Synopses & Reviews
Some of us are just naturals when it comes to parenting. But the rest of us wish that parenting came with operating instructions.
Now it does. The result of thirty years of scientific research, Alan Kazdin’s The Everyday Parenting Toolkit will guide you through every developmental stage—from toddler to teenager—and make you a more relaxed, confident, and competent parent. The rigorously tested strategies in this book will not only help change your child’s behavior, they will also decrease the stress in family relations, increase your joy in parenting, and help build a more nurturing home life that can directly improve children's mental and physical health and school success.
You won’t find abstract philosophy here. You’ll see every point, every strategy, illustrated with real-life examples. From toilet training to teaching a child to accept “no” without a tantrum all the way up to struggles over cellphones and curfew; from swiftly and gently correcting problem behaviors to fostering positive character qualities like respect for others, honesty, good friendships, or altruism, The Everyday Parenting Toolkit will surprise you time and again with counterintuitive advice that works.
For years parents have been coming to Dr. Kazdin’s Parenting Center at Yale University for help with the challenges, large and small, of child rearing. With the publication of this book, every reader can gain access to that advice and to parenting know-how that transforms families.
"Renowned Yale University psychology professor and child psychiatrist Kazdin (The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child), director of the Yale Parenting Center, offers practical strategies to help parents manage everyday behavioral problems. His science-based method may surprise some readers, particularly those who favor a more authoritarian approach. The core of the book focuses on the 'ABC's': antecedents, behavior, and consequences. According to Kazdin, parents can effect desired behavior in their children by offering choices and speaking in pleasant tones. Failure to offer a choice such as letting a child decide to do homework before or after dinner decreases the likelihood of compliance, as do hints of stress or desperation in a parent's voice. As Kazdin shows, praise when given in a specific manner at a specific time is more effective than trinkets or other rewards; he also suggests that a two-week punishment for an offense (e.g. taking a bike away for that time) is no more effective than a two-day punishment. In fact, he asserts that punishment is 'wildly overrated' and works only when it's mild and paired with positive reinforcement. Featuring plenty of concrete examples and useful strategies, this book will help parents trying to nurture well-behaved kids. (June)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
A lifesaving handbook for parents of children who are occasionally, or too often, out of control” Includes a bound-in twenty-minute DVD featuring Dr. Kazdin and his staff illustrating key concepts of the Kazdin Method Most child-behavior books are filled with advice that sounds reasonable, fits with what parents already believe about child-rearing, and isas Dr. Kazdin proves guaranteed to fail. The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child makes available to parents for the first time Dr. Kazdins proven programone backed up by some of the most long-term and respected research devoted to any therapy for children.
Kazdin shatters decades worth of accumulated myths about tantrums, time-outs, punishments fitting the crime, and much more.With the practicality of Ferber and the warmth of Brazelton, Kazdin leads parents through every step of the Kazdin Method in actionhow to use tone of voice, when and how to touch, how to lead your child in a practice” session, how to adjust your approach for different-age children, how to involve siblings, and more.The program is temporary, but the results are permanentfor very young children, adolescents, and even beyond.
Effective strategies for everyday child-rearing challenges from Dr. Alan Kazdin, director of the Yale Parenting Center—world-renowned as the gold-standard for distilling the most useful parenting research from recent years into simple strategies that really work
Effective strategies for everyday parenting challenges, based on the latest research, from the director of the world-renowned Yale Parenting Center The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child
was called “THE place to look for evidence-based advice about how to become an exemplary parent.”* Now, in The Everyday Parenting Toolkit,
Dr. Kazdin focuses on highly effective responses to the more routine behaviors of children that are challenges to most parents much of the time.
Other parenting books—including best-selling ones—frequently depend on idiosyncratic and often dead wrong ideas about effective parenting. Dr. Kazdin delivers the most sound and useful parenting research from recent years, transforming it into easy, everyday strategies. No parenting book does a better job helping parents break down and then fix behaviors—one clear, realistic step at a time—from getting ready for school on time, to eating more than one or two foods, to limiting computer and video game time. Even to developing interests and qualities like respect for others, honesty, and good friendships.
Potentially family-transforming parenting know-how from our “most important living child developmental psychologist.” * (Martin Seligman)
Alan Kazdins The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child
is the gold standard for research-backed advice on being a better parent for difficult children. But what about children who are not “defiant”? Now, in The Everyday Parenting Toolkit
, Dr. Kazdin addresses how parents can deal with the routine challenges that come with raising a child.
Dr. Kazdins methods are based on the most up-to-date research and are implemented in real-world ways. From getting ready for school on time to expanding the palates of picky eaters to limiting computer time, no parenting book does a better job at helping parents understand and fix problematic behaviors. With The Everyday Parenting Toolkit, Dr. Kazdin helps transform parenting and helps develop ideal child-parent relationships.
“Alan Kazdin delivers the evidence-based, gold-standard method for parents who want simple, effective responses to the everyday challenging behaviors of their children.” —Martin E. P. Seligman, author of Flourish
and The Optimistic Child
Alan Kazdins The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child is the gold standard for research-backed advice on being a better parent for difficult children. But what about children who are not “defiant”? Now, in The Everyday Parenting Toolkit, Dr. Kazdin addresses how parents can deal with the routine challenges that come with raising a child.
Dr. Kazdins methods are based on the most up-to-date research and are implemented in real-world ways. These are the problems that plague parents on a day-to-day basis: from getting ready for school on time to expanding the palates of picky eaters to limiting computer time, no parenting book does a better job at helping parents understand and correct problematic behaviors. Dr. Kazdins methods foster lifelong positive character traits such as respectfulness, honesty, kindness, and altruism. With The Everyday Parenting Toolkit, Dr. Kazdin helps transform parenting and helps develop ideal child-parent relationships.
“Jam-packed with solid advice any parent can use.” —BookPage
“A useful guide to eliminating stress, improving communication and providing a more nurturing family environment.” —Kirkus Reviews
About the Author
Alan E. Kazdin, Ph.D., is the John M. Musser Professor of Psychology and Child Psychiatry at Yale University and Director of the Yale Parenting Center. His work on parenting and childrearing has been featured on NPR, PBS, the BBC, and he has appeared on the Today Show, Good Morning America, ABC News, 20/20, and Dr. Phil. He frequently lectures to parents, educators, and business groups interested in learning the latest research and techniques of childrearing.
Carlo Rotella writes regularly for the New York Times Magazine, and he is a columnist for the Boston Globe. His work has also appeared in the New Yorker, Harper's, Slate, and The Best American Essays, and on WGBH. He is director of American Studies and professor of English at Boston College.
Table of Contents
1. Laying the Groundwork for Good Behavior: A for Antecedents 1
2. What You Want to Change: B for Behavior 24
3. Reinforcing Good Behavior: C for Consequences 50
4. Decreasing Misbehavior: More on Consequences 78
5. The Routines of Family Life: Creating the Context for Success 113
6. The Kazdin Method: In Real Life 142
Additional Resources 180