Synopses & Reviews
Just as there are right and wrong reasons to marry, there are good and bad reasons to divorce. Some couples are quick to split because they are unwilling to devote the necessary effort to fixing their relationships or to understanding their partners, while others miss out on personal fulfillment by staying too long in unhealthy marriages.
This insightful and practical guide, written by a therapist with nearly a decade of experience counseling those considering divorce, will help you evaluate your marriage to determine whether you should stay or go. Without bias toward or against the option of divorce, Contemplating Divorce includes helpful tools to guide you to the right decision.
- Use the tests and relationship evaluations to assess your level of fulfillment in your marriage
- Learn about the five types of needs happy marriages satisfy
- Find out how to fix 'problem areas' in your relationship
- Plan for the future, whether you decide to stay or move on
This is a much-needed book. The anxiety in making a life-changing decision is sometimes overwhelming. It is of immense help to have a coach like Susan Pease Gadoua!
-John Bradshaw, best-selling author of Homecoming and Creating Love
Better than therapy! Pease Gadoua allows the reader who is contemplating any great change to process the pros and cons in the confines of his or her own heart and mind, leaving no chance for those on the fence to skip out on the truth. A must-read for any transition.
-Joan Anderson, bestselling author of A Year by the Sea, An Unfinished Marriage, A Walk on the Beach, and The Second Journey
Making an appointment to see a divorce lawyer doesn't mean that the person I am advising necessarily needs or wants a divorce. With Pease Gadoua's wise, thorough, and accessible book, Contemplating Divorce, at last there is a resource I can give to confused and unhappy clients who think the marriage may be over but can't decide whether the embers are truly dead or not.
-Pauline H. Tesler, author of Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Law
An exceptional and outstanding book for all those considering making the life-altering decision to divorce. Pease Gadoua offers profound personal insight and practical guidance that empowers adults to find clarity, overcome hurdles, and make the best choices for the future of their relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend Contemplating Divorce to men and women alike.
-Helene Taylor, Esq., president and founder of TheModernWomansDivorceGuide.com
The Divorce Recovery Workbook
skillfully integrates uncovering feelings, mindfulness, and compassion to allow the reader to navigate the difficult necessity of post-divorce forgiveness. A very thoughtful, useful, and helpful book.”
Frederic Luskin, PhD, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, and author of Forgive for Good
Give this one five stars! Rye and Moore have integrated the most up-to-date psychology research into a down-to-earth, practical workbook filled with user-friendly exercises and a spirit of hope. This will be an invaluable tool for any man or woman struggling with the pain of divorce.”
Kenneth I. Pargament, PhD, professor of psychology at Bowling Green State University, and author of Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy
In The Divorce Recovery Workbook
, Rye and Moore provide an excellent applied workbook for you if youve been dealing with the loss of a marriage or long-term relationship. In fact, as I read the manuscript, I could not help but think that the workbook could help deal with many losses, not just divorce. It adapts evidence-based interventions from positive psychologyforgiveness of self and others, gratitude, benefit-finding, happiness, mindfulness, meaning-finding, and self-compassioninto dealing with your loss. It is a wonderful adaptation of respected scholarship so that you can benefit by it.”
Everett L. Worthington, Jr., PhD, professor and director of the counseling psychology program at Virginia Commonwealth University, and author of Moving Forward
Divorce is painful, but it can be navigated with compassion. This wonderful book contains concrete tools that will help you learn how to support yourself through this trying time, so youll emerge happier, healthier, and whole again.”
Kristin Neff, PhD, associate professor in human development and culture, University of Texas at Austin, and author of Self-Compassion
Divorce is a process that often leaves one emotionally raw, hurt, and angry. Its critical that you take the time to heal from the emotional fallout of divorceand, all too often, people dont do the work or know what to do. If you want an effective action plan and strategies to move forward to build a better life post-divorce, this book is it! It's a must-read for all my divorce coaching clients.”
Deborah Moskovitch, divorce coach and author of The Smart Divorce
Reading the book is a sheer delight. You feel like the authors are sitting and talking with you about the struggles of divorce, and ever so gently and professionally offering a series of well-proven, positive psychology remedies for coping. This is a positive, insightful, and compassionate approach.”
Loren L. Toussaint, PhD, associate professor of psychology at Luther College, and associate director of Sierra Leone Forgiveness Project
Rye and Moore have developed a powerful and practical resource for those struggling with the pain of divorce. This workbook is personally engaging and easy to read, and it is firmly grounded in empirical research. Rye and Moore manage to strike just the right balance. ”
Julie Exline, PhD, professor of psychology and director of clinical training at Case Western Reserve University
By clarifying assumptions about and expectations for their relationships to their spouses, the step-by-step approach in Contemplating Divorce helps readers decide whether to try to make a flagging marriage work or proceed with the difficult decision to divorce.
Most people are familiar with the oft-quoted statistic about 50 percent of marriages in the US ending in divorce, but many don't know that 42 percent of married Americans have considered divorce at some point in their marriage. Divorce is one of life's top stressors, so how does an unhappily married person decide whether to divorce his or her spouse, or whether the marriage can be saved? The author of this book has been working for twenty years almost exclusively with people who are divorcing or contemplating divorce. In this book, she helps readers gain clarity and insight into marital problems by helping them to examine their own assumptions and expectations of marriage. Without taking one side or the other, the author helps readers explore the issues in their marriages that are troubling them, and then details the next steps to take, whether they decide to stay or go.
Divorce often leads to unresolved feelings of anger, betrayal, and sadness. The Divorce Recovery Workbook offers a unique approach using mindfulness and positive psychology to help readers cope with these negative emotions so that they can rebuild their lives. With exercises and tips for managing a difficult co-parenting relationship and powerful practices based in self-compassion and forgiveness, readers will learn to heal, forgive, and form new, loving relationships.
If you have recently gone through a divorce, you might have unresolved feelings of anger toward your ex spouse; find yourself reeling from past betrayals both big and small; become stressed when you think about the legal and emotional ramifications of the divorce; or you may even experience symptoms of depression. You are not alone, and there are ways you can start to heal.
The Divorce Recovery Workbook offers a unique approach using mindfulness and positive psychology to help you cope with these negative emotions so that you can start to rebuild your life. Youll learn powerful practices based in self-compassion to help you heal, forgive, and form new, loving relationships. The book also includes helpful exercises and tips for managing a difficult co-parenting relationship.
If youve gone through divorce and are struggling to move on, there comes a moment when you must make a choice. You can let the difficult situation define who you are, or you can use it as a jumping off point for making radical changes in your lifepositive changes that will leave you stronger and happier than ever before! This workbook will help you start.
About the Author
Mark S. Rye, PhD, received his PhD in clinical psychology from Bowling Green State University. His research interests are in the field of positive psychology, studying how forgiveness and gratitude influence mental health. He is leading a project in the Boston area titled Coping With Divorce: A Journey Toward Forgiveness. Rye's own research has found that forgiveness of an ex-spouse is related a lower incidence of depression and a greater sense of well-being. Crystal Dea Moore, PhD, obtained her PhD in social welfare from the University at Albany, State University of New York. She is professor and chair of the department of social work at Skidmore College. She resides in Latham, NY.
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