Synopses & Reviews
In Eye of My Heart
, twenty-seven smart, gutsy writers explode myths and stereotypes and tell the whole crazy, complicated truth about being a grandmother in today's world. Among the contributors:
Anne Roiphe learns—the hard way—to keep her mouth shut and her opinions to herself.
Elizabeth Berg marvels at witnessing her child give birth to her child.
Beverly Donofrio makes amends for her shortcomings as a teenage mother.
Judith Viorst exposes the high-stakes competition for Most Fabulous Grandchild.
Jill Nelson grapples with mother-daughter tensions triggered by the birth of her grandson.
Judith Guest confesses her failed attempt to emulate her own saintly grandmother.
Bharati Mukherjee transcends her strict Hindu upbringing to embrace her adopted Chinese grand-daughters.
Lynn Lauber finds joy in grandmotherhood that she missed out on as a mother.
Sallie Tisdale pays a high price—financially and emotionally—for her fast-growing brood of grandkids.
Ellen Gilchrist reveals how grandparenthood has eased her fear of death.
Molly Giles is spurned by her toddler granddaughter during a trip to Paris.
Susan Shreve finally accepts that she's the grandmother, not the mother.
Roxana Robinson realizes, with relief, that she doesn't have to worry so much anymore.
Abigail Thomas plots her escape when she can't bear to bake one more cake.
Letty Cottin Pogrebin longs to leave a lasting impression on her grandchildren.
Mary Pipher explores the primal role of grandmothers in a fast-changing world.
In this groundbreaking collection, you will encounter the real stories that usually go untold. Free of platitudes and clichés, the essays in Eye of My Heart are linked by a common thread: a love for grandchildren that knows no bounds, despite inescapable obstacles and limitations.
"Women who have achieved grandmotherly status will appreciate this engaging, honest volume of essays by 26 writers who articulate shared emotions about their grandchildren. All describe a new form of love different from the love they felt for their own children. Editor Graham (Women Who Run with the Poodles) calls it ' a besotted state.' For some contributors, grandmotherhood is a promise of genetic continuity, while others value the freedom to play and indulge. Many essays may be sentimental, but they're also insightful and candid, sometimes painfully so. Notably, one pseudonymous writer lashes out at her cruelly withholding daughter-in-law; another describes raising her mentally disturbed daughter's unstable son. Perhaps most disturbingly, Sallie Tisdale portrays a dire situation created by her financially irresponsible adopted son and his girlfriend, who keep producing more children. Yet humor abounds. In an irreverent piece, Abigail Thomas writes of fleeing a clan reunion by scheduling an appointment with her gynecologist. Judith Viorst confronts the taboo topic of jockeying for love with the other set of grandparents. All learn the lesson best expressed by Anne Roiphe: 'Seal your lips.'" Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
“Spry and unsentimental. . . . Truth telling with dollops of love.” O magazine
“Insightful and candid, sometimes painfully so. . . . Women who have achieved grandmotherly status will appreciate this engaging, honest volume of essays by 26 writers who articulate shared emotions about their grandchildren.” Publishers Weekly
“So many different perspectives and vantage points are woven seamlessly that no matter what their personal relationship to the word ‘grandmother is, readers will find much to make them laugh out loudand also to break their hearts.” Christian Science Monitor
“In illuminating, unsentimental essays, 27 writers offer up insights on the tricky art of grandmothering.” People
“These clear-eyed essays offer humor and insight as they take on the multigenerational lives many of us now lead.”
—Cokie Roberts, author of We Are Our Mothers Daughters
In the New York Times bestseller Eye of My Heart, edited by Barbara Graham, 27 writers reveal the hidden pleasures and perils of being a grandmother—in essays that are honest, eye-opening, poignant, witty, and provocative. With contributions by Elizabeth Berg, Judith Guest, Mary Pipher, Judith Viorst, and a host of other acclaimed literary artists representing a wide range of voices and experiences, Eye of My Heart is a clear-eyed celebration of a grand institution and an all-important epoch in a womans life.
About the Author
Barbara Graham is the author of Women Who Run with the Poodles, an acclaimed satire of the self-help movement. She is a frequent contributor to O: The Oprah Magazineand has also written for Glamour, More, National Geographic Traveler, Redbook, Time, and Vogue, as well as other publications. Her plays have been produced in New York and around the country. Graham lives with her husband in Washington, D.C., and has one grandchild.