Synopses & Reviews
It’s not easy to be a teen girl, and it’s definitely not easy parenting one. Parents everywhere struggle to respond appropriately to challenging behavior, hit-or-miss communication, and fluctuating moods commonly exhibited by teenage girls. More than previous generations, today’s teen girls face a daunting range of stressors that put them at risk for a range of serious issues, including self-harming behaviors, substance abuse, eating disorders, anxiety, and depression. Is it any wonder that parents are overwhelmed?
Parenting a Teen Girl is a guide for busy parents who want bottom-line information and tips that make sense—and work. It also offers scripts to improve communication, and exercises to navigate stressful interactions with skill and compassion. Whether your teen girl is struggling with academic pressure, social difficulties, physical self-care, or technology overload, this book offers practical advice to help you connect with your teen girl. Parents and teens alike can enjoy a positive connection once common parent-teen pitfalls are replaced with solid understanding and strategies that work. In this book, you will learn how to:
- Maximize your teen’s healthy development
- Understand what underlies her moods and behavior
- Implement strategies for positive results
- Communicate effectively about difficult issues
- Enjoy and appreciate time with your teen daughter
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"You are the parent. If you can change and do what this wonderful book invites you to change and do, then you can give the most precious gift to your childtransforming your child's problem" into a strength. Please accept the gift of this bookfor your child's sake."
Alvin R. Mahrer, PhD, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada, and author of The Complete Guide to Experiential Psychotherapy
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"Honos-Webb grabbed my scattered attention quickly and held it with this enlightening book, without resorting to drugs. I nervously jumped to sections such as ‘The Medical Model of Disease' and ‘Why Medications May Not Be the Answer' and found them balanced and enlightening. Then I calmed down, read the rest, and learned a lot. You will too . . . if you can pay attention."
—Thomas Greening, professor of psychology at Saybrook Graduate School and editor of the Journal of Humanistic Psychology
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"Honos-Webb's book is a healing gift to children with ADHD and their parents, teachers, psychologists, and doctors. Taken to heart, her message could transform the lives of these children, their families, and even the educational system. The Gift of ADHD is a must-read for anyone whose life is touched by the unique children who are given this diagnosis. Even adults with this diagnosis should read this book to find a radically new way of understanding themselves and celebrating their own gifts."
Lane Arye, PhD, author of Unintentional Music: Releasing Your Deepest Creativity and internationally known process-oriented therapist and teacher
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The author of this book is witty, wise, and happily, very practical. Using her own experience with her daughter, as well as her training as a psychologist, she guides us through the shoals of parenting and reassures us that while parenting a daughter is not smooth sailing, it is possible with a little helpand this book is quite helpful. For example, almost all parents of teenagers are going to get carved up by their child from time to time, and it's nice to know that the constant criticism is part of the teen's passage rather than one's own terminal defects. Also welcome are the many chapter tips, including the ones that help us understand obsessive behavior with phones and texting. The book is not only extremely sensible, it's terrifically readable. You get to laugh at yourself, and learn valuable information at the same time.”
Pepper Schwartz, PhD, American sociologist and sexologist, professor at the University of Washington in Seattle, WA, and author of 201 Questions to Ask Your Kids
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“In Parenting a Teen Girl, Lucie Hemmen brings expertise, common sense, and a no-drama approach to the challenge of raising girls with respect and love. Her ideas are clear, realistic, and powerful, and her steady guidance will help you bring confidence and skill to your dealings with teen girls or, for that matter, with anyone. Her teachings are so universal and wise that we could all do well to learn from them, no matter the age or gender of the people we interact with.”
—Frank Andrews, PhD, professor at the University of California, Santa Cruz and author of The Art and Practice of Loving
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“Parenting a Teen Girl busts through many myths and helps parents stop catastrophizing and start connecting with their teen girls. Face your fears head-on and learn concrete steps to tackle common problems such as oversharing in social media and moodiness. You can learn to stop complaining about your teen girl and starting connecting to her."
—Lara Honos-Webb, PhD, author of The Gift of Adult ADD and Listening to Depression
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“This is the instruction book we always wished our children came with. Hemmen provides straight talk, practical tips, and an empathetic understanding of the challenges that teen girls and parents face today.”
—Lisa M. Schab, LCSW, author of The Anxiety Workbook for Teens and Beyond the Blues
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Parenting a Teen Girl will help parents understand their daughters behavior and experiences and create healthier connections with them. Through real-life examples and reflective exercises, Hemmen encourages parents to increase their self-awareness and teaches them to choose their responses rather than react to the chaos that life with a teen daughter can create.”
Sheri Van Dijk, MSW, RSW, psychotherapist and author of Dont Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens, The Bipolar Workbook for Teens, and Calming the Emotional Storm
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“As an Internet expert, educator of teens and parents, and mother of two girls, I appreciate Hemmen's coverage of the issues most relevant to raising teen girls in today's world. The book hits all the most important targets without lapsing into long, academically dense discourse. Readers won't get that overwhelmed and hopeless feeling regarding the state of today's teenage girls! In fact, the book energizes as it informs. I love that the book offers practical tips parents can plug in immediately—especially regarding how to guide teens in the tech world. Hemmen's compassion, understanding, and humor make the book a quick and valuable read.”
—Lori Getz, Internet safety expert and founder of Cyber Education Consultants
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“In
Mindful Parenting for ADHD, Mark Bertin provides an essential guide for parents and clinicians. Parents of children with ADHD and clinicians will benefit from Bertin’s relatable writing style, examples, research, and easy-to-accomplish suggestions and recommendations. Most importantly, Bertin gives families and clinicians hope.”
—Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, PhD, NCC, LMHC, psychotherapist and author of five books on ADHD, including 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD (www.stephaniesarkis.com)
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Mindful Parenting for ADHD represents a rare blend: a concise and accurate guide to what ADHD is (and is not), an evidence-based resource for families on behavior management and skill enhancement tools for their children, and an introduction to the kinds of mindful practices (including but not limited to meditation) that both calm and focus parents and model thoughtful strategies for their offspring. Difficult and important issues—the adolescent years, working with schools, and decisions about medication—are addressed head on. Sensitive, easy to read, and profound, this book will resonate with families everywhere who hope for both action and reflection in raising their challenging children.”
—Stephen Hinshaw, PhD, professor of psychology at University of California, Berkeley, professor of psychiatry at University of California, San Francisco, and author of The ADHD Explosion: Myths, Medication, Money, and Today’s Push for Performance
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“This innovative book combines the best of what is known about ADHD, its deficits in executive functioning, and the types of science-based management strategies they require, as well as possible medications to combine with them, along with the latest practices for incorporating mindfulness into everyday life situations, such as parenting. Parents of children with ADHD struggle not only with managing their children but also with far higher levels of parenting stress, depression, anxiety, and marital strife than do typical parents. This combination of mindfulness practices with more traditional behavioral and medical treatments for ADHD is likely to prove exceptionally useful for parents for both stress reduction and improved parent-child relationships.”
—Russell A. Barkley, PhD, clinical professor of psychiatry and pediatrics, Medical University of South Carolina
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“A practical, hands-on set of tools for parenting kids diagnosed with ADHD, Mark Bertin’s book will be a great support to many. Mark provides clear and simple ways to bring mindfulness practice to bear on navigating the ups and downs of family life. He offers the valuable perspective that, while life cannot, by nature, be perfect, it is possible to do the work of raising your child to live well and happily.”
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness
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“At last, a pediatrician who understands ADHD
and can communicate what parents need to manage it effectively. This workbook is like the world’s best office visit—only this time, you can take it home with you and use it when you need it!”
—Elaine Taylor-Klaus, CPCC, PCC, parenting coach, parent educator, and cofounder of ImpactADHD.com
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“Mark Bertin offers a compassionate guide for parents to navigate the challenging journey of raising a child or teen with ADHD. He reminds them to start by taking care of themselves with mindfulness and compassion, which then allows them to share their full wisdom and loving presence for the benefit of their children. I will be wholeheartedly recommending this book to all of the families in my practice who are living with ADHD, so that they can do more than ‘just live with it,’ but thrive!”
—Dzung X. Vo, MD, pediatrician and adolescent medicine specialist, author of The Mindful Teen
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Mindful Parenting for ADHD is a gift to lost and overwhelmed parents. Bertin offers a clear, compassionate, comprehensive, and practical guide to parents struggling to find the calm within the seeming chaos of life with a child with ADHD, along with succinct tools for managing it.”
—Christopher Willard, PsyD, author of Child’s Mind and Growing Up Mindful, Cambridge Health Alliance/Harvard Medical School
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“This book is the ultimate gold mine of understanding your child with ADHD in a new and insightful way. Bertin explains how practicing mindfulness changes the way you as a parent see your child through the lens of truly understanding the ADHD experience. You will learn to act instead of react, understand instead of judge, and stay calm instead of banging your head against the wall. Best of all, Bertin gives you specific, easy-to-follow tools for dealing with challenging behaviors. It all comes down to being mindful, and understanding the ADHD brain and the behaviors that are borne from that. A fabulous book for parents looking for a better way to manage their challenging children, as well as for professionals working with these children. I’ll be recommending this one to my clients!”
—Terry Matlen, ACSW, director of www.ADDconsults.com, and author of The Queen of Distraction and Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD
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“As the parent of a child with ADHD, and as a holistic physician and mindfulness coach who supports many children and families living with ADHD, I find this book an invaluable resource. Every chapter offers simple, doable, and transformative mindfulness practices; practical, achievable action items; grounded perspective; a long-term view; and most importantly, hope and compassion for children and parents living with ADHD.”
—Amy Saltzman, MD, director of the Association for Mindfulness in Education and author of A Still Quiet Place
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“Having ADHD can not only be difficult for the child who suffers the consequences of his or her behaviors, but can also place great stress on the family. Parents don’t understand why their child acts the way he does, and because they are unsure, they often react in a way that may not always be helpful. That’s where Mark Bertin’s new book
Mindful Parenting for ADHD comes in! Within its pages, parents will grow to better understand ADHD and find the tools necessary to respond to their child’s behaviors with compassion, as well as structure, using a focused, mindful approach.
Mindful Parenting for ADHD underscores the need for parents to take care of themselves in order to meet the challenges of parenting a child with ADHD with calm, kindness, and consistency. Written in a reassuring style and filled with easy-to-use worksheets that cover a myriad of topics from setting limits to improving communication or making the most of homework, I wish all parents of children with ADHD could receive the gifts offered in this wonderful book! They and their children would all be the better for it!”
—Patricia O. Quinn, MD, developmental pediatrician, Washington, DC, coauthor of Putting on the Brakes: Understanding and Taking Control of Your ADD or ADHD and Understanding Girls with ADHD,andauthor of Attention, Girls! A Guide to Learn All About Your AD/HD
Synopsis
In the second edition of The Gift of ADHD, Lara Honos-Webb offers strategies for shifting parents' understanding of their child's attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) to focus on the positive traits of this diagnosis. The book also provides step-by-step cognitive behavioral exercises for helping children function effectively and improving the parent-child relationship.
Synopsis
As a parent, you already know that your child has many gifts. What you may not know is that attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) related symptomsthe very qualities that lead him or her to act out and distract othersmay be among them.
This second edition of The Gift of ADHD includes compelling new research indicating that the impulses that lead your child to act exuberantly may correspond with unusual levels of creativity and a heightened capacity for insight into the feelings and emotions of others. Could it be that ADHD is not a hindrance, but an asset in our fast-paced digital age?
ADHD expert Lara Honos-Webb presents the evidence for this revolutionary concept and explains how you can help your child develop control over inattentive, hyperactive behavior and enhance the five gifts of ADHD: creativity, attunement to nature, interpersonal intuition, energetic enthusiasm, and emotional sensitivity. Filled with easy skill-building activities you and your child can do together, this book will help your child transform problematic symptoms into strengths, then build the self-esteem they need to let those gifts shine.
Synopsis
Parenting a Teen Girl offers parents effective tips and strategies for understanding the dramatic, confusing highs and lows of adolescence and improving communication with their teenage daughters. Drawn from positive psychology, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and the author’s years of experience, the skills in this workbook will help parents guide their daughters past the challenges of adolescence and toward healthier and more productive behaviors.
Synopsis
Parents of children with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) face many unique daily challenges. Kids with ADHD are often inattentive, hyperactive, and impulsiveand as a result, parents can become frustrated or stressed out. In Mindful Parenting for ADHD, a pediatrician presents a proven-effective program for helping both parents and kids with ADHD stay calm in the present moment. Parents will also learn how to let go of judgments, reasonably assess their child's strengths and weaknesses, lower stress levels for both themselves and their child, communicate effectively, and cultivate balance and harmony at home and at school.
Synopsis
Written by a pediatrician and based in proven-effective mindfulness techniques, this book will help you and your child with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) keep calm, flexible, and in control.
If you are a parent of a child with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you probably face many unique daily challenges. Kids with ADHD are often inattentive, hyperactive, and impulsive, since ADHD affects all of self-management and self-regulation. As a result, you might become chronically frustrated or stressed out, which makes caring for ADHD that much harder. In this book, a developmental pediatrician presents a proven-effective program for helping both you and your child with ADHD stay cool and collected while remaining flexible, resilient, and mindful.
Bertin addresses the various symptoms of ADHD using non-technical language and a user-friendly format. In addition, he offers guidelines to help you assess your child's strengths and weaknesses, create plans for building skills and managing specific challenges, lower stress levels for both yourself and your child, communicate effectively, and cultivate balance and harmony at home and at school.
If you are a parent, caregiver, or mental health professional, this book provides a valuable guide.
About the Author
Lara Honos-Webb, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Walnut Creek, CA. She is author of The Gift of ADHD, The Gift of ADHD Activity Book, Listening to Depression, and more than twenty-five scholarly articles. Her work has been featured in Newsweek, the Wall Street Journal, Publisher's Weekly, and many newspapers across the country. She has appeared on national radio and television programs. Honos-Webb specializes in the treatment of ADHD, depression, and the psychology of pregnancy and motherhood and speaks regularly on these topics.
She completed a two-year postdoctoral research fellowship at the University of California, San Francisco, and has been an assistant professor teaching graduate Foreword writer Scott M. Shannon, MD, is a founding member of the American Holistic Medical Association and served as president from 2000-2001. He started the country's first academically based integrative clinic in child psychiatry at the University of Colorado Children's Hospital in Denver, CO, where he works as assistant clinical professor. He is author of the book Please Don't Label My Child and was recently named president-elect of the American Board of Holistic and Integrative Medicine.
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Foreword
Preface to the Second Edition
Preface to the First Edition
Chapter 1: Difference Is Not a Disorder or a Deficit
Chapter 2: How You Can Transform Your Child
Chapter 3: Reclaiming Self-Esteem for Your Child
Chapter 4: How to Become Your Child’s Advocate, Not Apologist
Chapter 5: The Gift of Creativity
Chapter 6: Showing the Way: Ecological Consciousness
Chapter 7: Interpersonal Intuition
Chapter 8: Your Exuberant Child: Reframing Hyperactivity
Chapter 9: Your Emotionally Expressive Child
Chapter 10: How to Navigate the Educational and Mental Health Systems
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