Synopses & Reviews
Although marriage is for grown-ups, very few of us are grown up when we marry. Here, the bestselling author of andlt;Iandgt;Suddenly Sixtyandlt;/Iandgt; and andlt;Iandgt;Necessary Lossesandlt;/Iandgt; presents her life-affirming perspective on the joys, heartaches, difficulties, and possibilities of a grown-up marriage -- and no, that's not an oxymoron! andlt;BRandgt; Featuring interviews with married women and men, the findings of couples therapists, the truths offered by literature and movies, and a bemused exploration of her own marriage, Judith Viorst illuminates the issues couples struggle with from "I do" through "till death do us part." Examining marital rivalry, marital manners, marital sex (extramarital, too), marital fighting and apologies, what kids do for (and to) marriage, and the boredom and bliss of everyday married life, Viorst leaves no marital stone unturned. From the early years when we wonder "Who andlt;Iandgt;isandlt;/Iandgt; this person?" and "What am I andlt;Iandgt;doingandlt;/Iandgt; here?" to the realities of divorce, remarriage, and growing older (and old) together, Viorst offers insights and advice with honesty, humanity, and humor -- all the while recognizing how tough it is to be married and, when it works, how very precious it can be.
Bestselling author Viorst uses her abundant gifts to consider how marriage pulls, cajoles, and commands people to grow up. By viewing marriage "as a problem we have to solve again and again," she offers a fresh view of both the mirages of marriage and how readers can adjust their expectations.
About the Author
is the bestselling author of Suddenly Sixty, Forever Fifty, Necessary Losses,
and several other books. She is also the author of sixteen children's books, including the classic Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.
She was born and brought up in New Jersey, graduated from Rutgers University (and, later, from the Washington Psychoanalytic Institute), lived in Greenwich Village -- where she worked as a garment-district model, unappreciated secretary, and children's book editor -- and has spent the last forty-two years in Washington, D.C., after marrying Milton Viorst, a political writer. (They have achieved the almost-impossible: working in adjoining offices at home and eating three meals a day together for most of those years.) They have three married-with-children sons -- Anthony, a lawyer; Nick, in law school; and Alexander, who does community development lending at a bank. They also have, so far, four grandchildren: Miranda, Brandeis, Olivia, and Nathaniel.