Synopses & Reviews
Is your child stuck in the middle of a high-conflict divorce? In Getting Through My Parentsand#39; Divorce, two psychologists and experts in parental alienation offer a fun and engaging workbook to help kids work through stressful or confusing emotions and feel safe and lovedandmdash;no matter what.
Divorce is never easy. But for kids who have parents in conflict with one another, or where one parent is so hostile that he or she is actively trying to undermine the kidsandrsquo; relationship with the other parent, divorce can be unbearable. This workbook is designed especially for kids, and includes helpful tips and exercises to help them deal with the negative impact of custody disputes, understand and identify their feelings, learn to cope with stress and other complex emotions, and feel secure.
Written by two leading experts in child psychology, this easy-to-use workbook includes a number of helpful suggestions to guide children though a number of possible scenarios, such as what to do if one parent says mean and untrue things about the other parent; what to do if a parent asks them to keep secrets from another parent; or what to do if one parent attempts to replace the other parent with a new spouse.
If you have or know a child that is dealing with a difficult divorce, this workbook will give them the tools needed to move past loyalty conflicts and the difficult emotions that can arise when parents donandrsquo;t get along.
Review
"Parenting expert Baker (
Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome) and psychotherapist Fine have created a workbook specifically for divorced co-parents who sense they are losing the battle for their childrens love, loyalty, and respect. The book features tools, strategies, written exercises, and dialogues designed to help reduce the exs negative influence and 'delay, if not prevent' a child from choosing one parent over another. This guide helps co-parents recognize and understand the signs and symptoms of loyalty struggles and their insidious effects, while offering remedies based in positive and mindful parenting to help fashion a safe and loving environment. The authors suggest the familiar protocol of positive parenting as a way to strengthen the parent-child bond, and, when coupled with mindfulness techniques for personal awareness, this protocol can help unhappy, stressed parents handle the animosity and negative influence of their ex. Like a guerilla manual, the book arms co-parents with tools for coping with a variety of scenarios, including when the ex is sending poisonous messages, interfering with contact and communication, 'erasing and replacing,' encouraging the child to betray confidences and trust, or undermining the co-parents authority. Genuinely helpful, this guide tackles a sensitive problem and shows how to diffuse it with accepted and proven psychotherapeutic practices."
Publishers Weekly
Review
In recent years, the study of parental alienation has become an enormously complex topic addressed in hundreds of books, scholarly chapters, and papers in academic journals. A parent who finds herself or himself alienated from a previously loving child may quickly feel overwhelmed by the vast amount of professional and amateur advice that is available. Amy J. L. Baker and Paul R. Fine have found a way to help alienated parents quicklyby focusing on five specific strategies by which a former spouse may cause parental alienation.”
William Bernet, MD, professor emeritus at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, Nashville, TN
Review
This book provides the reader with much needed support as well as specific and helpful advice about how to parent a child who is involved in his parents conflict. Every child deserves to love and be loved by both parents, and this book will help targeted parents achieve that goal.”
Jason Patric, actor, targeted father, and founder of Stand Up for Gus
Review
Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex is an excellent book for any parent dealing with a high-conflict co-parent in a separation or divorce. Baker and Fine accurately describe the hidden patterns of manipulation by a toxic ex that can lead to an alienated childone who wants to avoid the other parent. Most important, they teach what to do and what not to do to protect a healthy parent-child relationship for the other parent regardless of these manipulations. This is a minefield and they provide supportive strategies and numerous tips for a reasonable parent to useincluding how to avoid getting angry, giving up, or giving in.”
Bill Eddy, lawyer, therapist, and author of Dont Alienate the Kids!: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce (www.HighConflictInstitute.com)
Review
While
Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex is technically not classified as a workbook, divorce
is work, and often becomes a full time job. Amy J. L. Baker and Paul R. Fine have developed a chapter-by-chapter playbook for parents in any stage of divorce. The book encourages parents to bring strong parenting skills to the table while trying to create a solid foundation for the identity, growth, and maturity of their children. This dynamic duo does it again for so many parents struggling to find their way through the maze of co-parenting after divorce. Bravo!”
Jill Egizii, president of the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization, USA
Review
This is a long awaited book! Fruzzetti is a master clinician who does rigorous science in order to provide those of us doing treatment and those in need of it something that works. This is hope for all of us working with individuals, couples and families who suffer. Thank you, Alan, for this timely and important work.
—Suzanne Witterholt, MD, distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Associationand director of Ananda Services for Dialectical Behavior Therapy in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Minnesota
Review
andquot;Amy J. L. Baker and Katherine C. Andre have written this practical and child-friendly book to help children learn resilience for coping with divorce and other difficult interpersonal situations. They focus on the real experiences of divorce from the standpoint of the child. Through brief, structured written activities and a tone of kindness and support, they offer your child a chance to work through their experiences with self-awareness and a sense of competence.andrdquo;
andmdash;Jeffrey Zimmerman, PhD, ABPP, psychologist who specializes in working with families of divorce, mediator and collaborative divorce professional, and coauthor of The Co-parenting Survival Guide and Adult Children of Divorce
Review
andldquo;
Getting Through My Parentsandrsquo; Divorce is a very important and timely book. Written by two experts in the field, this book provides detailed, hands-on guidance for children struggling to make sense of the often chaotic and overwhelming feelings that can result from divorce. I highly recommend it.andrdquo;
andmdash;Joshua Coleman, PhD, psychologist and author of When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Donandrsquo;t Get Along
Review
andldquo;This is an excellent workbook for children whose parents are separated or divorced.and#160;As I read
Getting Through My Parentsandrsquo; Divorce,and#160;I wondered how this book will come into the hands of youngsters who will benefit from it.and#160;Perhaps therapists or school counselors will give this book to children from divorced families. The authors, Amy J. L. Baker and Katherine C. Andre, suggest that a parent could give this workbook to his or her child andand#160;perhaps help the child with some of the activities.and#160;Even better, letandrsquo;s hope that in some families, the divorcing parents will join together in providing this book to their childandmdash;and all of them will find valuable lessons in its pages.andrdquo;
andmdash;William Bernet, MD, Professor Emeritus in the department of psychiatry at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, Nashville, TN
Review
andldquo;Divorce is a family crisis.
Getting Through My Parentsandrsquo; Divorce is a series of lessons for children to strengthen their resolve, learn effective coping skills, and avoid the pitfalls of self-blame and divided loyalties.andrdquo;
andmdash;Douglas Darnell, PhD, CEO of PsyCare, Inc., and author of Divorce Casualties
Review
andldquo;Baker and Andre have created a workbook that speaks to children who are experiencing the sadness, anger, and confusion of divorce. Oftentimes a childandrsquo;s voice is silenced through the divorce process.
Getting Through My Parentsandrsquo; Divorce allows their voices to be heard loud and clear. This workbook should be in the hands of every child of divorce in hopes that it will contribute to healing, which will produce mature, responsible adults. This workbook will fill children with confidence, trust, and self-esteem. This would be a priceless gift for any child who could benefit from the character-building skills offered by the authors. [This book] will change a life today so that we all have a better tomorrow!andrdquo;
andmdash;Mayor Jill Egizii, president of the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization
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Synopsis
After a messy divorce, its all too common for one parent to try and undermine the relationship between their children and their ex. In Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex, readers are offered a positive parenting approach to coping with a hostile ex-spouse. Inside, mothers and fathers who are dealing with a toxic ex will learn how to avoid parental alienation, as well as techniques for talking to their children in a way that fosters open and honest response. Divorce can be painful, but with the right tools parents can protect their kids and build stronger, more trusting relationships.
Synopsis
You aren't what you think For teens with negative thinking habits, a licensed psychologist and a health journalist offer cognitive restructuring--a simple and effective cognitive behavioral approach to help you break free from the nine most common negative thinking habits that typically result in feeling sad, worried, angry, and stressed.
This workbook offers a powerful technique called cognitive restructuring to help you reframe your thoughts, regulate your emotions, become a more flexible thinker, and stop letting your thoughts define who you are and how you feel. You'll learn to target the nine specific kinds of negative thinking habits that can cause you to worry or feel bad, such as the I can't habit, the doom and gloom habit, the all or nothing habit, the jumping to conclusions habit, and more
Each chapter will walk you through simple explanations of each kind of negative thought, and offers real-life examples--as well as the sorts of behaviors, emotions, and bodily sensations that might be expected. You'll also gain an understanding of unhelpful or unrealistic thoughts, how to challenge them, how to replace them with more realistic and helpful thoughts, and an action plan for moving forward.
By recognizing these negative thinking habits, you'll feel more in control and less anxious and sad. Most importantly, you'll be able to see yourself and the world more clearly. Your thoughts don't have to define who you are and how you experience life. The transdiagnostic approach in this book will show you how to kick negative thinking habits to the curb for good
Synopsis
Protect your child from alienation and loyalty conflicts.
During and after a difficult divorce, it's easy for your relationship with your kids to become strained--especially if you are dealing with a toxic ex who bad-mouths you in front of your children, accuses you of being a bad parent, and even attempts to "replace" you with a new partner in your children's lives. Your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed--and you may feel powerless. But there is help.
In this guide, you'll discover a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn the best ways to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts, how to avoid parental alienation syndrome, and techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters honesty and trust. Co-parenting with a toxic ex can be challenging, but with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever.
Synopsis
There's no question about it: your children are the most important thing in your life. But if you have gone through a messy divorce, your relationship with your children may become strained if you have to deal with a toxic ex. Your ex may bad-mouth you in front of the kids, accuse you of being a bad parent, and even attempt to replace you in the childrens lives with a new partner. As a result, your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressedand you may feel powerless. In Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex, a nationally recognized parenting expert offers you a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn to avoid the most common mistakes of coparenting, how to avoid parental alienation syndrome,” and effective techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters open and honest response. In addition, youll learn how to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts between you and your ex-spouse.
Divorce is often painful, especially if your ex habitually tries to undermine your relationship with your children. But with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever. This book can show you how. You can find out more about this book and about author Amy J.L. Baker at www.amyjlbaker.com.
Synopsis
Divorce is often stressful for kids. But for kids who have parents in conflict with one another, or where one parent is so hostile that he or she is actively trying to undermine the kids' relationship with the other parent, divorce can be unbearable. In But I Love You Both, two psychologists and experts in parental alienation offer a workbook for kids who are feeling torn between two parents in a hostile divorce. The book also deals with the negative impact of custody disputes and helps children understand and identify their feelings, learn to cope with stress and other complex emotions, and feel safe and loved.
Synopsis
This is the first book to use dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help high-conflict couples regulate out-of-control emotions, tolerate distressing situations, and resolve problemsan approach proven to help even the most highly reactive couples build healthy relationships.
Synopsis
You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples—pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame—need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a "high-conflict" couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship.
The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.
About the Author
Amy J. L. Baker, PhD, is a national expert on parental alienation and has written a seminal book on the topic, Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome, published by W. W. Norton and Company. In addition to conducting trainings around the country for parents as well as legal and mental health professionals, Baker has written dozens of scholarly articles on topics related to parent/child relationships and has appeared on national TV, including Good Morning America, CNN, and The Joy Behar Show. She has been quoted in The New York Times and U.S. News and World Report, among other print media outlets. Baker graduated from Barnard College, summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa. She has a PhD in human development from Teachers College, Columbia University.
Katherine C. Andre, PhD, is a licensed psychologist in clinical practice for over twenty years. She has worked extensively with families to prevent parental alienation before it begins and to strengthen parent/child relationships with both parents. As a court-appointed child custody director and mediator, she has supervised other mediators and helped parents to develop healthy parenting plans in their childrenandrsquo;s best interest. She holds a bimonthly class on parenting that teaches parents the importance of keeping their children out of conflict. She has published articles on parental alienation in the Annals of the American Psychotherapy Association and The California Psychologist, and has made contributions on parental alienation to other publications. She graduated from the College of William and Mary, and received her PhD from the University of Georgia with an area of specialization in child neuropsychology.