Synopses & Reviews
Keeping the love in your marriage requires skills that most of us have not been taught in school or at home. Many people think that the secret to marriage is FINDING the love of your life. Of greater importance is KEEPING the love in your life from that moment on.
This book's premise is that love, like self-esteem, doesn't go away; it just gets blocked by negative experiences, comments and beliefs that make the love difficult to feel. When we learn how to remove those obstacles, to let go of the past, to move beyond our egos to the heart of the matter and align our actions with our goals, we can reawaken the love and keep our marriage growing.
HOW TO LOVE YOUR MARRIAGE provides:
** Methods for solving problems and being your own best relationship advisor
** Empowering "How to" steps to take even if your partner is not willing to take them with you
** Simple "Love Tips" that you can use immediately
** The EROS formula for creating powerful, loving relationships
** Tools for managing your emotions -- and those of your spouse
** An understanding of self-esteem's impact on a relationship and a relationship's impact on self-esteem
** Self-directed exercises and questions
Review
"...In How to Love Your Marriage, Hogan describes proactive steps we can take to create the marriage we desirea marriage that can be a mutually supportive classroom, playground, and safe sanctuary.” Marriages provide the perfect arena for us to learn, love, laugh, and serve,” Hogan says, explaining that, in fact, relationships are the only place we can get such valuable feedback on how we present ourselves to the world.
According to Hogan, most of us have approached our relationships from an ego standpoint, bringing out needy and judgmental qualities which overshadow who we really are. When there is a difference (gap) between who you really are at your core (your soul) and how you are showing up (your ego), your self-esteem suffersand so do your relationships,” she says.
Fortunately, those barriers to positive self-esteem can be removed, and Hogans message is: its up to you to make those changes. She applies the EROS equation: Event + Response = Outcome and Solutions,” a formula that shows your power lies not in trying to change events, but rather in changing your responses to those events.
To help you do that, the book features Love Tips,” exercises, factoids, assessment tools and other practical ways to apply Hogans wisdom. There are also matter-of-fact chapters like What to Do When the Grass is Greener Over There,” and How to Be Your Own Relationship Advisor.”
And of course, you wont want to skip the enticing excerpts from her With Aloha” column: Dear Eve, I am about to return to a relationship with a man I am married to but have lived away from for the last five years
”; Dear Eve, Every aspect of our relationship is great, except I have overpowering feelings of jealousy that are hard to control
”; Dear Eve, I really want to have a relationship with somebody, but I am insecure about my body
Is there love out there for me, or will I have to wait until Im perfect?”
Find out the answersand a whole lot morein How to Love Your Marriage.
5 out of 5 Shakas — Sky Barnhart, Maui Weekly.com, Bookshelf
Synopsis
A garden needs constant nurturing to stay healthy, and so does a marriage. As people change and adapt to new circumstances and phases of life, marriages and other close relationships are stressed and can suffer. Relationship expert Eve Hogan explains that love, like self-esteem, doesn't go away, but is blocked by negative experiences, comments, and beliefs that make the love difficult to feel.
How to Love Your Marriage helps couples identify and overcome those obstacles, and provides an eye-opening understanding of self-esteem's impact on a relationship and of a relationship's impact on self-esteem. Full of practical information, including advice for managing emotions, simple tips that can be used immediately, and empowering steps to take even with an unwilling partner, the book gives readers the skills and tools needed to keep a marriage alive and growing.