2000 at the pinnacle of his career as a theorist and clinician. He is the co-author of Freud and Beyond.