Synopses & Reviews
“I said I was sorry!” Real life involves real people who make real mistakes. Sometimes saying “I’m sorry” just isn’t enough. The need for apologies impacts all human relationships. The good news is that you can learn the art of apology. Through their research and interactions with hundreds of individuals, counselors Dr. Jennifer Thomas and Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the revolutionary
The Five Love Languages, have discovered five fundamental aspects or “languages” of an apology:
- Expressing regret -- “I am sorry.”
- Accepting responsibility -- “I was wrong.”
- Making restitution -- “What can I do to make it right?”
- Genuinely repenting -- “I’ll try not to do that again.”
- Requesting forgiveness -- “Will you please forgive me?”
In
The Five Languages of Apology, you will learn how to recognize your own primary apology language while speaking the languages of those you love. Understanding and applying the five languages of an apology will greatly enhance
all of your relationships.
Includes the Apology Personal Profile and a Group Study GuideSynopsis
When our granddaughter Davy Grace was five years old, her mother and father allowed her to spend a special week with her grandparents. Karolyn and I were elated. The week was great fun. But one experience is indelibly printed in my memory. Karolyn has a special drawer where she keeps “stickers” for the grandchildren. Davy Grace, of course, knew about this special drawer and asked her grandmother if she could have some stickers. Karolyn told her that she could have three; any three she chose.An hour or two later, we began to see stickers all over the house. Davy Grace had taken the entire sheet of stickers and placed them randomly. Karolyn said to her, “I thought I told you to take only three stickers, but you have taken the whole sheet.”Davy Grace stood in silence as her grandmother continued. “You disobeyed Grandmother.”Tears cascaded down Davy Grace’s face as she said, “I need somebody to forgive me.”I shall never forget those words nor the pain which I saw in her young face. My tears joined her tears as I embraced her and said, “Honey, all of us need somebody to forgive us.” —From The Five Languages of Apology
Synopsis
When our granddaughter Davy Grace was five years old, her mother and father allowed her to spend a special week with her grandparents. Karolyn and I were elated. The week was great fun. But one experience is indelibly printed in my memory. Karolyn has a special drawer where she keeps “stickers” for the grandchildren. Davy Grace, of course, knew about this special drawer and asked her grandmother if she could have some stickers. Karolyn told her that she could have three; any three she chose. An hour or two later, we began to see stickers all over the house. Davy Grace had taken the entire sheet of stickers and placed them randomly. Karolyn said to her, “I thought I told you to take only three stickers, but you have taken the whole sheet.” Davy Grace stood in silence as her grandmother continued. “You disobeyed Grandmother.” Tears cascaded down Davy Grace’s face as she said, “I need somebody to forgive me.” I shall never forget those words nor the pain which I saw in her young face. My tears joined her tears as I embraced her and said, “Honey, all of us need somebody to forgive us.” —From The Five Languages of Apology
Synopsis
How many ways are there to say ¿I¿m sorry?¿ Well, it
depends on your language of apology.
Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and
express the words and gestures of apology in a different language.
Best-selling author Gary Chapman has teamed with counselor
Jennifer Thomas to explore the different languages of apology and
reach a whole new audience with this easy to follow and quickly
applicable communication tool.
Synopsis
Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it's not just a matter of will--it's a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships. The authors detail proven techniques for giving and receiving effective apologies.
You'll learn the five languages of apology:
- Expressing regret
- Accepting responsibility
- Making restitution
- Genuinely repenting
- Requesting forgiveness
Hardcover edition.
About the Author
GARY CHAPMAN, PhD, is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling
The 5 Love Languages. With over 30 years of counseling experience, he has the uncanny ability to hold a mirror up to human behavior, showing readers not just where they go wrong, but also how to grow and move forward. Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University. For more information visit his website at www.5lovelanguages.com.
JENNIFER M. THOMAS, Ph.D., is a graduate of the University of Virginia and psychologist with Associates in Christian Counseling in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. Jennifer counsels on a wide variety of individual and couples' issues from communication to trauma recovery and spiritual healing and is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. Jennifer is co-author of The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Gary Chapman. Visit her website at www.drjenthomas.com. Jennifer and her husband, J.T., serve together on the marriage team at their home church and have three children.
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1. Why Apologize?
2. Apology Langauge #1: Expressing Regret
3. Apology Langauge #2: Accepting Responsibility
4. Apology Langauge #3: Making Restitution
5. Apology Langauge #4: Genuinely Repenting
6. Apology Langauge #5: Requesting Forgiveness
7. Discovering Your Primary Apology Language
8. Apologizing Is A Choice