Synopses & Reviews
The ultimate and#8220;parenting bibleand#8221; (andlt;iandgt;The Boston Globeandlt;/iandgt;) with a new Forewordand#8212;and available as an eBook for the first timeand#8212;a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the #1 andlt;iandgt;New York Timesandlt;/iandgt; bestselling authors.andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish and#8220;are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generationand#8221; (andlt;iandgt;Parentandlt;/iandgt; andlt;iandgt;Magazineandlt;/iandgt;).andnbsp; Now, this bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the authorand#8217;s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to: andlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointmentandlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Express your strong feelings without being hurtfulandlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Engage your childand#8217;s willing cooperationandlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Set firm limits and maintain goodwillandlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-disciplineandlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praiseandlt;BRandgt;and#183;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp;andnbsp; Resolve family conflicts peacefullyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.andnbsp;
30th Anniversary Edition
Updated with new insights from the next generation
You can stop fighting with your children! Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children—and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this thirtieth-anniversary edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based on feedback theyve received over the years.
Their methods of communication—illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action—offer innovative ways to solve common problems. Youll learn how to:
* Cope with your childs negative feelings—frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.
* Express your anger without being hurtful
* Engage your childs willing cooperation
* Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
* Use alternatives to punishment
* Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Effective strategies for everyday child-rearing challenges from Dr. Alan Kazdin, director of the Yale Parenting Center—world-renown as the gold-standard for distilling the most useful parenting research from recent years into simple strategies that really work.
Some of us are just naturals when it comes to parenting. But the rest of us wish that parenting came with operating instructions.
Now it does. The result of thirty years of scientific research, Alan Kazdin’s The Everyday Parenting Toolkit will guide you through every developmental stage—from toddler to teenager—and make you a more relaxed, confident, and competent parent. The rigorously tested strategies in this book will not only help change your child’s behavior, they will also decrease the stress in family relations, increase your joy in parenting, and help build a more nurturing home life that can directly improve children's mental and physical health and school success.
You won’t find abstract philosophy here. You’ll see every point, every strategy, illustrated with real-life examples. From toilet training to teaching a child to accept “no” without a tantrum all the way up to struggles over cellphones and curfew; from swiftly and gently correcting problem behaviors to fostering positive character qualities like respect for others, honesty, good friendships, or altruism, The Everyday Parenting Toolkit will surprise you time and again with counterintuitive advice that works.
For years parents have been coming to Dr. Kazdin’s Parenting Center at Yale University for help with the challenges, large and small, of child rearing. With the publication of this book, every reader can gain access to that advice and to parenting know-how that transforms families.
About the Author
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are internationally acclaimed experts on communication between adults and children. Their first book, Liberated Parents/Liberated Children
, received the Christopher Award for “literary achievement affirming the highest values of the human spirit.” Their subsequent books, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
and the #1 New York Times
bestseller Siblings Without Rivalry
, have sold over three million copies and have been translated into over thirty languages. Their book, How to Talk So Kids Can Learn - At Home and in School
, was cited by Child Magazine
as the “best book of the year for excellence in family issues in education.” The authors’ group workshop programs and videos produced by PBS are currently being used by parent and teacher groups around the world to improve relationships with children. Their most recent book, How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk
, tackles the tough problems of the teenage years.
Both authors studied with the late child psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott, and are former members of the faculty of the New School for Social Research in New York and The Family Life Institute of Long Island University. In addition to their frequent lectures throughout the United States, Canada and abroad, they have appeared on every major television talk show from Oprah to Good Morning America. They currently reside in Long Island, New York and each is the parent of three children.
Table of Contents
1. Laying the Groundwork for Good Behavior: A for Antecedents 1
2. What You Want to Change: B for Behavior 24
3. Reinforcing Good Behavior: C for Consequences 50
4. Decreasing Misbehavior: More on Consequences 78
5. The Routines of Family Life: Creating the Context for Success 113
6. The Kazdin Method: In Real Life 142
Additional Resources 180