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Do you feel that your family is not what it used to be, or what it has the potential to be? Do you worry that the parenting decisions you're making today may be scarring your child for life? Do you sometimes feel you are in a tug-of-war with the world over who will shape your child's values and beliefs?
With Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family, Dr. Phil offers a new classic on family life -- and gives parents real answers and a plan for being the most positive and effective parents possible. Starting right now, you can begin to make realistic choices and take day-to-day actions that can make your family phenomenal. You must decide that you will lead your family with strength and love and that peace and joy are not just for the people next door or on TV. They're for your family.
In Family First, Dr. Phil gives it to parents straight: even in this fast-paced world your family should be the center of your life and your child's life. Parenting is the most important and noble act you will ever undertake, yet American families are threatened like never before from the inside as well as the outside -- many of us fight too much, don't get involved enough in our children's lives, or get bogged down in life's daily struggles instead of keeping our eye on the big picture of our family's well-being.
Dr. Phil has been working with families for over twenty-five years to help them repair the fissures that have fractured their home lives. In Family First, he provides a proven action plan to help parents determine the strengths and weaknesses of their parenting style. His 7 Tools for Purposeful Parenting cover the most important elements for any parent: parenting for success -- for the purpose of raising cooperative, caring, and competent children. Exercises, scripts, assessments, solutions for specific problems, and precise directions for implementing the steps you need to take are all included in this landmark work.
Dr. Phil shows parents how to make changes now -- how to put a stop to your children's tantrums; talk to them about peer pressure or self-esteem; instill values like integrity, honesty, and respect for other people; and bring order back to your house. If you want your child to have a happy, fulfilled life, you must open your eyes to the crucial role you play in his or her development.
Most important, Dr. Phil's new book offers you and your family hope -- for a phenomenal home life now, and a productive, fulfilling future for your children. As Dr. Phil says, you are not just raising children, you are also raising adults, and everything you do today impacts what kind of adult your child will become. You are building the future.
"In the jacket copy for his latest work, the author and Oprah spin-off phenomenon Dr. Phil is presented not merely as an exceptional family psychologist but as 'one of the world's foremost experts in the field of human functioning.' This sweeping term sounds about right given a 2.3 million first printing. Even more than his previous self-help offering, The Ultimate Weight Solution, this book reads as if it is meant to be the guidebook to a national movement. 'When I say "phenomenal family," I'm talking about a family where each member is a star in their own right,' he writes. In his trademark, just-folks speaking style (all his work reads as if it is spoken rather than written), Dr. Phil isolates five factors that define such a family: a nurturing and abuse-free environment, stable daily routines and the ability to celebrate meaningful family rituals, communicate and manage crises. The ultimate measure of success of any family, according to McGraw, is the ability of each member to live according to their 'authenticity.' Comparing our innate individuality to a pair of brand new sneakers that gets scuffed up in the course of bearing witness to parental fighting, being bullied at school or ignored at home, the author proceeds to give us a tool belt full of power tools designed to help kids and families be all they are meant to be. Based on the very sound principle that parents must be willing to really parent, each tool of talking and listening, disciplining, and guiding by example (for purposes of book structuring, they are divided into seven), is backed by McGraw's rock-bottom, no-two-ways-about-it confidence that nurturing our children and strengthening our families is the most important work that any of us can be doing. This plain-spoken guide will convince millions that this is so."
Publishers Weekly (Starred Review) (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
The American family is in crisis, and in his most powerful book to date, Dr. Phil calls upon all parents in America to open their eyes and recognize the importance of families. In his trademark to-the-point style, Dr. Phil outlines the issues and lays out practical solutions for bringing families back together.
About the Author
Phillip C. McGraw, PH. D.
, the #1 New York Times
bestselling author of The Ultimate Weight Solution, Self Matters, Life Strategies
and Relationship Rescue
. He is the host of the nationally syndicated, daily one-hour series Dr. Phil
. Dr. Phil
is one of the worldís foremost experts in the field of human functioning. He and his family currently live in Los Angeles, California.
Table of Contents
Letter to Parents
PART ONE: CREATING YOUR PHENOMENAL FAMILY
1 Family Matters
2 Special Strategies for Divorced and Blended Families
3 The Five Factors for a Phenomenal Family
4 Your Family Legacy
5 Your Parenting Style
6 Powering Up
PART TWO: 7 TOOLS FOR PURPOSEFUL PARENTING
7 Tool 1: Parenting with Purpose: Define Success
8 Tool 2: Parenting with Clarity: Talk, Listen and Learn
9 Tool 3: Parenting by Negotiation: Partner with Your Child
10 Tool 4: Parenting with Currency: Performance and Payoffs
11 Tool 5: Parenting Through Change: Shake It Up to Break It Up
12 Tool 6: Parenting in Harmony: Put Your House in Order
13 Tool 7: Parenting by Example: Walk the Talk